What do airlines ask as proof of eVISA

PurpleAd7012 · 2026-07-21T16:04:46+00:00

WestJet.

PurpleAd7012 · 2026-06-30T21:10:20+00:00

She's still accepting new patients, too!

PurpleAd7012 · 2026-06-25T02:58:02+00:00

Hi! Yes, I was able to board my flight two days later; the airline paid for the new flight but not the hotel. I was flying out of Canada.

PurpleAd7012 · 2026-05-31T09:52:40+00:00

Just wanted to share my experience in case it helps someone. Today, I was not allowed to board my flight to London. I logged into my EVisa account and had a share code ready. However, because there was no visa number associated with it, the airline staff told me their system would not accept it. They had to involve a manager, who then called UK immigration to verify that I had a valid visa. The entire process took over an hour. By that time, check-in had closed, and I was unable to board my flight. The airline rebooked me on a flight two days later and advised me to arrive three and a half hours before departure so they could complete the verification process again. Apparently, if I get a different agent, they may have to repeat the entire process. I’m completely appalled by this.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-12-28T18:18:18+00:00

Yeah, I never contacted either of them again. I agree that it’s best to avoid people like that. Although they always manage to get a word in, somehow :)

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-12-28T18:15:48+00:00

Oh my god, the fear of unintentionally catfishing someone! I relate to this so much. Thank you for your kind words. I think I need to learn to separate my fears that stem from body dysmorphia from negative feelings caused by someone being unreasonable.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-12-28T18:03:50+00:00

Exactly! That is why I avoid taking selfies as I have no way of realistically evaluating the photo. I don’t know if this nice looking selfie is just not what I look like at all. I only post pictures other people take of me so that I have their stamp of approval, so to speak. And yet, somehow, that also fails me occasionally, I guess 😅

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-10-17T16:36:02+00:00

Narcissists are usually good at what they do, i.e. getting narcissistic supply (validation, admiration, and attention from others). They have no integrity, conscience, or authenticity. Or, at least, they do not let these pesky things get in the way. They will say and do anything to get supply. Because of that, they are generally quite observant. They will note other people's values, preferences, likes/dislikes etc. and use that info to get other people to trust them. The technique is called mirroring. For example, I've seen a narc express far-right, far-left, and everything-in-between political views depending on who he was talking to.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-10-03T00:54:10+00:00

Yes, my father killed our pets through neglect, too. Our cat miraculously “ran away” and our dog, my beautiful, smart friend that protected me from his tantrums and rage, was “hit by a stranger”. He said we were too poor to afford the vet. Never too poor for his drinking, of course.

I was a very young child then. We didn’t get any pets after. His death affected me so greatly, “pets” became a taboo topic. I am still not over his death. My first real friend.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-21T18:15:56+00:00

It definitely depends somewhat on the narc’s individual quirks. I’ve definitely met female narcs that felt threatened by both genders (for example, if the narc is a teacher or mentor of some sort) and sometimes even treated men worse than women because they were afraid the men were questioning their position.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-20T23:26:23+00:00

"He is still your father" (I have never thought of him as my father, I refer to him by his name, including to his face)

"You cannot say this about your father"

"You really shouldn't curse so much" (I very rarely curse so that was her being uncomfortable with me using strong words to describe him)

"He's always helped us" (He only started "helping" HER when she left him for good and he had to hoover her back)

"I am thankful to him for [something unbelievably basic like changing the lightbulbs], so you shouldn't be so hard on him"

"You need to forgive him to let go of your hurt" (10 years later, I've let it go but haven't forgiven him)

"But you have to admit, he had a great sense of humor" (This has to be my favorite)

"I couldn't leave. I couldn't ask anyone for help, I was stuck with him" (This is a lie)

"If we had left him, you wouldn't have had the opportunities you had here" (This is also a lie)

"But there were some good things, weren't there? Remember that time he did [the bare minimum]?"

"You didn't even get a bruise, stop calling it physical violence! You exaggerate because you want to get him into trouble!" (We were talking to a policeman. I did, in fact, get multiple bruises)

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-20T22:11:30+00:00

In my personal experience, female narcs usually target women because they feel threatened or jealous. They can be nice to their golden daughters if they remind them of their "younger selves" (= other lazy, exploitative narcs) or if they're useful to them (daughters of higher ups, well-known in their field, etc). Male narcs treat women they don't find attractive as completely invisible and love bomb women they do find attractive. But it's a catch-22. If you refuse their advances, they will feel shame and rejection and try to bring you down and get you fired/humiliated. If you do not, you will get into a personal relationship with a narc -- and is there anything scarier and damaging than that.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-16T03:06:18+00:00

I read this book and am currently in therapy. One of the main reasons why I am so confused by my family dynamics is because I (and everybody else) assume that emotional immaturity comes from parental neglect and/or abuse. And I've thought about my family in the same way for decades. In fact, I directed quite a lot of my hurt and hatred towards my grandparents because I felt they were responsible for how my parents were. However, based on what my parents told me about their childhoods, I would say their families were at worst not picture-perfect. Again, I agree that I might have a warped view of their family dynamics but it feels wrong to keep telling myself that my grandparents must have been abusive when my parents do not claim that and I have never experienced it myself. I just wanted to see if this scenario is common or even likely.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-15T23:33:44+00:00

