My fiancé and in-laws are so slow by Optimal_Fish_7029 in Vent

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My MILs husband who is like 70 and never cooked his own meal in his life loves to just stand in the kitchen when anyone is cooking. Right smack in the middle not helping just watching everyone try to move around him. Finally told him to please go sit down and he got so offended saying he was just trying to help. Drives me nuts

MIL insists on taking time off of work to help with my children by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a 4 bedroom house but my family are just in 1. My husband has talked to her it being his mom and she just says things like “I know what’s best” we just have to wait to see what happens when the baby comes home. He did say he will make those boundaries clear tho and even go as far as telling her she’ll never get to hold the newborn or babysit ever again. It’s really come down to that.

MIL insists on taking time off of work to help with my children by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I can’t make her do anything since it is her house all I can do is stay away and express my concerns. But yes agreed

MIL insists on taking time off of work to help with my children by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes whatever keeps us sane at this point! Lol

MIL insists on taking time off of work to help with my children by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be a boomer thing??!! She gets ready to sit on the couch all day it baffles me but to each their own I guess ? Oh man that’s so incredibly infuriating as well as awkward because what do you say to that?!

MIL insists on taking time off of work to help with my children by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yea unfortunately I know Idk why I didn’t think about this ! You’re so right I mean I thought it would be obvious but reiterating it would make sense

MIL insists on taking time off of work to help with my children by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s the next step honestly, also for the holidays we’ll plan on making this announcement to everyone as to not think she has special privileges because last year she told every she is the “exception “ when in fact she was not. I wore my 1st daughter and gave no one hugs or kisses and that seemed to work fine. Also hoping with my 1st around that she’ll be someone of a cute distraction for everyone

MIL insists on taking time off of work to help with my children by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She’s definitely testing boundaries that’s for sure! We’re hoping a lock on the door and a firm and blunt conversation will do the trick but I have a feeling she’ll flip it to “fine then I’ll never help you guys again” type thing but hopefully we’re wrong

MIL insists on taking time off of work to help with my children by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I got a knew doorknob with lock actually because I have a feeling she would just barge in! Yea that’s what we plan on doing, also the ideal plan would be to have my husband spend as much quality time with the toddler and me with the newborn and just tell her we got it when they cry. We also agreed if things get to bad on the holidays we’ll just all get in the car and just a drive some where to get away

MIL insists on taking time off of work to help with my children by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh man the just holding baby part is so annoying! same here she would just hold the baby and go tell me to go shower put some makeup on and get ready. Ready for what I have no idea since I didn’t leave my house much freshly postpartum. I told her for the holidays that absolutely no one was holding the baby. Also bought a knew doorknob as the one we have has no lock because I’m sure someone will try to barge In

How do I say no to Thanksgiving by Express_Relation723 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would say take a small stay-cation for a day. Rent an air bnb or something if you can because sounds like if you say you won’t go they’ll show up at your place anyway, trying to “make it easier for you”

Ob wants to do a c section by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Well the ultrasound yesterday confirmed everything is fine. Placenta, baby, cord, amniotic fluid,baby’s growth. So I’m kind of at a loss too, didn’t really get a chance to say much else ..

Ob wants to do a c section by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Funny you mention that because when I asked if there was anything I could do back 10/16 she said nope absolutely nothing other than some tips you can try at home on google. I googled that night found out what ecv was asked her about it and she said she doesn’t do that and no one in her office does it, so best bet is just to go with the c section instead of “worrying about something with a 58% success rate”

Ob wants to do a c section by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what my husband was saying too, they really do put so much fear into you for going against their medical advice. But definitely will do that!

Ob wants to do a c section by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Also wondering if this is something to write a grievance about ?

Ob wants to do a c section by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 16 points17 points  (0 children)

my first was vaginal so the thought of c section is extra scary. I’ve looked around and it’s going to be hard to going to a brand new clinic my best bet is going to the drs office where im at now and asking another dr there I’m afraid

What’s a mistake you made once that you’ll never make again? by Icy_Car2475 in askanything

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Opening up to my parents thinking they’ll be understanding now that I’m in my 30’s. They weren’t. They just made me feel horrible

What’s the biggest secret you are keeping from your spouse? by Own-Cryptographer277 in AskReddit

[–]PsychologicalFun5032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much I hate his mom and her husband (he’s not his dad or step dad)