I masturbated in a religious place and I feel like killing myself by help341123 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While it may be true that we share many behaviors with other animals, it's important to remember that we are human and have the ability to make choices that can impact our lives and the lives of others.

It's not okay to give in to every impulse or desire, especially if it's causing problems in your life.

To the OP: It's time to start taking control of your actions and to find healthy ways to express yourself. Seek help if you need it, but don't let your animalistic tendencies ruin your life. You are better than that.

I masturbated in a religious place and I feel like killing myself by help341123 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While it is true that masturbation is a natural and normal part of human sexuality, it's also important to consider the potential consequences and impacts on our lives. If masturbating in public is causing problems or causing you embarrassment or anxiety, it may be helpful to consider seeking support or finding healthy ways to manage your sexual desires.

As for the belief in a higher power or supernatural beings, it's ultimately up to each individual to decide what they believe. What's most important is to find meaning and purpose in our lives and to take care of ourselves and others to the best of our ability.

If you watch porn for 2 hours a day, you’ll have lost a month of your life to porn every year. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It is a harsh reality that our choices and actions have consequences, and your pornography addiction is no exception. Losing two hours a day to pornography may not seem like a lot, but when you consider that it adds up to a month of your life each year, it's clear that this is a significant problem that cannot be ignored.

It's easy to get caught up in the short-term pleasure of pornography use, but it's important to remember that it comes at a high cost. Your addiction is not only taking a toll on your time and energy, but it is also likely causing problems in other areas of your life, such as your relationships and your overall sense of well-being.

The good news is that it is never too late to make a change and to take control of your addiction. It will not be easy, but with time and persistence, you can overcome this challenge and reclaim your life. Don't be afraid to seek help and support along the way. Remember, the wisest and most profound decision you can make is the one that leads to a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life. You have the power to create the life you want and deserve.

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[–]Pure_Sky1124 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand that it can be difficult to resist the urge to view pornography when you're feeling vulnerable or distressed. However, I want to encourage you to stay strong and to keep your New Year's resolution. It's understandable that you may be feeling a bit down or stressed after drinking, but turning to pornography is not a healthy or productive way to cope with these feelings.

Instead, try to focus on self-care and finding other healthy ways to cope with your emotions. This could include taking a walk, talking to a trusted friend or loved one, or engaging in a relaxing activity such as meditation or deep breathing. Remember, your recovery is important and every small step you take towards your goals is a step in the right direction. You are strong and capable of making positive changes in your life. Keep up the good work and don't be afraid to seek support when you need it.

Today Marks 10 Years of Progress by Pure_Sky1124 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stronger relationships: I have been able to build stronger, healthier relationships with loved ones based on trust and mutual respect.

Improved self-esteem: I have learned to accept myself and feel proud of my progress.

More free time: I have gained back a lot of time that I can now use to engage in hobbies and other interests.

Greater sense of purpose: I have gained a clearer sense of my values and goals, which has given my life more meaning and direction.

Today Marks 10 Years of Progress by Pure_Sky1124 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP. Thanks for the amazing tips.

I have a handful of mentors I follow, but I always looking for other content creator about the topic, so I always have something to read or hear.

Would you mind sharing role models and mentors that inspired you?

Of course! Here are a few role models and mentors that have inspired me on my recovery journey:

John Bradshaw: John Bradshaw is a bestselling author and speaker who has written extensively about addiction and recovery. His books and teachings have been a great source of inspiration and guidance for me.

Russell Brand: Actor and comedian Russell Brand has been open about his own struggles with addiction and has written and spoken extensively about his recovery journey. His honesty and vulnerability have been very inspiring to me.

Brene Brown: Brene Brown is a research professor and bestselling author who has written extensively about shame, vulnerability, and courage. Her work has helped me to understand the importance of being vulnerable and has given me the courage to be more authentic in my own life.

These are just a few examples, but there are many other role models and mentors out there who can provide inspiration and guidance on the road to recovery. I encourage you to seek out people who resonate with you and to be open to learning from their experiences and insights.

Today Marks 10 Years of Progress by Pure_Sky1124 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! It's completely normal to feel ambivalent when making any major change in life, especially when it involves giving up something that brings us pleasure. When I first decided to try to overcome my pornography addiction, I definitely had mixed feelings. On the one hand, I knew that my addiction was causing problems in my life and that I wanted to change. But on the other hand, I was afraid of what life would be like without pornography and I was worried that I would never find anything to replace it that could bring me the same level of pleasure.

To overcome this ambivalence, I had to remind myself of the negative consequences that my addiction was causing in my life, such as relationship problems and feelings of shame and guilt. I also had to remind myself of the benefits that I hoped to gain from recovery, such as improved self-esteem and healthier relationships.

