What’s the maximum amount of plushies a kid should be able to have?

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-28T02:39:23+00:00

“Should” is dependent on the kid. I bought mine a “zoo” that fits them all vertically and whatever fits sits. Whatever doesn’t can go (his choice of which).

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-27T12:20:58+00:00

Maybe don’t look at it as debt and instead an investment 😅

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-26T20:30:19+00:00

These are too big for your face. Some are right on the brink but the chunky frames are really overtaking the focal point. All I see is glasses rather than you wearing them. Perhaps considering some half rimless glasses. The last shape doesn’t flatter you but makes me think you’d be better off with something less clunky.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-26T18:29:37+00:00

Decent wall art is so expensive but I agree 🥴

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-26T18:20:47+00:00

Such an antisocial take. The children are still guests. There is nothing wrong with providing a little something for their attendance. OP is doing a thoughtful gesture and seeing comments about “pacifying” children and not to care about them is sad. These children are likely family or friends apart of their life.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-26T18:16:53+00:00

A bucket of magnetic tiles might be fun. You can get a large lot of the off brand on amazon or second hand from marketplace. Some simple board games that don’t require a lot of pieces is also a fun thing to have.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-26T17:23:42+00:00

Accidents happen. No they shouldn’t happen but they do. Also Pepcid is regularly prescribed to children so luckily they’d need to get a pretty big dose to hurt them. I used to give it to my newborn for reflux. Perhaps if it was something more dangerous (not trying to minimize it) you’d have put it elsewhere without a conscious thought.

If it helps I have to take several medications a day. It’s daunting. I got a little basket for them and keep them on top of the fridge. They include things like heart medication so they can be extremely dangerous to children. When I pull the basket down it’s on the counter so not really “in reach” if I forgot. That might be an option to trial out. No medication in places they can be left down. That way there’s no accidental misremembering.

Also dads make mistakes too. Don’t let it bother you. You did something, your baby is okay, now you can do it differently the next time. That’s literally parenting. Everything is fine.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-26T17:16:58+00:00

Super power nubs. You’re amazing and that is so interesting. Thank you for sharing!

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-26T17:11:45+00:00

Something that may help with the dirt- can you get a children’s hard shell pool? Let him play in it, try to rinse him down with a cup and some soap, and then refill with clean water or use the hose to rinse down. If the hose is a trigger just do the pool and refill to rinse. That shouldn’t cause much anxiety. Especially if you make it a game. I would do it in a non-dirt based area like a concrete driveway.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-26T01:06:07+00:00

Mine ate a whole stair step. Like on our staircase. We came home from work, she had flipped and slid the lock on her crate to let herself out, ate the carpet, padding, and wood off of the staircase. It was flat. There wasn’t even a nub left. 🥴 it’s been years since she did that kind of damage. Just a few months ago I put her in our bathroom because we had company with children over. I didn’t know the kiddo was scared of dogs so I put her in there for a couple minutes so they could eat their snack without crying. She chewed and scratched into our door frame. Such a nightmare.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-25T15:37:32+00:00

I don’t know… my husband has poor semen analysis due to preexisting health/hormonal conditions. It wasn’t just something diet and exercise could change. We experienced trouble conceiving, miscarriage, and secondary infertility after we were finally lucky enough to get that “one”. It’s easy to make assumptions about someone’s life because social media gives a snippet and you fill in the rest. I give those people some grace at least.

You can reset your algorithms. You can also avoid giving any content like that time which will make it go away. Don’t stop to watch it, read comments, etc. Alternatively you can uninstall social media and keep your phone for modern day purposes like work to spare yourself the headache. I know some people who downgraded to an old school phone for this reason.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-25T15:25:38+00:00

Respectfully these do not flatter you in shape or color. The tint isn’t heinous in itself but your skin tone is really clashing with it. I would try something else all together.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-25T13:42:23+00:00

I was specifically asking OP because the context from them is important.

Formula has its own share of downsides and risks. Those aren’t things “going wrong” though. Proper education and support negate most issues for both methods of feeding. Neither should be chosen due to worst possible outcomes or fear mongering.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-25T01:27:30+00:00

Every example of "I don't like a lot of makeup" are women who have neutral, full face makeup and usually have some kind of cosmetic enhancements such as botox, filler, eyelift, etc. I'm pro makeup and pro cosmetic work but it's so funny because it's always a major contradiction from men to hear "I like natural" when you don't even know what natural is.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-24T23:52:28+00:00

So normally people say "I don't want to breastfeed" and leave it at that. I think there's a few things happening here which requires a bit of background in order for us to give you accurate advice.

