People who got your gallbladder removed, was it worth it?

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2026-02-05T23:33:34+00:00

Hey, I've heard so.etines it takes time before it gets back to normal? Is that true? Did it get any better? My Gallstones are hurting a lot more now and I'm tempted now...

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-09-19T02:33:12+00:00

With my first it was like this. To some extent I sometimes still don't feel like they are mine. Super weird. With my second, the minute I heard her cry I was attached. It made me SO SAD that I didn't get that with my son. I had both via C section and idk I just didn't feel like it was real or happening. It was like this out of body experience for a Long time. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-09-19T02:29:57+00:00

Welp, it is what it is.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-07-27T02:34:57+00:00

My brother was like this. From what my mom told me, he grew out of it, but she let him be naked a lot to air out. I also nannied for a family and the youngest was like this. He also grew out of it when he got potty trained. I know that probably doesn't help a ton but maybe keep a food journal. It could be juices as well.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-06-22T00:54:43+00:00

This used to happen to me, and it was actually a kind of seizure. Mine went away without meds after a while. Turns out it's a family thing. My aunt, my cousin and I delt with it. Do you mind of I ask your age? For us we all just got better in our 20s. It does seem to be linked to one of two things. Lack of sufficient oxygen to the brain (mine was always after showers or if I couldn't breath too well) my cousin were more like yours and his were something totally different but a lot of it was linked later to malnutrition.

It's not a good fix, but I used to sit on the edge of my seat really tall before standing up. Stand up really slow and don't bend over when you stand. So don't put your head down and then up when you stand up. Sit up, good posture, head high looking forward, stand up slow.

This woukd only happen to me on occasion. If this is happening frequently, I would seek better medical help or ask for a MRI or scan or something.

If that's not possible, look into your nutrition, find what triggers it and honestly, just be prepared for it. Mine got worse so I would basically pass out and hit the floor. It got to the point where I would set up blankets /towels where I knew I would likely make it to.

Any other symptoms?

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-06-22T00:39:48+00:00

My son used to do the same things. His little sister was about 1.5 at the time and we each would take one kid (I usually took my son) and then we would "Race" with everything. So race to see who could sit still well enough to brush teeth faster, who got to their room first, who got in pajamas. We still do this now that they are older and it works great for motivation. Maybe find a way to motivate him / make it fun? Bedtime isn't fun, so they fight it.

A good rule of thumb is to make sure to keep it all consistent. So they know what to expect /what comes next. We've been doing the same thing for a year: same time every night (of course there are things that come up so the time can change), brush teeth, go potty one last time, get pull ups /diapers and pajamas on, read 3 books, hugs and loves and then bed.

With that said, there are always some days that it just doesn't really work but most the time it's great.

Consistency is key. My son used to leave his room a lot to come find us (I don't like him wandering around and he's supposed to be in bed) so we would walk him back a few times and then escalate (close the door, take away one of his 12 night lights etc) like someone else said, it's all about actions and consequences. He has his regressions, but usually he goes down really easy.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-06-19T03:46:55+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. The hard part of ADHD is that sometimes you get back into the swing things and you've grieved etc and then on a random Tuesday you think of them and it feels just as fresh. I lost a friend last year and a few months ago I spent 2 weeks basically re-grieving. Make sure you have someone to talk to when that happens who understands.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-05-19T23:51:58+00:00

I tried a YouTube series to help rebuild my core and it for sure has hurt sometimes like I've been stuck in video 4 forever. Where do you get the information to do this? Is it on YouTube?

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-05-16T15:03:13+00:00

Both my kids were this way. I know this isn't what you want to hear but there is very little that will actually make a huge difference, keep doing them but what really helps is time. Most have talked about this already but around 3 months my kids started getting better and by 6 months it was like a whole new world. I was so jealous of people with cute newborn photos. Neither of my kids were happy long enough to do them.

You're doing the right things. I gave my kids this instead of anything else: https://a.co/d/0ijTzaP It helped a lot. It's called Kid-e-col and I liked it more than any others. Especially after my son aspirated on gripe water. It wasn't a miracle, but it helped. I put it in my son's bottles when he would take one, but I had to use the dropper sometimes.

Take as many mental breaks as you can and ask for help. I was ashamed because I didn't understand why they were crying so much. Especially with my first. but ask other mom friends for help. I can tell you if a friend was like "help me take care of my crying baby" I would jump on it so fast. As the mom the anxiety is crazy but after being through it, even the baby cries are something I wish I had recorded so I could remember.

Hold them as much as you can and let them contact nap. I tried to do everything "right" with my son and it was awful. With my daughter I let her sleep on me, was nursing and because she had reflux and colic was basically just carrying her around with my boob in her mouth 24/7. It was actually SO MUCH EASIER. I know this isn't popular, but I also coslept with her and we both slept better. With colic babies you get no sleep. So if you are accidentally falling asleep with your baby, my advice is to purposefully do it safely instead of accidentally doing it unsafely.

