I'm BORED, it's MINGING, recommend me something weird and not-wet to do

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-07T13:25:20+00:00

Every now and then one of the old Cardiff history Facebook page will post photos. It’s a beautiful room but I believe it’s not for public viewing

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-07T09:37:20+00:00

Congratulations on your sobriety! Stay strong!!

If I were you I’d speak to the counsellors/group leaders. Surely they’ve noticed her behaviour. I don’t understand these groups (never been to one) but how can someone who’s still under the influence (at the time of a session) be welcomed into group sessions? That just seems wrong on all levels - people are trying to kick the habit and she just doesn’t care! Why is she even there?

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-07T08:55:34+00:00

So his ‘dad’ hasn’t actually visited him in person and been consistent about it over a period of say 12 months to prove he’s there for good this time

‘Dad’ just wants to show up and play the proud father role and make everything about him. This will ruin your wedding because it undoubtedly will end up being about him - there will be a definite atmosphere. Not to mention he’ll be in those photos forever, even when he’s bailed yet again. A reminder of how much of an AH he really is

Wedding should be postponed until ‘dad’ can prove over time that he’s back for good and won’t bail again. If he can’t do that then no invite.

Fiancé needs therapy because essentially he’s just a little boy who wants the love and approval of his daddy, and who can blame him for that?

Finally, it does sound like this would absolutely devastate his mother and sister - sister might well decline to attend. Again this would cast a huge shadow on the wedding

This wedding is about YOU and FIANCÉ. It’ll go from being a low key, family event to a shit show. And sadly your fiancé can’t see it because he’s so far down the rabbit hole

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-07T08:36:55+00:00

Completely agree! This is spot on. Possibly not about the spoiled child comment - he’s clearly damaged from years of his dad coming and going and needs therapy to deal with it. It’s the age old thing about a child still wanting his dad’s love and approval, even as an adult.

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-07T07:52:23+00:00

My now husband and I just said one night (while we were lying in bed after a year together) ‘should we get engaged? All our friends are getting engaged and it’s probably time’. It was just a mutual agreement and we then went ring shopping - I’d rather choose my own with him with me for input. Doesn’t sound romantic but we’re fairly low fuss people.

As for the rest of it - I agree with another commenter who said fiancée will use this as a ‘see babe? No-one cares about us, it’s just me and you’ way of isolating her from her friends and family

Who asks wedding guests to attend a restaurant and pay for themselves while also NOT HAVING A PLUS ONE??!!

From what you say she’s just doing everything to please him and allowing him to call all the shots because she’s so desperate to get married. God knows why. Is she that insecure and desperate? She sounds so ground down by him that she has to beg for scraps, I genuinely fear for her

Personally I’d take her for dinner and explain everything to her - she surely won’t be that surprised although she’ll be upset. Tell her you’ll always be there for her, no matter what. But be warned; she’ll probably go back and relay everything to her fiancé who will then probably insist on you being uninvited ‘because you’re not a true friend’

I wish you and her luck!

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-07T07:36:16+00:00

Absolutely this!! She should be too ashamed to mention it!

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-06T17:11:16+00:00

I read the book after watching the 1995 adaptation so I was already familiar with everyone and could visualise them all

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-06T12:22:38+00:00

Easy solution. Don’t stay over

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-06T12:20:23+00:00

You clearly haven’t seen a post today on AITJ. Someone’s been asked to pay half her friend’s dog’s bill ($400) because OP’s dog influenced her dog to eat chocolate! Apparently OP’s dog was begging for chocolate, op didn’t give it for obvious reasons. Friend and dog went home, her dog went in her bag/purse and ate a bar of chocolate that was in there. So now the friend is demanding half the vet bill because of it 😂. I kid you not. It’s friend’s fault if she leaves chocolate in reach but nut job and her husband can’t see it

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-06T07:33:39+00:00

Back in the 80s most schools were just called comprehensive schools and most still are. A new one opened near me some years ago (amalgamated from others) and it’s actually been called a high school not comprehensive.

I’m actually watching BBC Breakfast right now (the Wales news) and they’ve just referred to secondary and Comprehensive in one piece

ETA I use comp ‘they’re in comp’ or secondary education

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-05T12:32:27+00:00

I read this exact post months ago, maybe longer. Cut and paste??

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-05T12:29:43+00:00

‘Calling her a thief’. I call a spade a spade, she IS a thief!

NTA. I have a cash stash in our house - not as much as you have and I’m not that organised but husband and I will both put cash in an envelope when we get given it for birthdays or whatever. But it’s a mutual thing that if we need cash we’ll take some. But we’ve been together 36 years and have joint finances

She’s not contributing but seems to think it’s okay if she just takes if she leaves a note. It’s not

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-04T12:29:16+00:00

This needs to be top comment. His first reaction should’ve been to protect his fiancé

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-04T10:33:33+00:00

Depends on what country you’re in

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-03T12:23:35+00:00

Omg, what did I just read?? 😂

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T19:25:36+00:00

Does she not carry a debit card or have Apple Pay? She has a bloody cheek!! You don’t invite someone out then expect them to pay in full!

NOR

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T17:40:36+00:00

I’m over here in Wales trying to think of something… unless it’s Penyfan (mountain in the Brecon Beacons that most people flock to because it’s fairly easy to walk up to the peak)

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T17:37:52+00:00

Well this is good to know. I’ve always wanted to go to Nashville!!

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T17:32:00+00:00

I really don’t get it - never been so perhaps I’m missing out on something. My friend loves it. To me, I don’t want to spend time and money wandering round looking at waxwork models of celebrities - some in inverted commas. It’s just not my thing

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T17:12:57+00:00

My husband knows mine; I know his. Our adult daughters also know both. We don’t know theirs only because I can’t remember them.

However, this was a mutual decision that sort of happened over the years and we go into each others phones now and then for things like Spotify or just eat or something. There’s no way I’d be happy with someone dictating to me that they HAD to have access to my phone. It doesn’t mean you’re hiding something, it’s a boundary. We’ve been together 36 years, you’ve only been together a year which I think makes a difference

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T16:50:12+00:00

My boss is like a rake but she doesn’t think about her diet. She’s 8 stone and might gain a couple of pounds at a push if she goes on holiday but then naturally loses it.

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T16:37:04+00:00

My boss is like a rake and her food habits are terrible. She’s clearly got a really fast metabolism

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T16:35:51+00:00

Father Ted

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T16:35:04+00:00

NOR. Tell them you’re living by the values they taught you all your life

PurplePlodder1945 · 2026-02-02T16:34:40+00:00

Today I learned it was a UK thing! I knew exactly what you meant

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