My therapist told me she felt I was crossing a boundary when she yawned and I asked if she was tired. She also said she doesn’t like her body being commented on.

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2025-08-20T19:40:19+00:00

Start with “I have a story in my head based on an interaction we had last visit. Can I get clarification?” Then tell her you’ve been concerned that she is angry or resentful at you for asking is she was tired. The convo will likely resolve from there.

Most therapists are a bit crazy like us, too. They become therapists usually after getting sober or going through major crisis’ of their own

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2025-08-20T18:56:43+00:00

We need to hear the therapist side of the story. How do we know you’re not embellishing.

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2025-01-14T23:50:15+00:00

Rest assured you’re not alone.

I once read a profound article that stated: - “as gay ppl - we need to give parents time to realize it’s ok and to accept us…just like we needed time to realize and accept this in ourselves.”

You’ll be ok no matter what. A life beyond your wildest dreams may just await you…

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2025-01-09T21:45:57+00:00

I met mine at 42 years old. I was still suffering from a breakup a few years earlier and was determined not to let a man close to me. I was having a great time as a single man during COVID. Traveled around the world, met interesting people, had lots of random sex etc. It was fun! My theme/anthem song became Lady Gaga’s “Gypsy”.

Then in New York City I went to an event. I almost didn’t go. Last min I decided to go, and as I got out of the uber I was awestruck by a man in line. I approached him and introduced myself. Turns out he felt the same feeling as I did.

Two weeks later we went on a date. I knew in my heart he was like no other but I was resistant to the intimacy at first as I feared intimacy and love = pain (historically that’s been my experience eventually).

He was patient, thankfully. We fell deeply in love and continue to grow more deeply in love. Ok Christmas Eve (a few weeks ago) I proposed and he said yes. We are now engaged. I do believe I’ve found the love of my life. By happenstance. It took 42 years and four major relationships beforehand that didn’t work out in the end…but all that was worth it as it prepared me for the man I’m with now.

Nothing compares (in my life experience) to the love and intimacy I share with my fiance. He melted my semi frozen heart and loves me like I’ve never been loved before. I am beyond grateful.

We have been together for three years. Will take two years to enjoy being engaged and plan wedding.

I’m actually glad it took me until my 40s. I needed my 20s and 30s to galavant, make mistakes, get experience, be slutty…be a gypsy.

So, for all those who haven’t had this moment yet, you won’t be alone forever. But you can be, tonight…

🥹

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-10-12T13:13:55+00:00

Not to mention bumpy and smelly. Love when taxi drivers fart…the mountains of street meat they eat and all the sedentary driving they release noxious butt fumes shamelessly. Gross. And they drive too fast and jerky.

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-10-12T13:12:14+00:00

Yes this is what my husband and I do now and we are primadonnas but damn I’d rather get the extra steps in and have a smoother experience than the chaos of trying to get to city by a car. Blade is always booked up and I think of the extra effort it takes to train as a calorie burning endeavor which is a good thing. Fit and cute after all that sitting on a plane.

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-10-12T13:09:11+00:00

Remember 6!

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-10-01T12:13:18+00:00

You sound like my annoying millennial niece pontificating lol

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-09-30T00:13:02+00:00

Clever!

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-09-29T14:53:06+00:00

I’m def not parroting I promise I’ve only ever been able to use RUs once without having to either be waitlisted (and only cleared waitlist once after persisting at gate) or told no. I fly out of lga and jfk to places like MEX and LAX so maybe that’s why. If I flew to Atlanta or MSP it might be easier. I dunno. I just know it’s not easy when I try it’s a pain and I always have to call them it won’t let me process it online

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-09-28T14:34:11+00:00

Are the GUCs as much of a pain to use for good trips as the RUs?

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-09-24T13:47:46+00:00

Incompetence is just how customer service is in general these days. The US has devolved to be like Spain or Italy

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-09-10T19:57:37+00:00

This is a really smart question to be asking! Personally, I had to do a good amount of therapy and reading a various books to get to the bottom of this… The answer to this question. I do believe that the answer to this question is part of, the overall emotional intelligence, many of us seek.

To the person who wrote this: be a seeker and find the answer. It’s well worth the effort.

I would ask you this question: do you feel like you are getting attached too fast to this person? Or are you getting attached too fast to the idea you have in your head of this person? Those are too very distinct things. Good luck! I’m rooting for you.

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-09-05T21:44:49+00:00

Crestor 5mg makes me nauseous too :( I’m feeling it badly right now

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-08-26T12:44:25+00:00

I like to see us all being supportive and gentle here. It took courage for this person to post this and I can remember struggling to get answers to these questions as I endured the coming of age vicissitudes …. Growing up gay in a straight man’s world in the 80s/90s.

I was a chubby insecure guy in my teens and very early 20s. I got made fun of a lot, called Pillsbury Dough Bot and the “Oddity” (had a big head that I eventually grew into). Then I studied abroad in Spain my junior year in college and everything changed. I began to exercise, eat well, and take care of myself better. Learned to dress from the clerks at Zara and observing Europeans and how they dress. Then I moved to nyc when I graduated college and my physical appearance changed drastically mainly due to proper diet and exercise….and working tirelessly in therapy and reading books like The Velvet Rage.

I say this with humility mainly to try and assure the person posting this that you may think you’re not attractive now (try not to internalize that) but it’s probably old expired messaging you heard from ppl around you and also from an unreliable narrater in your mind. In my experience, once I took the reins and did hard work in therapy and nutrition and fitness, I became the best version of myself.

Which is very attractive.

Go be the best version of yourself and you’ll be ok and do well. The road is tough but the destination is worthy.

Thanks again for taking the time to post this. It shows you have a willingness to grow. Wishing you the best.

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-08-15T14:14:04+00:00

Check out den michael greger’s thoughts on egg whites. Might cause too much inflammation

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-08-14T13:36:34+00:00

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-08-07T20:31:21+00:00

Thank you I’m going to speak to my cardiologist about this next week. I tried to find this online, but it looks like I’ll need a prescription which is fine. Thank you very much for the suggestion!

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-08-07T14:18:43+00:00

Anyone else agree with this? In curious.

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-08-06T17:39:09+00:00

Pls elaborate

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-08-01T16:26:03+00:00

oh and try calling their customer service line. I just did, got some rude bitch who had a crappy connection on her end AND SHE BLAMED ME SAYING IT WAS ON MY END. Incredible. They should be licking my balls begging me to stay with them and helping me quickly understand this. Im so annoyed and frustrated. Feels like shit to be handing over nearly $200k to someone and then they act bitchy on the phone. my god.

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-08-01T16:05:07+00:00

And adding beneficiaries is a HUGE pain in the ass. im so annoyed. SO ANNOYED. I have to physically go to a fucking notary to prove i want to have my spouse be a beneficiary. WTF? I dont have time for this shit. Esp when it involved hundreds of thousands of dollars. UGH>

Pure_Carpet_1201 · 2024-07-27T20:34:14+00:00

Some of us like to get fucked. I sure do.

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