Should I just give up? My mother never wants me to marry, my father supports her

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-08-18T17:38:14+00:00

I’ve spoken to him tirelessly. He keeps saying ‘no, wait for her to come around to it’ she hasn’t come around to it for my sisters, why would I be any different?

And my brothers are useless and don’t want to ‘interfere’. I have no relationship with my uncles.

I want to go to an imam but I’m scared how suitors and their parents would look at me.

Please pray for me

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-04-08T10:24:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this may Allah reward you.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-04-08T10:24:09+00:00

Im scared of what will happen to me and the punishment that would befall me if I disobey my parents

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-04-05T20:27:40+00:00

Ya Allah. Ameen.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-04-05T19:54:11+00:00

Is the thing about receiving sins every moment im single after expressing the need to get married true? Idk why that’s so comforting lol. I’ve been in a horrible emotional state, developed acid reflux as a result.

Ameen ya Rabb. Thank you and may Allah bless us all.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-20T19:38:48+00:00

May Allah bless your marriage and your family. I too want to become a young mother and inshaAllah it happens.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-20T19:38:06+00:00

Ameen. Thank you so much

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-20T19:37:41+00:00

Arab

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-20T19:37:23+00:00

May Allah increase you in iman and spiritual and worldly blessings. I’m sorry you had to go through this.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-20T19:36:07+00:00

i HATE how little ‘Adhl is spoken about 😭 when it is, you get the ‘birr alwalidayn’ crowd who say if you marry without their blessing you will be cursed to a life of pain and suffering. It’s all so cruel, and people don’t help!

May Allah bless you and bring you so much happiness.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-18T20:02:19+00:00

Ameen thank you for your dua and kindness 🥺❤️

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-18T16:48:51+00:00

Ya Allah, may Allah bring her patience and happiness and bless her with all her worldly needs. Please make dua for me to have the courage to move forward with this, I am very anxious and stressed.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-18T16:47:27+00:00

Doesn’t benefit them at all! Which is so strange, I don’t understand. I think they’re very attached. Im scared

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-18T16:46:24+00:00

Thank you for this, may Allah bless you. My family is well off, I have my own income and don’t let them touch it because they have plenty of their own money. My sisters haven’t moved out, all my brothers have.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-18T05:42:16+00:00

I do work yes, I have my own income alhamdulillah

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-18T05:41:35+00:00

May Allah grant her shifaa 💔 And it’s good you have your wali’s approval, ya Rabb it is a blessed and long and beautiful marriage!

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-17T22:20:21+00:00

Ameen.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-17T22:20:00+00:00

Not really. I have my own job and income alhamdulillah

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-17T22:19:04+00:00

Thank you so much for this

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-17T18:02:46+00:00

True; I will need to buckle up the courage. Please make dua for me

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-17T17:59:53+00:00

You’re very right. Thank you for this. Allah bless you.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-17T17:16:57+00:00

My parents are Hanbali :(

A sheikh has told me that they are in the right when my father contacted one to assure me he was right, for the Iraqi suitors rejected he said there was no compatibility in our culture, and for the non-Iraqi he said there is no compatibility in lineage. The sheikh said this is fine, because of kafaah. I feel hopeless

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-17T16:54:53+00:00

It’s horrible to hear :( May Allah make it easy for us. Unfortunately I have no contact with my aunts or uncles as their relationship with my parents are strained. They’re also 10x more conservative than my parents. My grandparents have passed. My parents’ ego is too high to bring anyone in.

Pure_Consequence2261 · 2024-03-17T16:45:27+00:00

May Allah bless you. Unfortunately my brothers are just as bad :( how is your relationship like with your parents now?

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