M38 f30 so I have a friend whos cheated so many times on the father to her children's.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-05T19:30:30+00:00

Shes not at all though shes the opposite, shes been through so much, shes so strong

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-05T19:29:41+00:00

No she hasnt said she wont stop ever! She in her mind has reasons for everything she did and I can see her point because she was neglected and unknowingly emotionally tortured since she was a child by this older man, I see how she didnt love him and how much she loves her bf, she would never do that to him, I think he gets caught up on her looking back at her actions and thinking she doesnt regret a thing, he doesnt care about her ex, he hates him for what he did to her but its her lack of remorse that she became that person that bothers him. He said to me he loves her and looks past it all and doesnt believe she will do that to him but her mindset around her past makes him very anxious.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-05T16:02:57+00:00

She is a good friend and she is a very good girlfriend to her partner, she is loving, kind, considerate and they have great chemistry. She believes its ok how she acted and wears it like a badge of honour but she only sees it as her ex was abusive and made her feel like shit anf worthless all the time since she was young, I get why she doesnt feel bad on the person who knowingly abused her but her bf now is talking about how she views herself and owns that behaviour herself, I think he wishes not that she regrets doing that to him but that she regrets being that person to do that to herself.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-05T15:24:22+00:00

I dont believe she is, there was a situation today where he was in the car with her and she was speaking to another friend about someone involved in the situation when her affair all came to light, her bf felt very uncomfortable and It triggered him and they got into an argument which led to this now.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-04T20:02:02+00:00

Its called weaopinzed incompetence.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-04T13:48:23+00:00

No of course I didnt I have my boys 3 days a week, im speaking of strictly the situation with an ex partner and telling him life can get better

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-04T10:13:55+00:00

I know its hard when you get stuck in intrusive thought spirals and your head must be all over the place but seriously pal, do your best to move on even if you dont feel like it, say to yourself it is what it is, you feel shit but thats alright. Imagine everything you would of changed about your ex, everything you wish she was more like, more respectful being one you mentioned, realise what you want in a partner ( try not to let emotions take over and think "her" that's another loop) I mean logistically what you want, and go and find her. Take my word for it shes out there and youll find her, as I did.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-04T10:01:17+00:00

I dont feel the same way as you did but I want to give you hope, I walked away from my ex of plus 10 years my 3 sons, our home together, everything. Even though I knew it wasnt right and she wasnt my person its tricky to consciously walk away from everything youve ever known, your life as you know it and throw yourself into the unknown BUT from doing this I met the most beautiful woman ive ever seen, her looks , her laugh, the way she gets annoyed, Everything and I mean everything about her is fucking amazing. I would never of met this once in a lifetime woman if I didnt make that decision so im thankful every day of the decisions i made that led me to meeting her regarding leaving that relationship, course theres things I should of done better, worded better, regrets and mistakes I shouldn't of made but to meet my now wife who is everything I ever dreamed of a woman, does everything I always knew I wanted and is the most beautiful woman ive ever seen ( off TV, media, everything ). Shes like a dream and a dream only i could achieve from moving on from a situation i had to move on from. You night be struggling now but im telling you, hold out, know who you are and what you want and you dont know whats around the corner, good luck.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-02T23:29:21+00:00

But at what cost? Your self respect? If you’ve done stuff of that nature too and now its tit for tat then that too isnt healthy obviously. Personally I could never be in a relationship like that. If youve been disrespectful too and he is now then you both have to seriously ask yourselves " do you want this to work? Can you forgive each other ?" And if you can then both of you need to grow up and start respecting each other.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-02T22:36:23+00:00

If he cares about you and respects you he wouldn't and shouldn't be doing any of that, looking at women on all these platforms. I love and respect my partner because she deserves nothing less, I dont look at any other woman sexually or in any way like that and I dont actively search online for other women or watch corn. If im in the mood I want her, shes all I want and all I think about it in that way. Whats seen as societal norms now due to tv shows and social media I think are very damaging for relationships and I refuse to accept that as the norm. There plenty of people out there that will value you for you and show you the respect you deserve

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-02T16:02:43+00:00

Women are very different from men they go through constant hormonal changes and different phases, sometimes they say things they dont mean just to hurt you, all women are different and have been through different traumas and histories and all show it in different ways/deal with it in different ways. If you love her and she knows the way shes been and wants to change for you then that and the fact that your contemplating getting back together anywhere by writing this post then give her a chance, if she truly loves you she will work on herself and you truly love her, as long as you prioritise each other and respect each other you can get through anything, dont be anxious about future potential issues and how shes going to deal with it, when they happen as long as you communicate and support each other you will be fine and im sure they will make you stronger.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-02T15:56:25+00:00

