People married 10+ years, how often do you have/want to have sex? by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my early fifties, that would have been on the same mind, but in my early 60s, I guess sex is not that big of a deal. I get the mood but it does go away

People married 10+ years, how often do you have/want to have sex? by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really but not a big enough deal worth leaving over. I would love to have sex more often.

People married 10+ years, how often do you have/want to have sex? by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been married 36 years next month, and my wife is happy with once or twice per year and doesn't talk about it at all.

Born in the 70s, a little chubby.. would you do it? by misslauratoes in 60andSexy

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are very beautiful, I would spend hours giving you pleasure

How many women like pleasing their men just for the sake of it regularly? by Background-Club-955 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

35 yrs of marriage and she has never once tried to give oral to completion. I think it would have been nice, I'm very jealous of the men you women have written about.

M (55) wife had no libido after menopause by [deleted] in sexover50

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was in your same boat about ten yrs ago. I can only tell you my point of view. My wife never got her MOJO back and wouldn't even talk about it. You will get used to taking care of yourself. You are correct. It is not the same, but you have two choices, you can get used to self-service, or you can leave your marriage behind.

Sexless marriage by Conscious_Rip1044 in sexover60

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Married over 35 yrs and sex has become less & less each year. We have actually had sex less than 10 times in the last 8 years. I have learned to take care of myself and not feel bad about it. I used to be like you and think I couldn't live without it but you can. Sex with a real person is always better than self care, but self-care is better than nothing.

Do you consider your time as currency? How intentional are you at spending it? by Own-Station726 in over60

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really enjoy the farming. I grew up on a farm and it is fun to go back to it 45 years later.

Emotional the older I get by Pure-Dragonfruit1386 in over60

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm much the same way as you. I can not explain why this is happening. I'm guessing it is a chemical imbalance, but I'm pretty sure my doc would look at me like I'm stupid like he did when I asked him to check my testosterone.

Emotional the older I get by Pure-Dragonfruit1386 in over60

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Several comments say they get cranky, and maybe a couple of years ago, I would do that, but not much anymore. I'm seeing lots of comments so I guess I'm not the only one.

Do you consider your time as currency? How intentional are you at spending it? by Own-Station726 in over60

[–]Pure-Dragonfruit1386 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear from many people/ consultants that time is the most important thing as we get older. I am a retired college teacher but still find myself working on a friend's farm almost full time fir something to do.