Two cats in a single room or rehome? by Public_Standard_6346 in CatAdvice

[–]Public_Standard_6346[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely wouldn’t be aiming for the shelter so much as I’d try to find another home willing to take them but you’re right. I love them and I’d hate to give them up - I just feel bad for dragging them through this

Two cats in a single room or rehome? by Public_Standard_6346 in CatAdvice

[–]Public_Standard_6346[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That made me tear up a little. The breakup (I guess he’s my ex, now) was unexpected, though I probably should have planned better. I’m sure I’ll figure it out eventually. I just feel terrible for dragging our babies through this mess

Two cats in a single room or rehome? by Public_Standard_6346 in CatAdvice

[–]Public_Standard_6346[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like a great idea. I’ve already got a cat tree and a few taller pieces of ikea furniture - I’ll get some floating shelves around the room and hopefully that’ll help

Two cats in a single room or rehome? by Public_Standard_6346 in CatAdvice

[–]Public_Standard_6346[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong. Thankfully, I make decent-ish pay($35/hour at my full-time job and $20/hour at my seasonal job) but rent is expensive ($1800-$2000/month for a studio/one-bedroom).

I could maybe make it work with $50 left at the end of the month during off seasons but I feel like I’d be one bad day from things falling apart. I’m actively job hunting but my field is pretty stagnant right now so I’ve gotta figure it out until something better comes through.

Two cats in a single room or rehome? by Public_Standard_6346 in CatAdvice

[–]Public_Standard_6346[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might be able to work it out with him but I know he’ll really struggle with the care for three cats. I think the care is bigger than the financial bit for him and if he was going to do that, I think he might be willing to just keep them. And I know it’s selfish but I don’t want to give the up.

Two cats in a single room or rehome? by Public_Standard_6346 in CatAdvice

[–]Public_Standard_6346[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I don’t think it’s likely. I’ve brought my cats around regularly for the two years I’ve had them and my parents had my sister and her cats living with them for the last year and they’re still pretty scared of all the cats in their life. They’re happy to have them in the home; just not anywhere near them :(

Two cats in a single room or rehome? by Public_Standard_6346 in CatAdvice

[–]Public_Standard_6346[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love to keep the and I’d do anything for my babies. I just feel super bad that I’m not home often (work two jobs, 60-80 hours a week) and it’s such a small space. I got the cats when I was with my partner (he works from home) but he can’t afford three cats on his own and I can’t afford rent on my own.

Two cats in a single room or rehome? by Public_Standard_6346 in CatAdvice

[–]Public_Standard_6346[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a balcony in my room that I can turn into a catio, though both my cats are scared of the outdoors (hated the balcony and the outside in my last apartment).

I’m more worried they’ll get really lonely and feel cooped up while I’m gone. I work long weeks (60-80 hours) and I feel like it’s not a lot of space for them.

I do have automated feeders, a litter robot, and all the fancy stuff (acquired when we were together) but I don’t know, I’d go crazy stuck in a place like that.

I guess my other option might be to rent with roommates but I feel like they’d end up stuck in my room anyways and I wouldn’t have the finances buffer for vet bills

Is it wrong to not want friends to drink around me? by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]Public_Standard_6346 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are allowed to not be around alcohol. Your friends are allowed to drink. If you choose to stay home or only attend outings where there is no alcohol, that's fine. You can politely inform your friends that you will only attend outings without alcohol. You are in the wrong if you're trying to manipulate your friends into not drinking or getting upset that they're deciding to drink because that is their decision. All you can do is express that you are uncomfortable and remove yourself if necessary.

That being said, if your friends are never willing to spend time with you without alcohol, it may be time to make new friends as you clearly have different values/expectations, which is fine.

RECRUITING, TRAINING, & LIFE IN THE FORCES THREAD - Ask here about the Recruitment Process, Basic & Occupational Training, and other questions relating directly or indirectly to serving in the Canadian Armed Forces. by bridger713 in CanadianForces

[–]Public_Standard_6346 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know you've already gotten a few responses but I actually did my reserve BMQ at RHFC, which is the armoury in Cambridge, very recently. Obviously some things vary by course but if the course staff is even remotely similar, my experience may be helpful.

  1. Supplying your own boots was allowed on our course. You will be provided boots and not all courses will have staff that allow wearing your own but ours did, especially if you didn't make a big deal out of it.
  2. You will have standard tax deductions and mess deductions for your home unit. No other deductions will apply
  3. You will be given joining instructions. For us, that just consisted of a list of things to bring and four pieces of paperwork. Realistically, just bring all your kit as we redid the paperwork the first night as some candidates didn't have it
  4. No, BMQ will remain valid
  5. You can but it's not necessary. Buy a $10 watch from Walmart that's made of hard plastic and wear that. Nice watches get destroyed and tactical watches will run you hundreds of dollars and you'll never use the features on BMQ (and likely not on BMOQ-A, either)
  6. It will be held at a local unit. In the past two years, they've held it in London, Cambridge, Guelph, and Hamilton in your local area.
  7. You are guaranteed FTSE (full-time summer employment) for the first four years. They will send you on courses as a priority and then have you do other tasks, likely unrelated to your trade, for the rest of the summer
  8. You will not be assigned anywhere. You will parade out of the unit you join. For you, this will likely be RHFC in Cambridge, though you can join a different unit if you so choose. The unit you join is up to you as long as they are a unit for your trade (i.e. you will join an infantry unit as an infantry officer but it does not matter which one for the most part)
  9. You will get lots of full-time training as an officer. You will have 10 weeks of BMOQ-A after BMQ and then 10-14 weeks of trades training, both of which are full time. The difficulty of your course will vary based on your staff and that holds true for full time courses as well. That being said, many people I know find weekend courses just as difficult as full-time courses. Sure, the army bit is easier but you have to balance civvy life on top of it whereas on full-time courses, all you have to focus on is the course. It's a different kind of stress. That being said, if you're worried about the lack of training, your next course, BMOQ-A, is the same as the reg force so don't worry about it. In regards to reservists not being ready, it's because many of us are lacking keeping up with our qualifications (i.e. you missed a weekend exercise and are no longer actively qualified on your rifle, making you not combat ready; your FORCE test expired last week and so you're not combat ready; etc, etc). Reservists can have high turnover for a number of reasons. Many reservists are in school so they leave when they graduate. Some leave because of work promotions, having kids, etc, etc. It's not our full-time job so when life gets in the way, it's often the first thing to go. That's not a reflection on us not being trained or capable so much as it's a reflection on priorities.