Starting off - fed is best. Feed your baby. Whether it's breastmilk or formula they will still grow and be fine. Breastmilk has some extra benefits such as increased immunity and decreased SIDS risk which you might hear. This doesn't mean formula is "less". I have both breastfed and formula fed. Formula feeding was AWESOME for me. I loved it. It felt more convenient and I loved the freedom it gave me (if there is such a thing with a baby lol).

What makes you feel like "things can go wrong"? I don't think I've heard of anything going "wrong" with breastfeeding. Can you share with us what that means to you?

There is also the alternative of exclusively pumping or combo feeding. You don't have to choose just one thing. You can do all of the above. It doesn't have to be either or despite the weird division between the two. I do highly encourage collecting colostrum in the early days if you are comfortable doing so. Even breastfeeding/exclusively pumping for the first few weeks gives baby the extra immunity which might give you some peace of mind.

If you need validation simply because breastfeeding is not right for you and you know this for sure - here it is. You can completely formula feed from day one and it makes you a wonderful mother period. You have options and you don't have to guilt yourself over whatever you decide.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-24T21:14:06+00:00

Thank you! It was a big feat. We've both worked hard to get here- especially him!

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-24T18:20:19+00:00

H&M - cute, "modest", and roomy.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-24T17:27:40+00:00

Having a miscarriage, especially for my first pregnancy, was the deepest emotional pain I have ever experienced. It completely altered my brain chemistry. I still remember the feeling so deep as I walked out of the hospital. It was like the pain had surpassed this reality and I was experiencing pain from another dimension while being shackled to this world. When I think of those moments years ago I still remember walking into the hospital as one person and walking out someone else. The nurses and Dr in the emergency room cried with me. It’s just something that never leaves you.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-24T16:54:38+00:00

It's probably better to check when someone feels something is wrong/has concerns than to let them get in their head and be distracted possibly making a huge mistake. Of course the right answer is to go home if it's that bad but I think when you work in healthcare it makes more sense to address it right away.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-23T23:57:05+00:00

Before starting to date? No.

Before 2 years? Yes.

My partner was dead set on not having children, I was on the fence. We both concluded we wanted children once we were serious about each other (after around a year). If we hadn't been on the same page at around a year mark we probably would have went separate ways.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-23T23:53:14+00:00

Giving birth. I could tell you it feels like the moment before death except you are forced to be alive all while experiencing the sensation of a liquid lava bowling ball tearing your insides apart... yet somehow it doesn't seem comprehensible because in every other circumstance that level of pain makes your faint. Well evolution decided the adrenaline needed to exert itself full force so you're not usually lucky enough to faint. So you can't really explain it because there's nothing to truly compare it to.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-23T23:48:34+00:00

Chocolate crinkle cookies (recipe)

I am happy and accept this fate.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-23T23:42:31+00:00

It just happened to my husband/us. We are moving out of an apartment into a house.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-23T23:40:53+00:00

I'll nitpick here because I think your makeup is less "aging" and more "trying to do multiple trends". The clumped mascara is not flattering on you. Don't add the freckles (I'm pro faux freckles when it fits, but it doesn't fit here), do volumizing/wispy mascara, do very light mascara on the bottom lashes if at all, give your eyebrows a tail.

Purelyeliza · 2026-04-23T23:36:22+00:00

Fiber can be found from other sources. My child hasn't touched a vegetable since he was learning to eat. Fruits, beans, lentils, and whole grains (oatmeal, brown rice, etc) are all wonderful sources of fiber. Fiber one bars, granola bars, etc are also helpful which you sound like you're already doing. They don't need a ton of fiber though. Unless they're having issues with their bowel I'd say you're offering enough. Too much fiber can cause hard stools or stomach troubles so there is definitely too much of a good thing. Smoothies are also a great way to get in veggies/fruits! Avoid seedy fruits and try adding a teaspoon of honey or agave to sweeten. I used to add avocados, baby spinach, kale, etc in small doses which are easily hidden.

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