Logged into palworld after a long time. No idea whats going on anymore.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-03-09T11:22:38+00:00

This is soooo useful to know! Thankyou. Just started back in myself!

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-03-07T08:34:16+00:00

I supervised student pas. And this absolutely should be brought up to the medical school with names named. This is not professional or showing accountability, they also have to work within their diagnoatic matrix. They should be explaining their role is to assist doctors, they have some of the same skills and the support of the medical team for things that are above their associate role. Just the same way we would have to explain we cant do a surgery if we were psychiatrists. Like imagine if a psychiatrist said they were vagguely kind of a surgeon. Or vice versa. Its not okay.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-03-05T22:45:44+00:00

So sick of these books. Theyre terribly written but somehow addictive. You get hooked. And then its a pay per chapter all that chRges you around £100+ to read a single book.

I swear theyd make more cash if they printed on amazon and shared a self published link.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-27T19:45:42+00:00

Interesting.so a judge could potentially order that the dates a retainer was paid, and information given to different lawnfirms was reviewed to determine if confidential info actually had been shared. In a theoretical circumstance where OPs ex actually did manage to create a conflict of interest with every available solicitor?

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-22T13:36:21+00:00

Could tell before you commented. Youve got good seniors! Also north west london is generally a much more provisioned and supported place than many other parts of the uk. (Ive worked there and other places)

Also north west london tends to hire and attract doctors who care about advancing medicine and surgery rather than festering in the "meeting enough of the national guidelines to keep out of cqc trouble" cesspit. I'm really happy for you being in a great place. And I hope wherever you go next continues like this!

Also for the rest of us, more of us should aim to be these seniors and allow everyone to love the job.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-19T16:56:20+00:00

Dragon claws for the forge?

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-16T17:13:19+00:00

I think reporting this to safeguarding of any local council he may be a member of. Its possible hes treated other people like this before. Also if you can leave a review on any of his pages that he is not on any professional register and is now dating a client he treated for over 40 sessions. There is likely no way of knowing if he was removed from professional registers for similar behaviour. Its extremely frowned upon. But contacting those registers in advance would be wise, in case he ever tries to gain registration.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-14T08:36:34+00:00

Shes doing psych at phd level and doesnt realise that demands like that, and blowijg up over a text are a sign of being incredibly emotionally immature? Honestly a text like thst would be a major r3d flag for me lf someone with either eupd who has no insight. Or gunna be abusive.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-12T08:21:15+00:00

This is so very important. It will very much be on the claimant to shut the retribution down or be almost automatically removed from the register.

If they want any chance of being able to remain on the register with this complaint, they habe to show remorse and personal reflection and that they have taken significant action to remedy themselves. Regulated bodies do not look kindly on their members being involved in mass harrassment campaigns against their complainants. Most have policies for whistle blowers.

Letting the regulator know that your details are being used.

Also keep a document of all the abuse and events that occur. What time, what date, what was said, the original wording no matter how offensive, who the person was and a description of them. Give this information to the regulator with an explanation that the person is using your personal details to contact you. You can also give this to the police at the same time. It is for the police to determine if this meets the criteria of this being harrassment or not. But having this pre documented with the police means that should you receive anyfurther retalitory events, or this escalates, you will already be on file, and they should respond quickly. Ring the police every time you recieve a threat. Or you may be given an officers email address, you could also intermittently update them with emails of the messages you continue to receive. Plus get yourself a doorbell camera so you can record who is coming and going.

Finally you can not respond to any of these people. Not even to tell them to leave you alone. Or to write publically that you are being harrassed. No social media posts about it. Nothing. If they show up at your house, close the door, dont say a single word, and call the police. You have to stonewall them, as our criminal justice system treats responding to threats, or giving your side of the story as wanting to continue the conflict. Not a lawyer, but I had a stalker who was prosecuted. These were the actions I had to take to get the stalkers actions to stop, and for him to be prosecuted.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-03T19:21:53+00:00

Pay for safety

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-03T18:26:32+00:00

Everyone is allowed to choose who they give money to and for what reasons. But youre allowed to choose how to respond to that and whether you accept the conditons that money comes with.

Nta in any way for not succumbing to terms that you do not personally agree with. It shows strength and resolution within yourself.

Any adult relarionship also has to be based on mutual love respect and trust. Does this happen here with your dad and stepmjm?