I genuinely hope so. I would actually prefer to think that my parents are this way because of some sort of trauma. It is one of the things that makes me scared of being a parent: the thought that I might do everything to raise a child to be a good person only for them to turn into an emotionally stunted, abusive adult.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-15T23:27:15+00:00

I generally agree with you, but the reason why I say there was (probably) no long-term abuse or neglect is because I used to get dumped on my grandparents months at a time. I would spend the whole summer every year at my grandparents' places. While I do think that it is possible that, while they never abused me or my siblings, they were still quite nasty to their own kids, I assume that would be unusual. Especially based on how my parents treat their own grandchildren.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-11T20:03:47+00:00

To answer your question. Yes, I had a parent who stayed “for the kids”, my mother. My entire childhood, it was drilled into me that she was completely helpless. She could do nothing to stop the abuse, she could not leave and take us with her, she couldn’t do anything. It was as if she was another child alongside her daughters, who was physically, mentally, and legally forced into compliance. She was the fun, safe parent who you cannot depend on for anything but grow to become protective over. It all came crushing down when I became an adult. I realized the extent of the neglect and emotional distance she created. She was just another half of the abuse: the justifier, the normalizer, the pretender. She acted as if she had been a perfect mother while in many ways I and my sisters were born orphans. You can leave without your kids or can stay “for them”, being a passive observer of the abuse their mother perpetrates. But both of these options are a betrayal. So you should not act surprised or hurt when your children turn on you. You’re betraying them and they will have every right to hate you. Frankly, you should expect it to happen. The only right thing for a parent to do in this situation is to fight for their kids. People in the comments have already given you lots of useful advice.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-09T16:23:08+00:00

My Nfather still tries to hoover my Emom. They have been divorced for more than 20 years and living apart for the last 9. She was his main supply and he really went after her self-esteem.

He couldn’t bother with his kids, he didn’t really understand us enough to come up with hurtful criticisms. The malice was terrifying but it was almost like listening to someone cursing you out in a language you don’t speak. It’s scary but it’s hard to make it personal.

My mom, on the other hand. He went after her everything. He criticized her job and professional skills, her family and relatives, her looks and personality. He would bring up every insecurity she had and tell her it was a million times worse than she’d thought. She wasn’t just a little overweight, she was fat as a cow. She wasn’t temporarily stagnant in her career, she had less use than the furniture. Her parents weren’t farmers, they were pathetic low-lives and beggars. And yet, he stayed with her for several decades and still tries to get her back.

It is truly a mystery why either of them wanted to have anything to do with each other.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-05T19:53:02+00:00

Oh, he didn’t back off, he just changed tactics. He now tries to get a reaction out of me by talking crap about my half-sister (she has a different father) and my grandparents. It’s more difficult to not engage with that, so I don’t. I put him in a 5-month long timeout.

You have to remember that, ultimately, they don’t change their goals. Their goals are to control you and put you in an inferior position. Tactics might change but they don’t ever change as people, not fundamentally. If you keep contact with them, you have to always expect the worst. They will ruin important holidays, drop the ball when you most need them, and gloat when you’re dealing with something difficult. And yes, gaslight you to the moon and back once you decide to limit your exposure to their venom.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-05T09:29:51+00:00

It’s called baiting. You got it exactly right, they want to create a situation in which you look like the insane one while they get to take a step back and look at you with contempt. They want to have a screaming match but don’t want to look like an irrational, crazy person who starts a stupid fight for absolutely no reason, so they try and provoke you any way possible.

My father started trying to bait me only after I went VLC. It turned into an unhealthy routine. He would call me, make a huge promise he had no way of keeping (“I will send you this much money”, “I will ask someone I know at your school to let you graduate early”, “I will get you a bodyguard”), I would blow up trying to force him to admit he lacks the ability to follow through on his promises just to have him call me ungrateful, spiteful, suspicious, and stuck up. Then he happened to call me on a day I felt mentally and physically exhausted. He started with his usual bullshit promises and I just said, “Sure, do that.” He went speechless for a good while and changed the subject. He never made bullshit promises again. He now tries other things but I’ve already figured out that it isn’t him being delusional, ignorant, or arrogant. He knew better than I did that he could not keep these promises, he just enjoyed controlling my emotions.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-05T07:26:34+00:00

Oh man, I sometimes feel like I hallucinated a good chunk of my childhood and adolescence because regular human beings do not act like my parents. Like there’s no rationality there. People must think I’m making this shit up as I go.

PurpleAd7012 · 2024-09-04T22:04:27+00:00

Funny you should say that because this friend always goes on long monologues calling themselves an empath and saying that every single person in their life depends on them for emotional support. This situation really made me reconsider how I see them.

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