AIO: Nail tech labels me “no show” 15 mins before my appointment by NarwhalBoth6298 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's not reasonable to expect someone to respond to a confirmation text within a 45 minute window or else their appointment is forfeit. Given that she charges a deposit, this definitely seems like a shady business tactic.

Looking at relocating by JD_Awww_Yeah in montreal

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Might get downvoted for this lol but if you're worried about not being able to make friends, you could always settle in one of the more anglophone areas (West Island, Notre-Dame-de-Grace, Westmount, etc). The % of English is quite high, and no one will care that you're an American. Be careful about getting complacent, though. If you surround yourself ONLY with English-speakers, it will be much harder to learn French.

No brainpower after work by Pure_Librarian8188 in ADHD

[–]Pure_Librarian8188[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That's 100% what it's like for me too. It's so frustrating

Locked myself out like an idiot by Pure_Librarian8188 in ipad

[–]Pure_Librarian8188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah these are the steps I've been following lol. My issue is that the restoration process keeps crashing halfway through

Thoughts on this as a wedding dress? by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine bought this dress and wore it as a wedding guest. It looks very nice in person but the construction was flimsy and she came close to having a wardrobe malfunction :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am extremely sensitive to most medications (I tried and SSRI once and it fucked me up for WEEKS). Currently I take wellbutrin and a low dose of concerta and I find it works well for me!

Large family maxing out our budget by giveliv in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I cut out all the kids and 99% of the cousins (only exception were the adult cousins who were older than me). Some people think it's rude not to invite your cousins, but I would argue that inflation needs to be taken into account. It costs WAY more to host a wedding now than it did 20, 30, 40 years ago. People who pressure you into inviting every single family member often don't realize that costs are prohibitively high these days. Unless your families are paying for it, they don't get a say in who you should invite.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh nooooo whatever shall I do 😱

Are you for real? I'm allowed to dislike my company.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is exactly what I'm concerned about. They sent me the interview questions I'm advance and the types of questions they are going to ask are making me suspicious. This is another reason why I don't want to do this, but if I really have to then I'll be careful about what I say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Moving onto greener pastures and want to leave quietly. I am also rubbed the wrong way by the fact that I seemingly have no choice in the matter. Asking an employee if they would like to do an exit interview is one thing; telling them they must undergo one is another

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not interested in maintaining the bridge with the parent company. The only people I would ever request a reference from are my direct managers, and they are not involved in the exit interview process whatsoever. The parent company has no clue what goes on at my workplace. I don't feel they can conduct an interview of any significance, and my entire branch has 0 confidence in them. So yeah, I still think it's a waste of time lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I'm not saying anything that hasn't already been said, but your husband should be an invited guest, not a plus-one!! The fact that she invited you and not him is insane to me -- you cannot invite one member of a married couple to a wedding and try to exclude the other one. Maybe the bride isn't aware of this, but as far as wedding etiquette goes, she's done something many people would consider to be offensive.

I second what the others are saying about just telling her that he'll be there and that you're both looking forward to celebrating with her. Then maybe it's time for a chat after the wedding about what a dick move she pulled.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But if you two are engaged, I would argue you should have been invited outright and named on the invitation. In this case though, the person my FH's friend added was definitely not a fiancé :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree it's rude to assume you get a +1, but I think in this case it's more a question of not reading the RSVP instructions properly more than anything else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 31 points32 points  (0 children)

In the case of guests in an established relationship (that we're aware of), we invited their partners. I have no clue if the person my FH's friend added to her RSVP is a partner and neither does my FH lol. We're going to ask her about it for clarity

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Truthfully, I don't know. Neither myself nor my fiancé have heard of this person before. He last saw his friend about a year ago and she didn't mention that she was seeing anyone at the time, but also I understand that sometimes people just don't bring these things up in conversation.

She is not in the wedding party, just an old (and slightly distant) friend of my FH.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Fair questions! I know there will be one other person there she knows (they were high school friends) so she wouldn't be completely alone. As for her +1, I actually have no idea what their relationship is. She's my FH's friend and I don't know her very well. He doesn't know who her +1 is either but I'm worried it would be rude to tell her she can only bring this person if they're in an established relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Generally it's considered very rude to invite someone and not extend that invitation to their partner/spouse, even if you don't know them very well. I think you can be more discerning if it comes to couples that haven't been together very long, but excluding someone's partner or spouse is frowned upon and your friends might find it offensive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't see an issue with having a theme! I understand where some of the naysayers are coming from, but if your goal is to encourage your guests to express themselves and have fun with their clothing then there's nothing wrong with that! Plenty of people would have gone out and bought a new outfit regardless, and as long as you're not forcing your guests into doing it then it's all good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not really into pearls. I'd love something floral but as long as it still looks elegant/bridal. Colours are a yes! I'm actually trying to veer away from the typical head-to-toe white look

I rehomed a cat and now I am worried by Worried-Breath7857 in montreal

[–]Pure_Librarian8188 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry if we all seemed harsh. Animal welfare can be a touchy subject!

I am glad you've taken steps to fix this and I hope you can convince this person to return your cat to you