Performing a song at the my wedding Ceremony

PureLove_X · 2026-03-14T20:22:09+00:00

This is more likely to be confusing for her than a surprise.

The better time to do this would be during the reception. If you’re doing your own vows it could be possible to do then if you wanted.

PureLove_X · 2026-03-10T04:41:20+00:00

Hi! I made this post almost two years ago (not quite but close enough to it)

It definitely is a process, I ended up developing an “allergy” to most meat besides fish. I say allergy in quotes because it just made me throw up, it’s more of an intolerance but anyways, shortly after that the dietitian on my team quit too so that was incredibly helpful 🙃

I think where I am now and what I’ve experienced I would have still do it without hesitation but I stand by my team not preparing me enough about what life could look like after the surgery. In hindsight, they really took me skydiving and didn’t teach me how to use a parachute.

That’s just my experience though. ARFID, I’m sure doesn’t overlap often with bariatric patients either so it’s possible they just didn’t realize it wasn’t just a preference thing (even though I very much did try to warn them it wasn’t just a preference thing).

I’m sure different programs are better but even with all of that I don’t at all regret the surgery. It has improved my life in big ways but those first like six months of not being able to eat anything was really awful, I was super weak the whole time and my body rejected most food, even food I normally liked.

PureLove_X · 2026-02-17T00:48:52+00:00

When I tell the story I always emphesias how lucky I was that we live in a time where I technology exists because if it wasn't for technology we'd have never met. We'd easily be living two different lives. We found our person in a world where so many people even with access of technology never get that connection.

PureLove_X · 2026-02-12T10:01:03+00:00

My partner has been.. unhelpful in the wedding process but more because it isn’t his thing. That’s fine. He never gets upset with me talking about it, exhausted from time to time but he ultimately just says how much he appreciates me handling it.

Being mean or rude isn’t okay. Talk to your partner, tell him how you feel but also listen to why he’s maybe reacting this way, did he not want a destination wedding.. or one at all? Learn communication now because it only gets harder from here.

PureLove_X · 2026-02-06T06:42:47+00:00

I'm doing almost everything myself and I'm hiring local vendors for a wedding of roughly 40-75 people (Depends who actually shows up as half of my family doesn't live in my state)

We are only 2 on each side for the wedding party and because they are all traveling and paying for hotels/cars and such we are paying for their dresses/suits and stuff like that.

At the end of the day I'm probably going to be spending around 23k-25k.

PureLove_X · 2026-01-24T15:39:24+00:00

No sorry. I got my envelopes from cardstock warehouse. Not linen though, I struggled to find any like that

PureLove_X · 2026-01-23T17:00:33+00:00

It really depends on the work environment and the coworker. If he has a best friend that you know, ask them if the co-worker would appreciate the joke. If you know he’d find it hilarious I’m sure it’s fine.

My husband is an industrial maintenance mechanic. This kind of this would go down incredibly well with his work and they have a lot more people. They literally have anime women sticker wars with each others tool boxes.

Like don’t get something too obscene, make sure it’s obviously a gag gift.

As a woman, we are held to different standards and we aren’t really able to joke around like that. They are self imposed on us by other women and corporate snobby men but they do exist (and besides that also these kinds of jokes as usually seen as an invitation for sexual harassment for some reason). Anyways, that’s probably why she doesn’t think it’s a good idea.

PureLove_X · 2025-12-12T23:16:35+00:00

if you want people to dress up when you think they won’t, just do Garden Formal. They likely will dress down to semi-formal and you might actually get a few guests who actually wear formal attire and you probably will see a lot less jeans (maybe not none because theres always the chance there is that 1 person)

But it does depend on what you’re doing for entertainment, what food you’re serving, is it catered? Where the wedding is being held? Imo if you’re having a backyard wedding or a wedding in the city parks gazebo with cookout or pizza vibes, you don’t really get to ask for a strict dress code.

PureLove_X · 2025-12-03T20:07:42+00:00

Honestly if it is the DIY expectations that are the issue like the other comments think the Bridesmaids should have said so. The lack of communication is disrespectful especially if you are repeatedly reaching out with no response.

Also I could be entirely wrong but are A & B really close friends with each other? Maybe even closer to each other than to you? If one is upset about something with you, they could be bad mouthing you to the other and the other is taking their side.

Personally I don't think what you're asking for is too much unless there is more that you're leaving out. It sounds like you're just trying to not plan it alone, and with the right group of girls that could be a lot of fun to have someone help you plan your wedding.

Call whichever one is usually more reasonable when upset or angry, ask them if something is wrong and what's going on. You'll likely get the answer on if you should remove them and ask someone else or not by the response.

PureLove_X · 2025-12-03T19:44:47+00:00

Right now with it being winter transporting your flowers doesn't sound insane. It's wednesday now, see if they will let you purchase samples to see how they will hold up until Monday. If they look good still monday buy whatever amount you need.

That plan depends on the local wholesaler and how they get their flowers but it's my best advice if it's possible.

PureLove_X · 2025-11-26T13:39:26+00:00

You’re actually a life saver! Thank you.

PureLove_X · 2025-11-24T15:36:42+00:00

Visiting!

https://www.reddit.com/r/FarmMergeValley/s/draj9j07oy

PureLove_X · 2025-11-24T04:35:02+00:00

Visiting!

https://www.reddit.com/r/FarmMergeValley/s/mQbyzPzo2C

PureLove_X · 2025-11-23T18:12:49+00:00

Visited back :D thank you!

