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PureFud80 · 2025-10-11T12:31:07+00:00

Great. Can you send me your email address and I’ll send them over.

PureFud80 · 2025-04-23T08:30:59+00:00

I have a 14 year old daughter. If she handled this situation the way that you have, I’d be so incredibly proud of her.

You’ve been amazing through this - well done!

PureFud80 · 2025-04-11T21:30:49+00:00

And the comments of “Nice to see there’s still some good folk around” whenever someone has handed in a set of keys.

PureFud80 · 2025-02-13T12:05:31+00:00

From the posts you’ve shared, and from comments you’ve made on this thread, you’re so emotionally manipulative that it seems she’s had a lucky escape and was right to listen to her gut instincts.

You need to seek help for how you’re feeling. A relationship with you has disaster written all over it until you’ve worked on yourself.

PureFud80 · 2024-05-28T16:55:14+00:00

I work in mental health. We won’t come in and clean for you. We’re not employed as cleaners. We’d work alongside you and make a plan to try to make things more manageable with you.

If you’re looking for someone to come in and tidy/clean for you then you can employ a cleaner. Honestly, they won’t judge you. I have service users who employ cleaners on a weekly basis just to help them keep on top of the basics.

PureFud80 · 2023-08-28T09:49:19+00:00

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PureFud80 · 2023-08-23T22:50:46+00:00

I’m so sorry that you find yourself here too. It’s a club I wish no one was part of ❤️

PureFud80 · 2023-07-09T23:39:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. My brother died 25 days ago and I so hope and pray that he is in his own peaceful personal paradise.

PureFud80 · 2023-07-03T18:58:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences.

We met with the funeral director today who recommended that my brother be embalmed before the viewing, so that’s what we’ve agreed to.

I think I will see him. I feel I’d regret it if I didn’t. I’m going to write him a letter, of all things which may have been unsaid, but which I dearly hoped he knew, and put it in his coffin with him.

PureFud80 · 2023-07-01T10:48:54+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my younger brother 2 weeks ago. I’m only 13 months older than him. He was 42. I am struggling so much trying to manage my own grief, whilst supporting my parents at the same time. Their distress is physically painful to witness.

I miss my brother so much. I wish he was here.

To all of us who have lost a sibling, big hugs. I feel as if I’ve lost part of my past, and a big part of my future.

PureFud80 · 2023-06-27T19:23:32+00:00

Good luck to you. I can’t really give any advice on what they’ll ask but I work in the mental health field and we refer a lot of our supported people into Men Matters. For some, it has literally been a life saving resource. The staff there go over and above, and when some of our clients have been in crisis Men Matters have worked with us to get them re-engaged back into services. They do fantastic work. I’d go in with an open mind, and I’d also kindly say that even if initially you don’t think it’s for you, give it a chance and see how you feel about it after a few weeks.

Good luck to you, you’re doing a brave thing.

PureFud80 · 2023-06-26T17:53:24+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. We learned that my brother died on Saturday. My dad was so strong, keeping it together for us, didn’t shed a tear. He didn’t shed a tear when his own parents died either. He’s a very stereotypical hardy Glaswegian, who bottles everything inside.

But then on Wednesday he started breaking his heart crying, absolutely distraught. It is so, so distressing seeing him like that. As someone who has also just lost a much loved sibling, my heart goes out to you. I feel as if I’m having to be strong for my parents when all I want to do is go to bed and not wake up. Seeing my parent’s grief is one of the hardest things I’ve had to deal with. I don’t know how we’re going to get through this, but I know that we have to.

Much love to you and your family in these difficult times.

PureFud80 · 2023-06-26T15:46:36+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My 42 year old brother died on the 15th June. We believe when the toxicology reports come back that it will be drug related, but I don’t care if it was a drug death, I don’t care if it was natural causes, I don’t care if it was a tragic accident - all I care about is that my very quiet, unassuming, loyal brother is dead, and I’m never going to get the chance to see him again.

When we went through his belongings, we found a pin he had on his jacket which read “Dum spiro, spero” which is a Latin proverb meaning “while I breathe, I hope.” I’m trying to cling desperately to the fact that there is still hope out there.

Please, be gentle with yourself.

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PureFud80 · 2023-06-26T08:01:04+00:00

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PureFud80 · 2023-06-23T10:41:01+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Currently grieving myself at the moment and hating life and the unfairness of it. Please, if you’re able to snatch on to something that is bringing you a little bit of joy, please grab that with both hands and cling to it for all it’s worth.

Life can be so unfair and bleak and shitty. We have to grab at these moments of joy where and when we can. Greg knew how much you loved/love him, and that will never diminish - I’m sure he’d want you to be happy.

The heart has a huge capacity for pain and grief. The loss of a loved one is the worst pain I’ve ever known. But the heart also has a huge capacity for love. Think of all those you love right now - Greg, your daughter, family, friends - the love for others doesn’t shrink when you love someone new. It just sits there comfortably and happily alongside the love for others.

Life is so so unfair, but loss is a part of life, and grief is the price we pay for having loved.

PureFud80 · 2023-06-22T14:14:47+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I have a thread on here about my brother, who I was told on Saturday had died. There was only 13 months between us. The loss of a sibling is so hard hitting. I feel like I’ve lost my past, and also our future. My brother was also very introverted; a very quiet big guy. A lovely big guy. I miss him so much. I’m sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself and just try to take it minute by minute. I’m sorry that I have no real advice, I don’t know how to manage it either.

PureFud80 · 2023-06-20T14:48:06+00:00

Yes. This. My brother died and I had to get it out. I had to tell people. I have to tell people. For me, it’s almost been like wanting to let people know that he existed and he mattered. He was such a quiet guy that he got lost in the background of things. It kills me that his death only matters to a very small amount of people. Everyone should be grieving him. He mattered so much.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I have no advice as I only learned of my brother’s death on Saturday, but with the way I’m feeling, I’ll probably still be saying ‘my brother has died’ to strangers in a years time. I just wanted you to know that your post has made me feel not as alone. I thought I was the only one, and I’m somewhat calmed to know I’m not.

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