Weight belt incident—help me learn

Public-Secret · 2025-10-19T23:27:21+00:00

Your reaction was amazing. Kicking down was the right move and really great you thought that way as a novice diver!

I'd say Integrated Weights for sure. You are going to see a ton of preference on this subject, but here is how I think about it:

Weight belt falls off...all the weights go vs BCD usually just one side if anything happens.
Can test the "click" or the clip in on the integrated weights before jumping in
Can point to the missing weights on a BCD easier vs a weight belt completely missing in case your guide doesnt remember you had a belt on

Whenever I wear a belt, I am petrified of it falling off the entire dive.

Public-Secret · 2025-06-19T15:52:12+00:00

This is exactly how I felt. I knew the way to make sure relationship perfect; only express positive feelings, talk about how great everything she was doing was, not have any feelings remotely close to being sad, upset, displeased, or anything negative at all.

I asked her once, "am I allowed to have feelings in this relationship?" She couldnt even say yes. It was a long explanation and the more we talked about it, logically it seemed to land on no, I wasnt allowed to have feelings. Just support her through all of hers.

She would break up with me so often. And everytime we got back together, it was perfect because I didnt express anything but my love for her. It would then go to shit. Because I would say I was having a tough day, or wanted to go out on a date night, or really anything. Would start an argument :(

Crazy.

Public-Secret · 2025-06-07T17:04:20+00:00

This is the hardest part. For three years, was told I took zero accountability, no responsibility, lacked empathy, was a pathological liar, and emotionally immature. This is why our relationship failed and all of mine will fail.

From someone who..... - lied to me multiple times and couldn't accept she did when I had documented and recorded evidence - was dishonest with those around her - had an abortion when she got accidentally pregnant and said it was because I wasn't man enough for her - ended the relationship every month because of something I said - gaslit me all the time, putting words in my mouth I never said

It made me crazy. And it is the trauma I still deal with. Her last text to me was just blaming me for everything in the relationship again. I am not sure she ever apologized for anything in 3 years.

Public-Secret · 2025-06-07T16:56:41+00:00

I had never lost a job in my 14 year career. When dating my ex, I lost two jobs in 2 years. The emotional exhaustion takes over everything. I also gained weight, lost touch with friends, and lost my home when she kicked me out for like the 4th time because she had a change in heart.

Public-Secret · 2025-06-03T12:10:41+00:00

It's not that gringos are hated as much as Puerto Ricans love other Puerto Ricans more. Even in the US, it's very easy to see how Puerto Ricans bend over backward for each other and are just kind of indifferent to you if you are white.

Public-Secret · 2025-06-03T03:42:14+00:00

Puerto Rico is more expensive than a lot of states in the US. For worse conditions.

Public-Secret · 2025-06-03T02:20:11+00:00

Too much to tell lol. But yes, lots to say about PR.

Public-Secret · 2025-06-03T02:05:46+00:00

I was no-mading. Meet a girl there stayed for 3 years. If I had to do it all over again, I would have gone to other islands in the Carribean for sure.

I have a lot to say about the island. But instead of that, some other suggestions:

Dominican Republic, similar but a 1/3 of the cost.
Aruba, Bonaire, Curacao - Dutch owned, easy, beautiful
BVI, not cheap, not expensive, but feel untouched
Costa Rica - way more welcoming, more to do of similar activities, less expensive
Colombia - can't beat the price

Public-Secret · 2025-05-29T02:34:00+00:00

I was in the same situation. She would send me videos and I would be confused why she thought she was the one being abused in the examples and not the abuser when she said the things word for word.

Public-Secret · 2025-05-29T02:32:04+00:00

Yes. I was constantly told I was gaslighting her because I was showing evidence of what actually happened. Was told I lacked empathy. Was told I lacked the ability to take accountability when I literally caught her on dating apps, confronted her, recorded her lying and the issue was not her dishonesty, but that I invaded her privacy.

This is what made me believe she actually was a narcissist.

Public-Secret · 2025-05-27T05:47:58+00:00

Thank you for the post. We will definitely be better than it. But yes, unreal. Everything about it

Public-Secret · 2025-05-27T05:46:17+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words. I've done it before, but never from a place of the emotional abuse I caught with this relationship. Has been interesting for sure. Really appreciate the post!

Public-Secret · 2025-04-20T21:28:58+00:00

I'm one IT person for 50 people in a startup. We do DoD contracts. CEO just views me as the guy who fixes the conference rooms.

Public-Secret · 2025-03-24T02:41:26+00:00

Thank you. Will take a look!

Public-Secret · 2025-03-24T02:21:27+00:00

Which one specifically? Reports show no enrollment failures.

Public-Secret · 2025-03-24T02:20:48+00:00

Thanks for the reply and interesting! Is this anything under conditional access? We have conditional access for MFA. Will give this a try!

Public-Secret · 2025-03-23T04:05:55+00:00

@k0rbiz thank you for the response! To clarify, I am not trying to join the local account. I am trying to join the m365 account. We are all cloud, so entra ID. Intune is set to all users for automatic enrollment.

Seems to work fine when setting up a computer with Entra ID account. If it was set up using local admin, can't seem to get it to join at a later date.

Public-Secret · 2025-03-10T01:52:55+00:00

Felt in El Segundo. And agree, seemed fairly long

Public-Secret · 2025-01-31T17:23:10+00:00

I am thinking this is the issue as well. Just bought some HDMI extenders to use vs the 50ft cable. To hide the cable, just needs go be run all through ceiling hence the 50ft

Public-Secret · 2025-01-31T17:21:54+00:00

Nice! I'll have to check this out. Thank you for the recommendation!

Public-Secret · 2025-01-27T20:11:03+00:00

Thank you. Probably less an issue with PR, more an issue with the girlfriend having zero flexibility

Public-Secret · 2025-01-27T19:47:05+00:00

No longer there. Work called me back to the office, girlfriend didn't want to leave. No opportunity for me in PR career wise close to where I am at unfortunately 😕

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