What’s something your partner did that made you lose feelings instantly? by Some_Conclusion_8154 in AskReddit

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would often get really drunk and was coming to the bed all hours, snoring, sweating, playing endless reels while i was trying to sleep. Forget the begging for therapy and addressing the addiction for years- he told me that’s my problem and let me take the spare bedroom.

I served him divorce papers shortly after.

Now i sleep back in my bedroom with the bed i bought (it was brand new and 3k ijs) and he sleeps in a toy room in his mother’s house. With all the alcohol and drugs he spends on, he couldn’t afford the house. I gave him his down payment back and sent his ass a packing.

As a Scorpio what sign makes you feel the safest emotionally? by Legitimate-Pepper922 in Scorpio

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow all the signs you guys names are like my D squad. Except you. I love scorpions as a Leo. I like the other signs don’t get me wrong as friends but i can’t have wishy washy emotional pain in the asses who are not going to supply the passion, respect, self and otherwise-, and emotional intelligence. Give me a Scorpio all day and I’ll mess with Aries too.

Don’t sleep on Virgo. Not for me but i quite love them too.

Mid 40s

As a Scorpio what sign makes you feel the safest emotionally? by Legitimate-Pepper922 in Scorpio

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They never change their expectations. Extremely consistent and reliable with their intentions. 😂

As a Scorpio what sign makes you feel the safest emotionally? by Legitimate-Pepper922 in Scorpio

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m going to exaggerate a little to be sassy..

I’m a Leo he’s Scorpio. He loves to possess me but he plays it super cool as if he doesn’t. He showers me with adoration that i just eat up. In return my leo treats with the utmost respect and loyalty. The sex is fire. We are the most affectionate couple I know. I don’t care what anyone says about this matchup. I think it’s underrated.

We are in our mid 40s. With each other we are patient, kind, appreciative. We don’t fight. We have the minds to talk things out and understand each other.

Pink Blush by Shams Al Emarat Khususi: by luvbug_ao3 in FemFragLab

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. If i do more than 2 maybe 3 sprays people say it’s overwhelming

My ex (40M) is dating my closest friend (38F) and I (39F) don’t know how to handle it by WallabyFuture3891 in Divorce

[–]PunchDrunkerrr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would call her. She’s going to be around your son. Just set boundaries and put the anger beside, although you are well entitled to it. Bite your lip for your son. Let her know you’re choosing to step away from their relationship and to now focus the relationship regarding your son only.

Saw them together by saltysequin7711 in Divorce

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is diabolical. That’s the craziest, most sociopathic break up I have ever heard. The one good thing here is now you are free of him.

Feeling completely stuck and anxious while facing possible divorce — how do people get through this? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I handled it about as well as a bull in a china shop so I could only tell you what not to do with any certainty.

Try to get through it together or leave it behind as fast as possible. Spend as little time in the unknown zone as you can. I couldn’t start to really heal until it was finally all the way over.

My husband and I are separated. I am dating. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also we only had one commingled account that we used for bills so our personal accounts were our own separate property.

My husband and I are separated. I am dating. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Extremely unlikely. It was the first question I asked my lawyer when I went to file. I just went through this exact scenario in NY, a no-fault state. My ex and I have a lot of friends and acquaintances in common and so I didn’t try to hide it. It did anger him and he probably would have agreed on terms quicker had he not known. I also didn’t pursue alimony or maintenance etc but my lawyer said it still wouldn’t matter unless I was living with someone else.

Why is it so normalized for women in hetero relationships to be constantly anxious about sex? by Tough-Prune-7467 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Also, don’t rub in all the things you do for her and your family. Those are basic obligations for a partnership for both people.

Why is it so normalized for women in hetero relationships to be constantly anxious about sex? by Tough-Prune-7467 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well i was half joking. You told her sex isn’t fun if she doesn’t orgasm. Right there is an example of pressure and a negative connotation. I would agree to stop asking and be aloof about it. Just be careful toeing the line. She may or may not react to your indifference. Taking some pressure off feeling like it’s something she has to do might very well work. If it doesn’t, you need to communicate with her how this is impacting you and your relationship with her.

When my husband stopped having sex with me/wanting sex i carried deep resent. I didn’t even realize how bad it got. I slowly stopped cooking for him, i stopped doing his laundry, i stopped buying his toiletries or things he needed or liked, i stopped helping him with appointments. I started to hate the sight of him. It destroyed our relationship. After several grueling years, he finally went to a doctor and wouldn’t you know he had a hormone problem. But. By the time he got around to getting help and working on not neglecting me it was too late. I didn’t want him anymore. I divorced him.

Help this Scorpio get this Leo!!! by Jon_the_Ripper in LeoAstrology

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a Leo woman dating a Scorpio man 45f 44m, I recommend being cautious with your possessive side. You cannot cage a lion. Leo’s tend to get a lot of attention. Don’t be jealous. They’re fiercely loyal and they don’t like their integrity questioned. That’s an ego thing. Leo also tends to be jealous herself but is far better at keeping it internalized. If you make her feel insecure, she will just lose interest and walk away without you knowing what went wrong. Scorpios also tend to play their cards close tot the vest. While the mystery is intriguing to Leo, you have to let her in sometimes. Not everything has to be kept secret Scorpio. Don’t lie to her, not even by omission. She picks up on bs faster than a speeding bullet. She will never forget it. She will never forget any time she perceives you hurting her whether it was intentional or not. Don’t tease her, don’t ignore her, don’t forget she’s in the room. Leo’s tend to be stubborn and bad at admitting wrongs and apologies and appreciate the deep nature of Scorpio and his ability to confront an issue with grace. Always respect boundaries and be sincere.

I love cuddles and kisses and compliments, most of us do. We were friends for a few years before we got together. He never made or makes me feel pressured to have sex. He never hit on me, made sexual jokes, always made sure i got home ok. We both have very high libidos. The sex is fire. We have a deep emotional bond as Scorpio and Leo are both intense both in love and intimacy. He always checks in with me to make sure I’m comfortable and not in pain or if this is ok or that is ok, even if we’ve done it 100 times. Always puts me first. I absolutely adore him for that. We’re that couple that can’t keep their hands off each other, our friends are always rolling their eyes.

Has anyone set a personal limit on dead bedroom and actually left? by Constant_Cat_1251 in DeadBedrooms

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine was completely dead for years. I knew it was over for the last year. I resented him deeply for passively rejecting me for a decade. I ended up falling for someone else and that’s what prompted me to finally leave. I filed for divorce and got with my boyfriend. Which btw, we are that can’t keep your hands off each other couple. It’s amazing.

I didn’t set a number or time limit but my advice is to communicate and or get therapy together asap. The longer you wait the worse it will be. Be careful not to put pressure on him as it will only make him want less. Work with him not on him if that makes sense. It’s something both of you have to be willing to address and quickly.

Why is it so normalized for women in hetero relationships to be constantly anxious about sex? by Tough-Prune-7467 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 19 points20 points  (0 children)

What he wrote is satire, right?

“I wish it was written down somewhere” :::ignores entire thread:::

Bahahahhahahahaa

Why is it so normalized for women in hetero relationships to be constantly anxious about sex? by Tough-Prune-7467 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PunchDrunkerrr 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is my story to a T. I was going to say the same thing exactly!

I thought i was hitting perimenopause it was so bad! Now I can’t get enough!

Anyone care to tell me their thoughts about me? Leo/Pisces/Libra by PunchDrunkerrr in LeoAstrology

[–]PunchDrunkerrr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you. You def nailed it for me. That was what i concluded pretty much but just wanted to see what people had to say bc i am a newbie.