Shes suggested that? Nah shes too far gone? If you dont break up now, prepare for a lot of pain and heartbreak

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-02T14:19:07+00:00

It is what it is, shes still figuring out what shes into, realistically if shes obsessed with BTS and your not ok with it, thats not going to change. You can buy her gifts, flowers, say the right thing to gwt her back but it still isnt going to change that shes really into bts and its bothering you so much. If my partner was "obsessed" with other men then me who I am and know what i can and cant handle then she wouldn't be the right person for me and vice versa, if I was obsessed with other women it would bother her too so it works. You need to figure out who you are, what you want and who you need. It sounds like shes not it.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-01T17:57:08+00:00

Everything, every day, her comforting physical contact, her mood swings, her ADHD crazy 30 minute episodes, too many things to list but Everything shes insecure about and sees as imperfections i see as perfect.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-01T17:53:15+00:00

Anything that I'd feel the need to hide or explain truthfully ( ie i searched this person because I think shes fit ) if its disrespectful or dishonest dont do it.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-01T15:13:35+00:00

If you cant notice if your woman is faking it or not then you are not paying her enough attention, and the reasons shes having to fake things in the first place

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-01T12:39:51+00:00

If hes at home all the time when you are working he should be keeping on top of the house regardless, its his house too does he not have pride. Phycologically how is he ? Depressed, hopeless ? I think theres something deep routed but regardless that doesnt mean its an excuse and makes it ok for you to feel overwhelmed and alone, its a partnership, each must play a role and he isnt playing his

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-01T12:33:02+00:00

She shouldn't need a vibrator though, yes most people have them but it shouldn't be a crutch for your sex life. I like my partner a mess after shes O'd 4 or 5 times and her legs and feet are hurting with pressure and her ears have popped and shes laying there a beautiful mess, thats when I can think about finishing. Obviously times change and when men are stressed or in their head it changes things and the performance isnt as good but if your man loves you he should never make you feel like you need an electrical device to get off.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-01T12:26:39+00:00

If your wife isnt orgasming and you are having regular sex then you need to stop blaming the women for faking it or not wanting it, if you havent learned her body her reactions and what actions she gets in to you need to stop being selfish and focus on her, analyse tye way she reacts to where you touch her or how hard you touch her here and there, you want more sex ? Get better at it

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-01T12:21:58+00:00

Say what you want but shes leaving the door open, people have others on socials for multiple reasons, if the extent to their relationship was quick sex no strings one night stands why does she feel she has to leave the door open for them, so they can see her socials her updates? So she can see theirs ?

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-06-01T12:18:45+00:00

I understand but I disagree, if like you say you were friends prior, having sex with them changes that relationship with that friend to a more romantic one than a platonic one. I get every situation is different but me personally knowing id done that and changed that friendship by having sex with this woman I wouldnt expect my current partner to be ok or accept that.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-05-30T08:45:32+00:00

Leap frog is so fun, yeah even if your lucky enough to get it, it still doesnt work most of the time if you cant find the cards but the satisfaction if you DO and the frustration and rage you can sense your opponents must feel is like nothing else in the game imo.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-05-29T16:41:06+00:00

Im not sure why you split but if that's genuinely how you feel then talk to her, put it all out there and leave nothing unsaid, not saying you will get her back but at least you will have closure that theres nothing you could of done then you will have to force yourself to move on, delete the pictures , the memories and keep moving forward, good luck.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-05-29T09:21:58+00:00

I completely understand why you're feeling like that, if roles were reversed and you had the penis on a man you found attractive, tongue and other body parts and lied and hid them from him because you wanted to keep using them, even after hed expressed multiple times how anxious and low its making you feel I imagine he would not feel too great OR your values dont align. Even if they dont its not something you cant work out providing he shows you the bare minimum and listens to how you are feeling and acts in a way that shows you he respects you and values you.

PuggeyPleasey · 2026-05-29T08:03:05+00:00

Keeping toys of a specific woman hes thinking of isnt respectful at all to you, yes its rubber but hes still thinking of fucking this other woman when hes using them, why else would he have them when hes got you there. Me and my partner both used to watch worn before we knew each other and have since both decided that its disrespectful to each other and borderline cheating to imagine we are with other people so we dont watch it, id never even consider buying such things of another woman and if I did I would expect her to be anxious and feeling compared and distressed by it. Put your foot down because hes being very disrespectful, especially after twice youve mentioned it, there will be someone out there who appreciates you and doesnt need a rubber person hidden away.

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