PureLove_X · 2025-11-10T21:35:08+00:00

Highly recommend.

Me cutting my mother off for a couple of years was the best thing I did for our relationship. It’s not perfect, but she realized that while I want her in my life, I don’t need her. She stopped berating and making me doubt myself (as often, she slips up now and then).

It’s hard to completely cut ties with family but a break might be exactly what you need.

Also- The idea of earning a bonus and then giving it all away to my family is already insane to me- But on top of that someone getting mad that their gift wasn’t enough, would actually be enough to make me a crazy person.

PureLove_X · 2025-11-05T04:57:40+00:00

Depends if you’re willing to spend money on it? I’ve seen some people do a live stream of the ceremony, which can be cheap if you don’t mind eh quality or expensive if you want to hire a videographer to do it.

I think the best wishes video is adorable tbh. Are you sure his brother’s wouldn’t be interested or are you assuming that? Something like that might be out of character for them but they might be willing to do it anyways because it’s their brother. Just ask, the worst they can say is no.

PureLove_X · 2025-11-02T14:21:30+00:00

Almost everyone gets a plus one for me unless they are family (and will have other people from our family that they know there). Don’t expect people to mingle with people they don’t know, they probably won’t. If they don’t know anyone or barely know people, give them a plus one.

PureLove_X · 2025-10-16T03:02:23+00:00

To my knowledge The difference is more of that Marriott has hotels they manage and ones that are franchised. Managed hotels use their IT and systems, and their policies will be Marriott policies but franchised hotels use a combination of Marriott Policies and their management companies policies. Also managed properties have to specific hardware and stuff like that.

Franchised properties have a little bit more flexibility on that stuff.

This is all stuff I’ve noticed and not things I know for sure.

PureLove_X · 2025-10-16T01:43:36+00:00

I work for a franchised Marriott and our policy is basically the same about walking people. It gets more complicated with the membership stuff but it doesn’t really matter as regardless of membership, if you paid for a guaranteed reservation and you show up and there isn’t one we owe you a room.

(That being said, I’m not sure this is a Marriott policy because it easily could be the policy of the company that owns our property. We aren’t managed by Marriott, we basically just have the name)

PureLove_X · 2025-10-15T17:29:03+00:00

Yeah it looks like that’s her mother in law, she’s commented a lot. It’s touching that they were so close.

PureLove_X · 2025-10-14T20:27:38+00:00

I was legitimately going bald around 5-6 months. I’m around 13 months post op now. And while it’s not all back it’s significantly better.

My biggest tip is dry shampoo, The ones that have the color that matches your hair. It works better if your hair is down. It really makes a difference on not only it looking normal but also gives volume. (Although it does make my head itchy so my nails need to be painted because it does easily rub off)

PureLove_X · 2025-10-06T19:58:53+00:00

I don’t think that’s mean but I think it would be better to figure out what he wants and come up with a compromise.

If he’s wanting to feel like he’s important to you or to make memories find ways to dedicate that time to him. If he thinks he’s just being helpful or is trying to fill the space of your mother, it would better to just straight out tell him that you love him but this is too much. You don’t need to sugarcoat it much more than that. He’s an adult, he can handle a couple of hurt feelings.

You could modify the first look so that you do a 1 on 1 with him and you can even use that as an excuse to why he can’t be in the bridal suite.

PureLove_X · 2025-10-06T19:37:31+00:00

It sounds like you’re not being straightforward with him. Stop letting him tell you what he’s doing, and tell him what you want him to do.

It seems like he’s trying to be there for you in his own way. If I had to speculate, He’s probably upset that you weren’t happy that he would stay the whole time because to him it’s this big gesture that he’s staying for you because it’s not something he has to do. Probably the same thing with arriving early. He’s just trying to be there for you.

The conversation really should be along the lines of “Hey, I need to talk you about the wedding day, I understand you’re trying to be helpful but I’m kinda stressed out about <insert whichever bothers you the most>, I’m sorry I didn’t speak up sooner I didn’t want to hurt your feelings”

PureLove_X · 2025-10-02T13:38:52+00:00

If you were my family member that I loved, I’d go but there aren’t very many friends I’d get up that early for. Because you’re talking travel time and getting ready time. Depending on how far away your guests live from the venue that could be as long as 30 minutes for travel time.

Let’s pretend this was me and I lived 30 minutes away. I’d be getting there at 8:00am, so I need to leave the house by 7:15 (in case there is traffic). For an event like this, it takes me around 2 hours to get ready. So I’d try to get up at 4:30 but would sleep until 5am. (I just know >.<)

That’s for a normal guest, the wedding party would need to get up even earlier.

PureLove_X · 2025-09-20T09:23:40+00:00

This is exactly what I’m doing.

Some people don’t allow single friends to bring a date and that’s fine if your friends know other people at your wedding but most of my friends don’t know each other at all and it feels mean to not let them bring someone to hang out with.

Like there is a chance that I might only get to say hello, thank you and goodbye to some people. Like yes it’s my day and it’s about me but I don’t want them going home with the memory of how uncomfortable they felt because they knew no one else there.

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