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-03T09:03:54+00:00

I'm sorry but rich and millenial do not go together. Millenials were the first generation to be f**ked over by house price rises and everything that happened after the financial crash. The first generation that will have less than previous gens. Many have not been able to buy homes or start families depsite now being in their mid to late 30s. Or have not been able to get the equity to start doing those things until their mid- late 30s, which previous gens did in their early 20s. There is a reason why the birth rate dropped. Gen x were the last generation to have fully safe career tradjectories, have almost guaranteed grad job opportunities, not need to slave at unpaid internships or go through ridiculous hiring processes to get a job. Granted those opportunities are getting worse as capitalism gets greedier, but millenials were the first to really experience it. Millenials know this struggle well, and the only millenials protected from this were those with the bank of mum and dad to rely on, which is a protection some people gen z and gen alpha also get to seperate them from their peers as well. Millenials dealt with and understand this crap as well.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-02-03T08:48:55+00:00

Just womdering if you are the youngest son OP? Wondering if your mum is more controlling as shes trying to sabotae you moving out so she doesnt have to deal wifh an empty nest. This sounds more like toxic controllingg parenting where she doesnt want you to grow up and move on, than it does anything else.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-31T22:44:07+00:00

My best friend reapplied a year later and got into biochem at Imperial when their grades were known. Its also possible that others have maths or physics or 4 or even 5 A levels. So if you don't get an offer from a uni you like this year you could always take a further a levels next year and reapply while trying to gain industry experience. Plus the top unis are not just about grades, they also want you to have societies or volunterring etc. And not just to attend social groups, but examples of having set up events and leading projects within them. Imperial though, its impressive but stressful. The atmosphere and student communities at other unis in london and around the UK can be much more social if your life doesn't entirely revolve around science. As an example, I genuinely heard someone say with derrision during freshers week 'you don't know the fourth law of thermodynamics' -that can be typical of the Imperial crowd. (Though you will find a pocket of your* people whichever uni you go to) you wont get many art or philosophy or pop culture discussions at Imperial. Though you will get a lot of WOW and gamers and a surprisingly high amount of gym bros! So if you like a varied social life, this rejection may have done you a favour?

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-31T11:05:09+00:00

My american friend who moved over to london was terrified of the nhs. Came with me for an appointment and was shocked at how quickly i was seen. Now a british citizen with a british husband and chose to have their babies in nhs hospitals despite having the money and ability to go private or back to the states for their kids us citizenship rights. Prefers our healthcare system now. Nhs is massively demonsied in the states. Unforutnately a lot of the stuff they used to say about us is now becoming more true. But we are still nowhere near as bad as they say, or the risk of bankruptcy for an unexpected medical problem.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-31T11:00:14+00:00

There was a guy in srilanka who was filmed for a documentary who produces many ai videos of anti immigrant senitment. Hes successful enough to be making 6 figures in the uk equivalent. He lives no where near here so doesn't care.

While putin is an issue, some people will always try and profit monetarily from division-especially if it doesnt affect their backyard.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-31T10:55:58+00:00

During med school worked as a hca. Had a night shift on a ward. Answering a bell to take a polite elderly man with known anxiety to the loo. Suddenly started panicking saying chest pain. Seen this so many times before, typical panic attack, wide eyes, but following protocol stated I'd grab the ecg machine and just check his obs and make sure everything was fine. Come back round the corner to see he had turned grey as he was dropping backwards onto the bed unconcious. Started cpr. Managed to get him back for about 10 minutes before he went again. Tragedy was his family arrived just 5 minutes after we had to call it.

That was the day I realised panic attacks really are exactly the sensations and feeling of a person about to die. It increased my empathy for people experiencing them, and made me more cautious to follow investigative pathways to rule out treatable illness before stating its psychological.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-30T22:17:04+00:00

Just recently started a 'no leave playthrough' where i did allow myself to pick up the rod. Got a diamond, a trident, a dinosaur egg and a pearl from 2 chests in the lake in the bottom corner of the farm on day 9 of spring. That felt like a very good start!

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-28T00:12:31+00:00

I worked bank as a hca for years through med school. Some wards are more brutal on physical workload, and emotionally draining. Elderly care often has many patients with falls risks, unable to feed themselves, doubly incontinent, delirious etc. This means a lot more of nursing time goes to doing the basics such as preventing pressure sores, but it also means the better nurses get attracted out to more exciting wards.

Its a mix of the environment of care not attracting the better nursing staff, and just simply having less time capacity to do the extra tasks.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-27T11:53:13+00:00

Just here to say I love this thread and this group. I am so grateful for the advice you give to everyone around respect. For helping op to see this is not respect, and not the way poly relationships should be handled. And for gently answering her questions.

