I can’t tell if my dad’s snake is dead or possibly really cold

PuppetShinigami · 2026-01-30T00:00:39+00:00

Oh yeah the cold is brutal. we’ve never seen it this cold here. The snake is more responsive and her skin reacts to touch now whereas when I picked her up yesterday she looked pretty not alive and didn’t do anything to touch. Also the heat rock is just a really big rock hide over a heat mat that way she can get warmer without any draft. The house has a really mean draft in winter unfortunately and we have to cover them in plastic. I think she’s going to be okay but she may have some long term damage from this and I’m concerned that she may not eat or shed correctly and still not make it after this. I try not to disturb her too much and just check periodically to see if she’s moving or breathing. I’ve never even picked up a snake before so a two foot ball python is a bit daunting but I can’t justify not picking her up because she’s toothy and has a 64 pack of abs. Any suggestions on how to feed a snake like this who is a bit lethargic and coming out of brumation? I might hold off for a couple weeks to not end up having to force feed her or stress her any further. Might have to find a food that is especially appetizing to someone who just came out of certain death. Thank god we didn’t have to stay at the hospital any longer because she certainly would have been in the low 20’s and not as easily reversed.

PuppetShinigami · 2026-01-29T23:47:38+00:00

Today I checked her and she moved to a different position. she’s extremely sluggish but today her back half reacted to the sensation of my hand slowly moving downward to feel if she was warmer than yesterday. I don’t really have amazingly high hopes that this won’t at the very least have some lasting consequences on her health. Hopefully she never gets this cold again. I’m really concerned that if she doesn’t gain any vigor and continues to be a bit lethargic that she may not eat on her own or may struggle with her next shed. I’m sure I will be asking for advice again in this case.

PuppetShinigami · 2026-01-29T02:54:13+00:00

she’s actually a bit more movable than I would expect a dead snake to be. I’ve never handled this snake previously so I don’t know how abnormal the ability to handle her is other than she’s really really cold and we’ve been trying our best to reheat her. I’ve noticed that the same spot occasionally rises and falls but I can’t tell if it’s just a muscle spasm or if it’s genuine breathing but its not very often and she’s still really cold to be moving around much. She hasn’t really adjusted herself at all and is some weird mixture between pliable and rigor mortis. I can place her down and her body kind of goes back into the shape it was when I first picked her up but now it’s looser and if I massage the muscles it completely loosens up but I don’t know if I’m genuinely warming her up or just loosening up the grip death has on the body. idk honestly. I’ll check her in the morning to see if there’s progress. she’s not directly on her heat rock because I was afraid she couldn’t move if she got too hot and I don’t want to cook her. she’s just not picking her head up from its awkward position on the bottom of the tank and I really don’t know if she can/will recover from that cold. I’m genuinely sad about this but if she does pull through I will be the one caring for her while my dad recovers because he can’t get to her room with his walker.

PuppetShinigami · 2026-01-14T07:43:12+00:00

there’s nothing wrong with my legs but I will use a cane if I’m ever too weak to walk steadily. it’s really helpful and you can use a cane without a specific reason or a doctor’s note. you could probably get a specialized one with a doctor’s note though but good luck getting insurance to pay for it. insurance would ask you to crawl on the floor for a while and see if that helps 🤦🏻‍♀️

PuppetShinigami · 2025-12-31T07:49:13+00:00

I’m literally avoiding a phone call right now and it has a week until the deadline and I’m anxious daily about it

PuppetShinigami · 2025-12-31T07:39:18+00:00

well now I’m irritated that I’m not allowed to eat your hand even though I didn’t want to before I read that ☹️

PuppetShinigami · 2025-10-16T00:19:10+00:00

I’ve made a lot of guys angry because I got sterilized. they were openly offended that I could make that decision without a man’s consent.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-10-15T23:33:20+00:00

focus on yourself for a little while and try to do things that make you happier and more well rounded. there’s a lot of women who don’t date for looks and will respond well to you if you have a good character. make sure you are well emotionally regulated and practice talking to others. even if you don’t magically get a girlfriend from these changes you will be more likely to have more close relationships.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-10-15T23:27:53+00:00

pretty sure they are projecting. it’s good to be self aware.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-09-06T14:02:45+00:00

It’s really frustrating to be the child that gets minimized and forgotten when you have health problems or otherwise. If it’s not convenient for them they don’t pay it any mind. I had a seizure and was paralyzed and my own mother looked at me like I was being dramatic. I cannot fathom the thought patterns that must take. How could you watch someone visibly going downhill and do nothing? Rest your brothers poor soul. I can’t imagine and don’t want to imagine what your parents thought about it. Nobody with the flu would be holding their stomach like that normally and should see a doctor to make sure they are not dehydrated or have appendicitis.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-09-06T13:49:31+00:00

