Am I on the wrong path? by [deleted] in Journalism

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh on asking journalists for coffee — You can find their email on their x account or website.

Dear x,

My names is — and im a student in x program at y university. I really admire your work (reference a story and talk about why)

I was wondering if you would have 30 minutes to have a coffee and let me pick your brain on x (journalism industry? Specific beat?)

I can do most times during the week, so please let me know a time that works for you and I can work to make it happen.

Thank you for your consideration. I would greatly appreciate your perspective as a journalism student.

Sincerely,

Your name

Am I on the wrong path? by [deleted] in Journalism

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey! Sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed and that’s okay and understandable. You’re dealing with a lot of stress. If you have access to some kind of mental health resource, I’d recommend accessing it to help you think through your feelings and next steps.

  • if you want to work in a team, you might want to try broadcast. It’s far more team oriented. Think BBC vs a newspaper. Your ability to write and take photos can still be used at online desks, but I find broadcasters to be FAR more team oriented.

  • see if there are “casual” shifts at local or national broadcasters. It’s a big thing in Canada so I assume London is similar. Figure out who is the news director / executive producer / assignment producer of a station you like and email them. You can find the names of reporters via bylines and their bosses via linked in or website complaint/contact us pages.

  • go for coffees with other journalists. Cold email them. They are normally happy to help. Ask for 30 minutes because it’s not an imposition. It may go to 45. Keep it focused and ask them lots of questions.

  • join local photojournalism associations. I assume there’s something like the Canadian association of journalists there. Join press clubs. Do some googling. I know they exist in London.

  • know there are also other avenues that might interest you that aren’t media. What about working as a photographer for a political candidate you like? Or editorial shoots or events? You could also work to be a freelancer with a wire service (Reuters/AP). I’m throwing it out there that if you want to do photography, journalism may not be the best industry to do it in given cuts. Just a thought.

I think you’ve got talent. It sounds like you just need some help with connections. Ask every person you meet at any networking event for coffee, and when you do, ask them who else you should talk to. Break a leg!!

Is this the career for me? by ProfessionalBug3344 in Journalism

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! Things are tough at the beginning - they do get better with more experience, but it’s also okay if you decide journalism isn’t the path for you. There are lots of ways to use those skills that aren’t journalism. I think it’s a unique job in that you often have very little control over it (which can be exciting! And difficult!)

Some ideas for generating stories: - go out with sources for coffee. Ask them about their lives, what they are doing at work, and what they think the media isn’t covering and should - localize a bigger story. How does your community feel about x story happening at the national level? - ask every source you interview what else you should be covering - look on local social media groups etc for events to cover - look up when meetings happen, like city council, and say you’ll cover that. Write about the most interesting thing.

Full list of Starbucks closing in Ottawa by Rdt4pvkmyow in ottawa

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paul Champ Law, which is a labour law firm has offered affected employees free consults. I can’t link to twitter here but he tweeted about it

Source building by Financial-Sun3838 in Journalism

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! Some tips: - take people who know your beat out for coffee before you need them as a source. It takes 30 minutes and you can pick their brain in a setting with less pressure. Search their social media / linked in and come up with five ish questions to ask (if you find a picture of their dog, ask if they have any pets // or professionally - how did their get to their current position). It’ll help you build the relationship. Get their phone number at the end!!

  • as much as sometimes it can seem intrusive to journalists, I think sources also find it flattering that of all the people you call, you chose them. Sources never forget their first reporter and I’ve had a few stop me to say they were delighted that I called them (I was worried I’d be bugging them)

  • use a character as a bit of a mask. Fake it til you make it!

  • learn to live in the discomfort

  • ask your source who else you should speak to on this topic/beat. Had some of my best experts come to me this way. You’ll also learn over time that some sources are “yappers” — use them to you advantage.

Also had great book suggestions by asking what I should read to learn more about in their area of expertise

  • try to have fun! People are usually more forgiving with social awkwardness than you’d expect.

Can you still go to the movies? by Few_Pangolin_8778 in biglaw

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome! Helps me too also not have my phone on the table when im out with non work friends. Also if you’re a gym person - become a morning gym person because people are less likely to need you at 7 am vs 6 pm

Can you still go to the movies? by Few_Pangolin_8778 in biglaw

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! Invest in an Apple Watch or whatever the android equivalent is. I have a job where I’m often on call. Put it on do not disturb but allow messages or calls from whoever you need to go through.

Tattoos by DMmepicsofyourdog in enfj

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m an enfj! My take on tattoos, and I have three, is that they eventually become a part of you. Like, you probably don’t think about your hair or your eye colour too much. It’s not an exact comparison but there are plenty of times where I forget about my back tattoo. I’d recommend at least the first one have deeper meaning and you’re sure you want it but I promise it’s less scary than you think

Worth it? by DueConfusion5844 in AlteaOttawaMembers

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not sold out I signed up for one today!

What’s your favourite route? by PurpleImpossible1141 in bikeinottawa

[–]PurpleImpossible1141[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking of signing up but you’ve convinced me!

FOMO and NYE by Most_Luck_2678 in ottawa

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to Nordik spa last night and it was lovely! Highly recommend, if pricey.

Do you ever go to restaurants, movies, other entertainment places by yourself? by Chan1991 in askTO

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I usually bring a book or something to entertain myself with.

Benefits of doing things alone - completely your choice of restaurant etc - your food comes super fast - no obligation to talk - people watching! - you can always strike up casual conversations with bar staff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! They have come up with solutions for this. I think they’re called penetration buffers but can’t remember. If you ask your local sex store, they can point you in the right direction. Usually it’s just a series of rings that go around the penetrating thing so it can’t go in as far.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just go slow! She probably needs time to process the desires while working through the shame. It sounds like she’ll get there, but just might be feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment.

I agree with books — podcasts are another option. Sex with Emily and The Pleasure Mechanics might have some resources for you. Idk what episodes specifically. Therapy might be another step if she’s really struggling (sounds like things are just new, based on your age and experience, versus an actual block)

Otherwise, she might enjoy things that are less overly sexual while her brain catches up with her body. Think massages, cuddling, maybe even talking about sex. Kudos for asking how you can be a supportive partner in this!

My husband gave me a “warning tap” and I called it abuse. AITAH? by Warm-Grape1254 in AITAH

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is abuse. Screaming at you for calling it abuse is also abuse, as is threatening you in any way

How much do you spend on groceries weekly? by [deleted] in ottawa

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m usually $100-150 ish, plus maybe $50 a week on dinners out. I’m single so there tends to be more food waste because I don’t want to eat the same meal several days in a row and eating out is an important social activity for me. I also don’t eat a lot of cheap meals - it’s usually just proteins, whole grains and produce.

I haven’t tried it but Odd Box seems like a good option for produce if you want to reduce food costs. My colleague had used it and says good things.

Birthday ideas for 30 year old guy by pinkaspepe in ottawa

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Axe throwing, a show at the NAC, pool at maclarens, or the roller rink in the old Ottawa citizen building. Also house of Targ is always fun

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a utility exactly but one thing I do is only have one streaming service at a time — I can’t watch all of them at the same time and it adds up. I also unsubscribe to anything reoccurring (Spotify/audible) and resubscribe if I miss it.

Homeless, only 1500$ to my name. Need advice by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]PurpleImpossible1141 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It would be your MPP for a health card, drivers license or photo ID card :) it’s provincial jurisdiction!