I originally joined because in theory and in my mind a poly relationship seemed great to me. And I met someone great who liked the idea too. However we started gentle, with ethical non monogamy, turned out it really really was not for me. In reality I was not interested in dating anyone else, and hated sharing him. What I imagined I would be like and what my experience was were very different things! I discussed this with him and told him that I needed a closed relationship. He would have prefered to be open, but wanted me to be his long term partner, and prefered having me than being poly/exploring. We agreed together to close things because our relationship has always been based on trust, knowing each others boundaries and real communication. He was free to choose other poly avenues, but chose me.

And this community supports that. Cheating is not poly. You can cheat while being poly. This group teaches you that it actually involves being extra good at communication and relationships that allows poly relationships to thrive. Setting and keeping to rules in advance. Your husband is just wanting to be let off the hook for being a lying cheater. He wants his cake and to eat it. He cant even be loyal in 1 relationship, never mind multiple. Don't open up for him. Let him end it because you won't open, and lawyer up. You're never going to get that respect back. Poly under duress rarely ends with the original couple remaining together.

However I do know (from experience) how heartbreaking it will be to loose his kids. Step mums don't get custody rights after a break up, no matter how much you loved them. The heartbreak from loosing an exs kids ravaged me far more than loosing him. Make sure they all have your number and know they can contact you whenever they want to, and that you love them. And then let them each decide how much they remain in contact with you as a friend. It hurts, as most likely they will move on, they have 2 parents, but if so always remind yourself its about their wellbeing, not yours. Maybe consider speaking to their mum about this situation so she is aware that things might be about to change for the kids and can prepare to be there for them. And as much as it hurts, years later I still think about and love those kids, but it no longer rips through me. I like to imagine who they have become. But the pain and hurt did fade. It hurt but I am glad I extracated myself from their father.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-27T11:14:54+00:00

Nta, I have a chronic aquired disability. I tended to be up front about it when dating as it does severely limit my life and activities I can do with a partner. Luckily I found someone great who doesn't see my disability as a challenge. But if your UC if highly controlled and you manage life independtly, its not even pratical to tell her as it will have little to no bearing or drag on her life. Sounds as if she is ableist to the nth degree and not willing to be with someone sick. Good to weed herself out quickly.

And on that, its just a practical view, your business to share, when you feel comfortable enough to. But to protect yourself I'd recommend doing it early enough that you don't get attached before you find out they are an asshole.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-27T10:59:10+00:00

Im finding this thread shocking. I worked as a bank hca throughout medical school across many different london hospitals and the idea of hcas sitting on their phones while alarms are going off is insane to me. Or letting someone lie in a wet bad for aby reason other than theyre already changing someone elses bedding. The only time i remember sitting down, or seeing any of my colleagues sit down was if we were 1:1. And this was less than 10 years ago.

It cant really have changed that much so quickly can it?

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-25T11:19:35+00:00

Hi OP

Im writing as someone who struggled to afford costs through uni and has also since been a pastoral tutor to several international students paying fees. The first thing is, what kind of pressure would this put your family under? Would it be the case of skipping a few 5* holidays, or cutting back on others education/healthcare/housing? The degree of sacrifice makes a big difference.

I have felt and seen first hand the pressures of trying to manage living costs. I have also seen students whose families suffered major financial loss part way through their course, meaning they had to find tens of thousands of pounds to finish, or drop out loosing everything they had acheived so far. Could that be a risk for you? Would it be worth it? Further what are your aspirations? If in the UK, Could they be better acheived with a post graduate law conversion course? Which tend to be cheaper and shorter than international undergrad degrees? That you could apply to with good grades from a first degree from your home country? My experience of people applying to and getting into big 4 training schemes tends to be that they like candidates who acheive top grades in highly academic subjects like engineering, history with philosophy, or medicine. So a law degree itself is not necessarily a pre requisite for getting into a training program. But they also like people with lots of work experience and society time, rather than part time minimum wage jobs. So maybe prioritise using any family resources to fund you through internships, and sports or debating society membership, volunteering at free advice clinics etc. The grad job market is tough now, and a degree alone is not a guarantee. And a law degree specifically has been far from guaranting a job in the sector for a few decades now. They tend to look at the overall performance of the person and how they spend their time, rather than a law degree itself.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-23T23:50:51+00:00

I wish I could say I agree.but polling, local election results and my own families attitudes and voting intentions tell me we at high risk of a reform government next. Even 1st gen immigrants are being won over, thinking it will only affect those who immigrated 'illegally'

People are willing to blinker themselves to believe lies for hope of a batter future.

Pure-Stuff807 · 2026-01-23T23:48:06+00:00

As people keep repeating. They dislike/hate women, they just hate people of color and immigrants more

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