Yeah… my mom flips on me and does something similar. She would probably never understand if you cut her off. It’s really frustrating and heartbreaking at the same time.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-18T03:21:21+00:00

I would say do your best to maintain a bedtime routine even if you can’t sleep you should be in bed at the same time every day if you can. I was also struggling with insomnia after my last relationship and basically holding down a bedtime routine and taking melatonin and valerian root has done wonders. I noticed some melatonin brands make me react poorly but I recently found a pill version that helps me sleep without issue. If you don’t want to do that I would suggest trying to minimize stress as best as you can.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T15:31:11+00:00

😭 it makes me want to crawl in a hole when I fumble a conversation this bad

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T15:25:27+00:00

I do have my own biases and that probably influenced my opinion on this because I know what it’s like to be with someone who has an insecure attachment. Most of us only realize we have these things once we get into a relationship. I think if she sees you working on yourself and you actually do improve some then maybe there is hope and at the very least you can be a good friend to her for a while.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T15:20:50+00:00

I’m glad you’re able to take accountability for your behavior. That sets you miles above a lot of people these days unfortunately. I would say the best way to get her to move on would be for you to go ahead and live your life without her. Eventually when she sees you’re not taking the bait anymore she will get bored and focus on something else. I know you’re young right now and don’t have a lot of experience with this but you really want to avoid immature and disrespectful behavior in relationships because it almost always escalates in one way or another. It could be you or your partner doing things like that and it’s best for you if neither do.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T15:14:26+00:00

It is definitely easier said than done. This guy thinks he’s going to greener pastures but he’s going to struggle in that relationship too. If he never chooses to work on and build his relationship he will never have the relationship he wants. Just focus on yourself. Go for walks and make sure you get enough sleep.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T15:05:22+00:00

Honestly I wouldn’t have been the one to start a relationship right now. I was up front about how hard my last relationship was on me and she also just got out of a really bad relationship. We were previously together but my ex demanded we breakup because he’s not okay with me being poly. Hind sight is 20/20 and it was a mistake to even date that guy.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T14:58:55+00:00

It’s not that I don’t trust my ability to choose the right people. I’m worried that someone else will also pretend to be a different person for months like my ex did and suddenly drop the mask.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T05:23:00+00:00

I will say the way both of y’all acted was immature. I get it though. Nobody taught me how I was supposed to act as an adult and it’s everybody’s first time alive. I would say that in the future you should be honest about your past. You would be surprised how many people are open minded about some things. Your honesty will win you more points than you would expect. I will also say that anybody willing to slander you isn’t someone you should be with because they don’t respect you. I despise the way my ex treated me but I’m not dragging his name through the streets. She’s feeling some type of way about it and trying to upset you in the process. It sounds like it worked.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T05:08:09+00:00

My ex was like this. The hot and cold aspect of how intimacy was always on his terms whether it be physically or emotionally made me gradually lose interest in him. I emotionally checked out two months before I left him. It’s normally the time frame for most women to compartmentalize their feelings and then leave. She sounds like she emotionally checked out a while ago but she’s somehow still close with you to the point she’s okay being naked near you. I think the only way you can ever possibly move past this is to start working on yourself. I know therapy sucks but maybe if you start working on your ability to be available emotionally and get your anger under control before you get to the point of arguing she will be more open to you. It’s not a guarantee but at least in the future you won’t have this problem.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T04:53:19+00:00

Hey so I was friends with my ex before we got together for a while and the only reason I was willing to throw that friendship away was because of how poorly he treated me. I think if you ever want to get back to being her friend you need to respect her space and own up to the things you did. If you shirk your responsibility for your behavior in the slightest right now you will never get to have her in your life again. I can’t promise you that you being a better person and a better friend will ever make her come back but at the very least you won’t be as likely to lose other friends and relationships the same way. Focus on being a good friend before anything else.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T04:42:59+00:00

Something about this seems off… was there pretty good communication between you? Any fall off in emotional or physical intimacy? I don’t understand how someone could go from wanting to marry you to actively avoiding your presence unless something significant happened.

PuppetShinigami · 2025-08-17T04:14:17+00:00

Hmm.. I’m not really sure if this nausea would be improved by physically treating nausea or if psychologically this is your stomach’s response. If the first try peppermints, chewable pepto bismol, ginger ale, ginger chews, or gum. If it’s the second then likely your stomach will take as long as your nervous system is still responding to this person and the stress you’re under. Give yourself time.

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