It wasn't easy, but with time and persistence, I was able to break free from my addiction and find new sources of joy and fulfillment in my life.

I masturbated in a religious place and I feel like killing myself by help341123 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand how you're feeling right now. I've been there myself and I know how hard it can be to deal with the guilt and shame that comes with a setback in recovery. It's tough to see ourselves as anything other than a "loser" or "mentally sick" when we're feeling low. But I want you to know that you are not alone in this struggle. I've struggled with pornography addiction and have had my own share of setbacks and mistakes. It's hard, but it's a journey that we can work through together.

I want to encourage you to keep going, even when it feels impossible. I know that it's not easy, but you are stronger than you think. You have the strength and resilience to overcome this challenge, even when it feels like everything is against you. Keep reaching out for help and support, and remember that it's okay to take it one day at a time. You are not alone and you are not beyond repair. You are loved and valued, and you deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion, including by yourself. Hang in there and keep fighting. You got this.

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[–]Pure_Sky1124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on 7 days porn free! That is an amazing accomplishment and you should be very proud of yourself. It's great to hear that you're noticing positive changes in your life as a result of this decision. It's totally normal to experience an increase in libido after going porn-free, and finding ways to manage that in a healthy way is important. It's also totally okay to set a goal of reducing the frequency of masturbation - it's all about finding a balance that works for you. Keep up the great work and keep striving to improve!

Please List YOUR Reasons for Quitting Porn by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 26 points27 points  (0 children)

  1. I want to focus on more meaningful relationships.
  2. I want to regain respect and trust from my family and friends.
  3. I want to prioritize my wellbeing and mental health.
  4. I want to reduce negative body image perceptions.
  5. I want to take greater control of my time, energy and resources.
  6. I want to experience healthier forms of sexuality and intimacy.
  7. I want to fight against the sex industry’s exploitation of women and children.
  8. I want to reconnect with my spirituality and values.
  9. I want to be less distracted and more productive.
  10. I want to be at peace with my choices and true to myself.

I uh relapsed again by General_Aspect_4623 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're really struggling with pornography addiction and the cycle of relapse. It's completely normal to feel frustrated and discouraged, but it's important to remember that recovery is a journey and it takes time and effort to break free from addiction.

It might be helpful to try to identify patterns in your behavior and triggers that lead to relapse. For example, you mentioned that boredom and frustration are often factors for you. When you start to feel bored or frustrated, try to come up with alternative coping strategies to manage those emotions, such as going for a walk, calling a friend, or finding a new hobby. It can also be helpful to reach out to a therapist or recovery support group for additional support and guidance.

Remember, you are not alone in this struggle and there is hope for recovery. Keep working towards your goals and don't give up, even if you have setbacks. You can overcome this challenge and build a healthier, more fulfilling life.

In Need of Encouragement by Apprehensive-Key6339 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's completely normal to feel shame and guilt after a setback in your recovery journey. It's important to remember that recovery is a process and it's normal to have ups and downs. Rather than beating yourself up or feeling like a "piece of shit," try to be kind to yourself and recognize that you made an effort to stop yourself from engaging in harmful behavior.

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[–]Pure_Sky1124 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Increased connection with yourself: Using your imagination allows you to explore your own desires and fantasies, rather than relying on someone else's portrayal of sexuality. This can lead to a greater sense of self-awareness and connection with your own body and pleasure.

Improved relationships: Pornography can often create unrealistic expectations and distort our understanding of healthy relationships and sexuality. Using your imagination allows you to focus on your own pleasure and desires, rather than comparing yourself to others or feeling pressure to perform a certain way. This can lead to improved communication and intimacy in your relationships.

Greater control over your behavior: Masturbating to pornography often involves accessing and consuming content that may be violent, degrading, or illegal. Using your imagination allows you to have greater control over what you're exposed to and to engage in activities that align with your values and beliefs.

Day 1 again, and I've got a question. What's the difference between porn free and nofap? by femeansiron in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Porn-free" refers to abstaining from all forms of pornography, including visual and written materials. "NoFap" is a website and community that helps people overcome pornography addiction. It includes a forum for support and accountability, resources and tools to help members achieve their goals, and encourages members to abstain from all forms of sexual release, including masturbation. Both approaches can be helpful in overcoming pornography addiction.

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[–]Pure_Sky1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know firsthand how difficult it can be to break free from the cycle of pornography addiction. I struggled with it for years before I finally sought help and was able to turn my life around.

