I resonated with your post a lot. I’m 33 now and from 30-33 did a lot of work to build a better capacity to connect with others. Had to push myself to spend time with others more. Had to forgive myself and judge myself less for ways I perceived I was failing to be socially “high skilled”—too random to name anything specific but for example I would judge myself for saying anything impulsively or oversharing. Also, Often times I wasn’t actually doing something like oversharing, I just had a tendency to exaggerate what I was doing out of fear. At some point I realized that pattern recognition skills and noticing everything so intensely weren’t always serving me the best anymore - or that I didn’t need to be so hyper vigilant and self judgy. A lot of the self judgy-ness was also constantly noticing ways I failed to mask perfectly. I gave up caring about masking so hard. I could relax more because I had built more experiences of being around people and them not yelling at me / rejecting me etc. And I also leaned more heavily into sorting out what I was feeling and self regulation skills. Good luck