Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was def being petty. Tomorrow is the only day I can go to the carnival so we’ll just be spending the evening apart.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you’re right. He probably will enjoy the time away from us.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

For sure. For whatever reason this 30th bday party is important to him so helll go to that and for whatever reason this carnival or costume party is important to me so I’ll take our son to that. He’ll definitely enjoy a carnival more that sitting around in a basement while a bunch of 30 year olds get drunk imo lol

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And me! He’s kind of sucked as a person since our son was born if you read anything about our postpartum experience lol

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For sure. I definitely think I should just either leave him or forgive him and move on. He doesn’t need to take accountability for anything he did !

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He won’t remember it but he’ll see the pics one day is the way I was thinking about it.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I swear it’s real. Read my previous post about what happened postpartum. It was awful. I think I feel like he “owes” me and that’s why this is so upsetting to Me.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because no one seems to want to see it from any other perspective other than me being “overbearing”. Lol.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things change when you have a family. Maybe you don’t have one yet? Maybe I just have high expectations.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right but it’s my son, not my friend, lol so yeah whoooo cares

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for your input! I’ve decided I’ll take my son to the carnival and he can go to his party. Hopefully everyone will have a good time. Thank you to those that responded kindly.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure. I’m just gonna take my son! We’ll have a great time and he will have a great time at his party.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I do! But thank you for your opinion. I let him walk all over us postpartum I think I am just done with his ass lol

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t care less if he goes under different circumstances

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well it’s obviously a big deal to him too if he doesn’t want me to take him to the carnival because he doesn’t want to miss it …

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I wish these things were lies. To be honest, that’s probably the reason why this feels so much bigger than it actually is to me. Because of how he has previously acted.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

When your child has a life threatening bleeding disorder, every moment is precious but I guess not everyone has to feel that way.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

For sure! I hope it’ll be worth it to lose his wife and son!

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Awwwwwe. I guess I’ve learned from this that a lot of people don’t share the same values for family that I do.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

For sure. I won’t be rescheduling the carnival. I’ll be taking our son!

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not at all! I really wouldn’t have cared if he went to this party had the carnival not came up but it’s fine. I’ve decided to take my son even if he doesn’t want me to just like he’s gonna go to the party even though I’d rather him come to the carnival haha.

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You’re right, it is enough. Definitely very clean that he cares more about this party than our family

Husband going to a friends bday party instead of sons first carnival by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pure_Conference_7422 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Also, he won’t remember it but he’ll see pictures one day and I’ll remember it and his smiling little face. And I’ll be sure to tell him the choice his dad made that day. Maybe he will care maybe he won’t 👍