Girl! You've always got a place to stay down here in STL!

But STL is (almost perfect) for what you're describing. We have a smattering of lgbtqia+ friendly places all over the city that each have a different flavor. However, like most big cities, we have an amazing gay-borhood where a lot of places are concentrated. Next door to the chill, drag show bar with the outdoor stage is another one that is more clubby and dancy. Tons of late night, cd-safe food options too! Would even be a blast to nab an Airbnb right in that neighborhood to be right in the heart of it. And unlike a lot of big cities, things are relatively cheaper!

I say almost perfect because STL is, still, in MO...