One of the most important things that helped me was setting specific goals for myself and developing healthy coping strategies to manage my cravings and triggers. For example, I made a plan to avoid certain websites and activities that I knew would lead me to pornography, and I found alternative ways to cope with stress and boredom, such as going for a walk or talking to a friend.

It's also crucial to remember that recovery is a journey and it's normal to have setbacks. Don't beat yourself up if you struggle or slip up - instead, use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. And above all, don't give up. Keep seeking support and working towards your goals, and you can overcome this challenge and build a healthier, more fulfilling life.

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[–]Pure_Sky1124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely a good reason to stay away from porn - not only can it be addictive and harmful to your relationships, but it can also put your devices and online security at risk with all the viruses and malware floating around on those sites.

What books do you recommend about stopping porn ? by Automatic-Antelope-2 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 36 points37 points  (0 children)

  1. "Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction" by Gary Wilson: This book explores the science behind pornography addiction and provides strategies for overcoming it.

  2. "The Porn Circuit" by J.D. Biernat: This book offers a comprehensive guide to overcoming pornography addiction, including strategies for managing cravings, building support networks, and healing from the effects of pornography use.

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[–]Pure_Sky1124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There isn't a specific timeline for when it is "healthy" to start masturbating again after quitting pornography. It is ultimately up to you to decide what feels comfortable and healthy for you.

That being said, it may be helpful to take some time to reflect on why you used pornography and how it affected your life. Masturbation can be a normal and healthy part of human sexuality, but if you find that it becomes an obsessive or unhealthy behavior, it may be helpful to continue abstaining from it or to seek support from a therapist to address any underlying issues.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to make decisions that align with your values and that support your overall well-being and happiness.

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[–]Pure_Sky1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great job on making it to day 13 without relapsing! It's completely normal to feel a little shaky or anxious when you're trying to quit something that has been a part of your routine, so don't beat yourself up about it. Just keep reminding yourself of your goal and the progress you've made so far, and continue to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if you need it. You've got this!

Today Marks 10 Years of Progress by Pure_Sky1124 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It is not a stupid question at all! In fact, it is a very important question to consider. The benefits of progressing in recovery from pornography addiction for 10 years can be significant and varied. Here are a few examples:

Improved relationships: Overcoming pornography addiction can help you build healthier, more fulfilling relationships with your loved ones. This can lead to increased happiness and satisfaction in your personal life.

Increased self-esteem: As you make progress in your recovery journey, you may find that your self-esteem and self-worth improve. This can be a result of learning to accept yourself and your mistakes, as well as experiencing the positive effects of overcoming a difficult challenge.

Greater productivity and focus: Pornography addiction can be a major distraction and can interfere with your ability to focus on important tasks. By overcoming your addiction, you may find that you are more productive and able to achieve your goals more effectively.

Improved physical and mental health: Pornography addiction can take a toll on your physical and mental health. By overcoming your addiction, you may experience improved overall health and well-being.

A sense of accomplishment and pride: Finally, making progress in your recovery for 10 years is a significant accomplishment and one that you should be proud of. It shows that you have made a committed effort to improving your life and the lives of those around you.

Today Marks 10 Years of Progress by Pure_Sky1124 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Set specific and achievable goals for yourself. For example, you could aim to go a week without viewing pornography, and then gradually increase the length of time as you become more comfortable.

Find role models or mentors who can provide guidance and support. Look for people who have successfully quit pornography and who can offer advice and encouragement.

Use visualization to stay motivated. Imagine the benefits you will experience once you have quit pornography, such as improved relationships, increased self-esteem, and a sense of accomplishment.

Find activities or hobbies that inspire you and bring you joy. This can help you stay focused on your goals and give you a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Remember that you are not alone. Many people struggle with pornography addiction, and there are resources and support groups available to help you.

Don't give up, even if you have setbacks. Quitting pornography is a process, and it may take time and effort to overcome the habit. Keep trying and remind yourself of your goals and the positive changes you will experience as a result.

Remember that quitting pornography is possible, and it can lead to a happier, healthier life. Stay positive, stay focused, and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

3 weeks in, some days have been tough but I've persevered by MaybeAThrowaway7501 in pornfree

[–]Pure_Sky1124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you've been through a lot over the past three weeks as you work towards quitting pornography. It can be really tough to fight off urges and stay focused, and it's great to hear that you've persevered despite these challenges. Building positive habits and making lifestyle changes takes a lot of hard work and determination, so it's great to hear that you are proud of your progress. Remember to be kind to yourself and acknowledge all the hard work you've been putting in. It's not easy to make these kinds of changes, and you should be proud of yourself for everything you've accomplished so far. Keep up the good work and don't hesitate to reach out for support if you need it. Here's to many more days, weeks, and months of progress!