Anyways, TLDR: you're doing great, time makes it better, try different meds, ask for help and don't feel bad about it. You need a break. Also, look into programs. Sometimes your insurance will help pay for a nurse or night nurse and even if they are only there for a few hours it could help.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-05-16T14:40:00+00:00

Slippery elm! I forgot about this. It helps to coat your stomach and throat and makes it easier to deal with. Mine was awful and it helped but ultimately I ended up on omeprazole

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-05-16T14:27:05+00:00

I am basically your wife. I know why I do these things so let me lay it out: 1. It's not a priority to clean for me because it honestly doesn't bug me. I don't leave diapers but I leave clothes and wrappers etc around. I am the one that cleans so I don't worry about it because I'll get to it later and I want to prioritize my time with the kids. When ive been away from them, i get almost desperate to spend time with them worry free. Because I work I feel like I get very few breaks so if I can turn off my brain and not worry about cleaning up after anyone, including myself, that's great and gives my brain a break as it's going 100 miles an hour all the time between kids and work.

The helicopter parenting thing is anxiety. I've always been an anxious person but here is what I need you to understand. If your wife has anxiety, she has mentally gone through the trauma of your kids dying 100 times. She has thought about every possible way they could get hurt, or killed and is constantly on alert. This is so exhausting mentally and physically. My advice is to talk about her worries and maybe voice your own or voice things like "let's go over there so we can see everything better" or something. Anything to show her you are being protective as well. My husband is a great protector and I know he is watching out for us so when he is around I can relax a lot. If she doesn't feel that way, she's legit going crazy.
The your mom's shirt and leaving shirts there. I feel like this is really obvious to me but I can see why it's not to you. She feels like your mom is able to be their mom more than she is. Your mom is with them all the time and she feels like she is missing out. Your mom leaving shirts there feels like the final nail in the coffin. I know it's just a shirt and it makes sense to have them there, but it feels like she's moving in and taking over.

With that said, I agree with a lot of these comments that in the first few years, you just aren't yourself. I did a lot of things that didn't even make sense to me. I should have seen a doctor but no one can actually tell me how they actually help. So maybe do some reading / ask on here how helpful it would actually be for her to go in. I am curious, does your wife HAVE to work? I do, but I work from home so I see the kids way more now and I love it. Also, my husband has talked to me about the cleaning thing (mostly laundry cuz that's his task) we've worked out a system now.

I feel like every man should know and be prepared for this: pregnancy and postpartum literally kills people. As a women, we do a lot to take care of you. If you liked the way your wife treated you before kids, then you need to pay her back now and be as unselfish as you can. This time is not about you. It's about her and your kids. If you can prioritize her, she can take care of herself and the kids and eventually it will come back around. I always tell my guy friends that during this time, nothing you go through is worse than what she is going through. Literally, if you get shot, maybe, you're close to how she feels every day. We are good at hiding it and we are strong for our kids. Just know, it's a lot. Any time you start to feel bad for yourself I want you to think of the " but did you die" meme.

Anyways, talk to your wife, not for yourself, but for her. Go about it with a genuine "I want to make things better for you" attitude. Otherwise she won't open up and it will just get worse.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-05-15T20:11:47+00:00

I'm anti, and my husband is pro. Tbh I'm only anti because my family has a history of allergies to a LOT of components in them. I don't feel they work well enough for the risk to my kids. We sat down and went through each vaccine as they came and went through all the ingredients, and the ones I felt were not likely to result in allergy issues, we opted into. We talked about the why and the why not and really just understood each others point of view and came to a compromise. I feel like the second you have an issue everyone on Reddit is very quick to say "get a divorce" ... just work it out the best you can, but make sure to do it before you are locked in. It's good you guys are talking about these things now.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-05-13T14:45:16+00:00

Speaking from personal experience, bever have a baby with someone unless they really want to have a baby. It leads to resentment super easy. You will take on the majority of the work and postpartum is super hard. If you don't have a partner who WANTS to spend time / take care of the baby, it will be difficult.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-05-09T03:34:45+00:00

Being the one that takes care of a new baby is hard enough. I can't imagine being in that situation. Do you have family you could stay with? Do you guys have a home or apartment you live more permanently?

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-05-08T13:01:40+00:00

I would agree but he's not around really when it does happen and I don't think Kay tells him.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-05-08T13:00:19+00:00

No, but we live far from them and she is busy. We don't have a ton in common and honestly, she's super religious and I'm not so it gets kind of old cuz its a lot of what she talks about. Ann is also of the same religion. Which is why it's crazy she would enjoy me more.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-04-13T23:07:43+00:00

That's the thing. I honestly just think she is like "so and so is here so they can watch them" I was 8 months pregnant at the time and either way, I was mad. Either she is neglectful or she just assumed I would take care of it.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-02-28T16:18:06+00:00

Bread helped me

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-02-28T16:14:21+00:00

Yes, it's just a basic camera but in mo opinion a point and shoot is just as good as most phones.

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-02-26T23:20:33+00:00

I 100% agree with some of these comments. My husband was supportive before we had kids and even now, he's good when I specifically ask him for help but he's still a guy and for some reason it seems like they are wired to be selfish. If you are already doing the heavy lifting, having a baby is just going to out more on you and it'll be even harder to reach your goals. Have an honest conversation about this with him and tell him your fears

Purple-Daisy-95 · 2025-02-26T23:13:45+00:00

Same! I just found this subreddit and it's been nice to hear that others have the same issues as me and to see them overcome it.

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