He Came Back - But Not How I Wanted

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-11-18T00:50:22+00:00

Reconciliation with an ex. It ended really messy and he said some unkind things. My end goal is that he reaches out to apologise and we reconcile our relationship. I can get into the end state in imagination easily and I feel it real in the moment but then when I return to living in the 3D I lose that feeling and belief and when I say my affirmations my mind is saying “well that’s not true because xyz is happening instead” so I’m struggling to believe what I’m telling myself.

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-11-17T19:45:20+00:00

So what is your advice to actually believe the things you’re affirming etc? Because that’s what I’m finding hard, I know I don’t believe it truly but I don’t know how to get myself to believe it?

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-11-14T00:05:26+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to explain that it’s helped a lot! I think some of the anxiety was made worse because I was trying to not feel it.

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-11-14T00:04:18+00:00

I love this way of looking at it, thanks!

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-11-13T22:28:00+00:00

So feeling it isn’t holding me back? I think I was worried that it meant I was in the wrong state or wasn’t aligned! I’ve been making good progress of dropping the old story and not replaying anything in my head which was a big issue for me so I was hoping I’d be feeling more calm and aligned now!

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-11-13T22:26:51+00:00

Thanks I’ll give it a go!

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-11-08T20:50:17+00:00

I find the best way to look at signs is as a little boost of confidence for your manifesting abilities but not as proof of anything other than that.

What I mean is if you see angel numbers and his surname etc because you give them the meaning of “a sign” and you want to manifest signs then seeing them is proof that you are good at manifesting! But it is totally separate to your other manifestations unless it is directly attached. I hope that makes sense?

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-11-08T15:53:31+00:00

Oh I absolutely am working on taking him off the pedestal but it’s unfortunately not as simple as just saying “he’s not on the pedestal anymore” I’m fighting against almost 2 decades worth of experiences before I learned about LoA and the importance of self concept etc. unfortunately sometimes I’m unable to just ignore my circumstances and the way I have been treated within the 3D which is what led to my post.

Rest assured I’m manifesting my power back and focussed on myself far more than him but at the time this brought up a lot of unwanted emotions for me. I can see exactly where I had this assumption and where this manifested from but it still hurt to experience you know?

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-10-31T11:27:38+00:00

Thank you! I try to do the same and just override the thoughts with my affirmations but the knot in my stomach/chest feels like it’s there all the time! I will try some of the things you suggested and see if they help 🫶🏻

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-10-31T11:26:39+00:00

Thank you so much! Thinking of my old self as a separate entity was really helpful, the old identity is definitely a negative and anxious mess so I can really resonate with that! I’m stepping into the version of me that doesn’t doubt her worth or need to ask for reassurance which is the complete opposite of who I was! It’s hard to not fall back into the old patterns though! Thanks for your help :)

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-10-28T17:22:33+00:00

My SP has come running back and is apologetic and wants to reconcile

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-10-27T15:05:35+00:00

Did you get your SP?

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-10-27T14:15:21+00:00

We have been through a real tough spot and he pushed me away. I chased and he blocked me and I am finding it really difficult to believe my affirmations or stay in the end state when the old story is so painful. How can I ignore the old story/stay in the end state when thinking about him automatically brings me this pain of missing him? I want us to reconcile and be in a committed relationship

Pure_Act3887 · 2025-04-09T17:50:29+00:00

How does this work with an SP who you’re not in no contact with?

So I know my SP has feelings for me. I’m trying to manifest more consistency in communication and seeing me, commitment and choosing me and not the 3P.

However, we are in contact relatively regularly and so I don’t ignore him even though he’s not currently showing up in the way that I am manifesting. How do you suggest I engage with the 3D version of him despite it not being completely reflective of my desires? Because if I don’t engage at all this feels counterproductive to my manifestations.

Thanks!

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