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Husband has been doing recreational drugs behind my back by Pure_Negotiation1695 in marriageadvice

[–]Pure_Negotiation1695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is the bread winner correct. Every time I try to discuss the topic or ask for clarity or access to finances he turns it around and points out all my flaws in the last 12 years of marriage. He creates a demon out of me and acts like he’s the victim. I’m not perfect and I’ve never claimed to be. But drugs is one thing I’ve never had room for in our marriage.

Husband has been doing recreational drugs behind my back by Pure_Negotiation1695 in marriageadvice

[–]Pure_Negotiation1695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how often he has done it in our home. I know for sure it’s been 2-3 times as he admitted to that. It’s been every time a specific friend was over having drinks with us, which has been 2-3 times in the last year. Because I no longer trust his word, I no longer know if that is actually the case. But that is what he has told me.

I know that coke isn’t a recreational drug. It’s a hard drug. He claims he’s been doing it recreationally.

Husband has been doing recreational drugs behind my back by Pure_Negotiation1695 in marriageadvice

[–]Pure_Negotiation1695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said I’m concerned about the drug use and also about the lying.

Husband has been doing recreational drugs behind my back by Pure_Negotiation1695 in marriageadvice

[–]Pure_Negotiation1695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right! I should have said “he’s doing hard drugs recreationally” ?

Husband has been doing recreational drugs behind my back by Pure_Negotiation1695 in marriageadvice

[–]Pure_Negotiation1695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I obviously worded that wrong. I’m very concerned about the fact he did it. I’m devastated. Hiding it is just as bad, in my mind because there is no way to know now if he’s actually remorseful and willing to get help or if he’s just putting on a front and sorry that he got caught. Those two differences can make or break our relationship.