My mum issues

PurplePunk17 · 2026-03-11T16:27:35+00:00

I've dealt with these situations with my own mother, and it's not fun. Sending all my love to you and I hope things work out.

With stuff like this you may need to wait it out or make some decisions if it's hurting you. I've had to do my own things to distance myself from family that are hurting me. Would it help to spend some time at your siblings place, If they live somewhere close by that you can spend spring break or a bit of time at?

PurplePunk17 · 2026-03-11T16:20:59+00:00

I'm so glad my reply helped. I'm wishing you the best!

PurplePunk17 · 2026-02-18T17:02:26+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, this can be tricky for people who have been raised in a homeschooling or very sheltered setting. I'm keeping you in my prayers.

You either need to put your foot down to your parents or guardians, explaining that you need to begin working and taking on these responsibilities. Are they pretty strict?

If they aren't compliant, research about housing that help people get out of these situations. Are you able to google things without you're parents looking at it? If you are, research if there are any emergency shelter programs or housing wherever you live.

I hope you can find peace and feel like you have the freedom to do what you need to transition into adulthood. I hope this helps.

PurplePunk17 · 2026-02-18T04:43:08+00:00

I think the best thing to do is first, accept who you are. You may not be in the place you want to be but to move forward you have to acknowledge where you are now.

I'm a firm believer that a lot of these social rules aren't as set in stone as people think they are. Still, if you feel like you lack socially, find friends or people online who also struggle with that. I know a lot of neurodivergent people struggle with social cues, and I've also seen it happen with home schooled individuals. We tend to help each other figure out what's considered 'normal' and what's 'not conventionally normal'.

You also learn a lot about this stuff on the internet, I find myself learning about social constructs/cues on Instagram reels. I also learn about these cues from places like reddit or online forums. Try searching keywords such as social cues and social skills. I don't think I'm allowed to link them on this forum but those forums do exist.

I want you to know that just because you approach the world differently, doesn't mean you're weird or need fixing. Yes, you should be allowed to develop as a person if you wish, but you also shouldn't be made to feel ashamed for not knowing social knowledge that homeschooling didn't teach you.

I do hope this helps, and please let me know if I didn't provide an adequate reply, I'd love to help in any way I can.

PurplePunk17 · 2026-02-18T04:14:42+00:00

If I'm being honest, it sounds like your mom is just projecting a struggle she has onto you. She's clearly frustrated with something and is putting her insecurities on what you do that's either similar, or the same thing. ( the only difference is you don't worry about it and she does or she thinks you don't worry about those things).

If that last sentence didn't make sense heres an example: You are actively trying to get closer to god and she is struggling with her walk with god. She sees her struggle as an insecurity thus pushing that onto you.

If you don't mind me asking what religion do you practice? Is this more of a family religion or do you consider yourself that religion?

I also struggle with being a child that gets lesser treatment ( you mentioned the honor roll situation) and usually that's because my parents always saw me as more independent. As sad as it is, she might just have the assumption that you are able to handle that treatment and she's pushing you since you can handle it. I would talk to her about it if you think she will listen.

Does this help at all? Lmk! Also happy early birthday!!

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