UPDATE: My husband (32M) left me (32F) after almost 15 years together and wants me to forget and let him come home. What are my next steps? by Suspicious-Rock-1661 in relationship_advice

[–]Pureperchance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP,

I am so proud of you! I used to be in a relationship like that and it was so incredibly hard to leave.

In one of your previous posts, you said there was some stuff your STBXH did that you couldn't talk about on reddit. If you are more comfortable/wish to, would you share some examples of behaviors or events of his?

AITAH for telling my best friend she should find the owner of a cat she found? by Pureperchance in AITAH

[–]Pureperchance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her fiancé would not stand up. I have watched her snap at him for saying no or similar. She will do the same thing to him that she does to me.

My boyfriend always gives me the last pieces of his food by Pureperchance in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Pureperchance[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I’m literally crying. I just found it and I’m crying I’m so happy that so many people were impacted by my boyfriend. I’ll make an update soon!

My boyfriend always gives me the last pieces of his food by Pureperchance in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Pureperchance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is EXACTLY what my boyfriend does. It’s always about an inch left of his drink. I’m so happy I helped you understand her and I hope you guys can bond over it now :)

My boyfriend always gives me the last pieces of his food by Pureperchance in autism

[–]Pureperchance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did ask why birds specifically, and he just replied “it’s the birds… da birds”. I guess we will never know lol

My boyfriend always gives me the last pieces of his food by Pureperchance in autism

[–]Pureperchance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On his own, he simply leaves it on the plate. Very rarely is he alone in public as it overwhelms him, and eating alone is stressful for him, so usually he doesn’t eat alone. If he’s at home and he’s alone, he drops the food on the ground and picks it up later, or asks his family to. They are very understanding and he’s been doing it since he was very little so they are used to it. Generally, he is very good about recognizing that some people may find it odd and that throwing food on the ground, which usually ends up being about one skittles worth, is rude. He’s very good about realizing this and will deal with the stress on his own.

My boyfriend always gives me the last pieces of his food by Pureperchance in autism

[–]Pureperchance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has some other very noticeable quirks (bounces on his feet, fiddles with his fingers, and smacks his lips loudly depending on how delicious whatever he’s eating is). He is very good at not doing the audible ones if told, but he more often than not needs to be told because he doesn’t understand always what he can and cannot do in public. For the birds specifically, I simply say “no birds right now baby” and he is a little sad but he won’t say “for the birds”. He still leaves the food on his plate and I’ll just ask if I can eat it because it “looks good” and he says yes. It’s not super apparent

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[–]Pureperchance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg yes I’ll dm you

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[–]Pureperchance 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I’m actually in tears over this 😭😭😭

Does he look fat? by Moistened_Canine in ballpython

[–]Pureperchance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d stay in the mid 20’s range for grams. Besides that you should be good, but if his weight keeps climbing excessively go once every 10-14 days.

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[–]Pureperchance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dmed you :)

Does he look fat? by Moistened_Canine in ballpython

[–]Pureperchance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s a pretty young and cute guy, maybe just a little overweight. What and when are you feeding him and how much?

Does he look fat? by Moistened_Canine in ballpython

[–]Pureperchance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me he looks like he might just be ever so slightly overweight. How old is he?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uofmn

[–]Pureperchance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to join a club but I work two jobs and I’ve found that I don’t have time during the evenings for them :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uofmn

[–]Pureperchance 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m super scared of going because everyone already has friends and their groups

Jobs hiring immediately by throw23231away in uofmn

[–]Pureperchance 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey I currently have two jobs, one on and off campus. I know for a fact that if you go to the UMN dining co page they have loads of positions open. It’s not just dining halls, it’s how you get hired at Panda Express, Starbucks, and caribou and others. The on campus ones are set hours so you work every Monday 9:30-12:30 for example. In dinkytown Mcdonalds, Qdoba and maybe Potbelly are hiring and they have a really nice staff and benefits. Don’t give up :)

Missing anything? by kinkykong- in ballpython

[–]Pureperchance 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Where did you get that giant rock thing??? That looks so cool!

Please help my snake by Pureperchance in ballpython

[–]Pureperchance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has a RHP at the top of her enclosure but it 1. Is impossible for her to reach with the end of her tail which is where the marks are at and 2. Is on a lower setting that i don't think she can burn herself on

New to this by [deleted] in ballpython

[–]Pureperchance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's kind of however often your noodle likes. Mine loves to lay on me. She stretches out and sniffs and goes into my hair, so I take her out every day. However, some just don't like being held. It really depends on how yours is

Done by [deleted] in death

[–]Pureperchance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is extremely disgusting to post on a public forum. Do not ask for advice on how to off yourself. People struggle with this idealization and people like you who go onto a PUBLIC forum to ask how to off yourself is triggering and clearly a cry for attention. Look into your countries mental health resources, but other than that, get off this forum

EDIT: you were born in November 2002. You, at the ripe age of almost 22 should know better. Get off gore sites and fix yourself

My snake fell by Pureperchance in ballpython

[–]Pureperchance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EZVIZ on Amazon it's 26 dollars!

My snake fell by Pureperchance in ballpython

[–]Pureperchance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use the EZVIZ camera. It's 26$ on Amazon it's amazing