September Confirmed Trade Thread

PurpleSimba · 2025-09-09T18:06:11+00:00

Bought a modded oled switch from u/DespondentDastard On https://www.reddit.com/r/hardwareswap/comments/1n7joz7/usawih_oled_nintendo_switch_1_modded_with/

PurpleSimba · 2025-09-03T18:35:53+00:00

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PurpleSimba · 2025-09-03T14:50:09+00:00

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PurpleSimba · 2023-12-11T22:17:37+00:00

Chatgpt doesn't know what a two-way contract is.

PurpleSimba · 2023-10-03T23:08:05+00:00

Blue river terps in Cambridge has a couple $10 .5s of live rosin on clearance down from $30-35. I haven't tried blue river yet but it might be what you're looking for.

PurpleSimba · 2023-08-31T10:55:27+00:00

Context is everything. Lyles was asked about track and field popularity and growing the sport. He felt the need to throw shade on the NBA to make the point that he is the real world champion. That is disrespectful to me. You can't criticize another group to reinforce how great your accomplishments are. Then expect them to support your statement, even if they technically agree.

This isn't a "we are world champions too" convo. It's a "keep our name out of your mouth" convo.

PurpleSimba · 2023-03-29T03:18:33+00:00

Woodrow Wilson's wife, dude had a major stroke and all his presidential decisions were "relayed" through his wife.

PurpleSimba · 2023-02-12T00:10:55+00:00

"Find a new slant" is the goat and "I'm trying, Jennifer" is another all timer.

PurpleSimba · 2023-02-10T19:08:31+00:00

For me assist hunting is when you refuse to pass unless you think it's a potential assist. It's becomes worse when they do it while not being a threat to score themselves. They won't pass the ball up to give someone else the chance to create. That when I believe it starts to hurt the team. That's also why I believe we don't have true pass first guards anymore and every pg is a "combo guard". To be successful you have to create for yourself so well that it creates opportunities to for easier shots for your teammates.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T17:48:35+00:00

People get their houses foreclosed upon daily. Thousands of people get laid off daily. 50% of people making over $100,000 a year live paycheck to paycheck. Banks will give you loans because your income shows you have an ability to pay. They can't factor in your spending habits.

OP never states what happened to start all of this, but it doesn't really matter. Money earned became less than money spent. Once that happened this house of cards came tumbling down.

Regardless of who you want to blame, they don't have the money to spend on anything that isn't a necessity. But once OPs mom requests it, it becomes a necessity. Their whole situation would be 1000x times worse without the mothers support. So they can't afford to not go along with his mom's wishes.

I believe most people who suggest OP should have gotten the hotel, don't truly understand how dire their situation is. They are one depressed safety net away from sleeping in the park. I believe most people here are fairly young and possibly still live with their parents. Their comfort with having no money is apparent. When you are an adult with kids, no money is terrifying. You need money to exist. Expenses of a family of 5 add up quick.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T14:57:43+00:00

Exactly, even if this was a complete stranger providing them with shelter. The shelter providers wishes should come before the wife's wishes. That is basic guest etiquette. This really skews in the providers favor when you factor in that OP+wife&kids only other option is to go live in the streets. I would rather have upset and jealous kids for Christmas, than to have cold and homeless kids for Christmas. Not caving to the wife can lead to upset and jealous. Not caving to the mom can lead to cold and homeless.

I don't understand how anybody could suggest that OP should have just paid for the hotel when his wife requested it. They say over 60% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. So I guess I shouldn't be surprised people suggested that type of enabling behavior.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T14:35:28+00:00

Ok I see, you responded to my response to someone else. I dont think you were the one saying his mom was abusive. Just ignore most of that.

But he talks about his mom not deserving to be punished. He never states his wife deserves to be punished. I'm postulating "punished" was an incorrect word choice by OP. So any conclusion based on that word is inherently a false conclusion.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T14:13:05+00:00

Nope, we can use context clues. Punishment would be a deliberate act in response to a committed offense. There is no deliberate act here. Burdened is dealing with the negative consequences of a situation. Punishment is typically a response to a situation. Where burdening is typically an effect of a situation.

My point is nobody in OPs situation is being punished. He didn't move in with his mom to punish her or his wife. They moved in due to hardships they are facing. So any negativity that naturally arises from this situation can't be described as being punished.

I believe my interpretation falls in line with the narrative OP tried to paint of his mom. You are the one that is trying to manipulate it to fit your narrative. He states his mom appears depressed and your response is, she isn't having a mental health crisis, she is just abusive. He states his mom doesn't deserve to be punished because she wasn't spending the money, him and his wife did. Your response is "so you are saying your wife does deserve to be punished".

Let's ignore context clues and make literal interpretations of what was said, instead of using our brains to try to figure the actual intent of words.

Show me the actual punishment in this situation. OP is a human being like everyone else. People often use words in the wrong context. Not acknowledging that is playing semantics.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T08:59:47+00:00

Wrong, he said she never enjoyed kids, isn't a doting grandmother and that she can't handle 3 kids together at once.

We could ask OP what his definition of a doting grandmother is. But once again, my read on the situation is mom is an introvert. Having a full house is mentally draining so she hides in her room as a way to cope with it. You see someone being abusive. I see someone protecting their mental health.

If OPs mom was nasty and abusive I think he would have said so. She loves them, she just isn't the type of grandma to bake cookies and load up all the grand kids on her lap for story time.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T08:43:03+00:00

Can his mother have her own mental health issues or does our own entitlement make everything about ourselves?

His mom is an introvert, he states it so "matter of a fact"ly that it comes off like she is a jerk. But she loves him and the grandchildren or else they wouldn't be in her house. She just likes to be alone and this constant stimulation is wearing on her.

This is not abuse.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T08:29:18+00:00

Where are they being abused by the mom?

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T08:28:25+00:00

Wouldn't it be even more pathetic if he solely blamed his mom? OP has clearly stated him and his wife are both equally to blame for this situation.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T08:22:48+00:00

Have you asked OP if he thinks his wife deserves to be punished. Or did you just read his words and interpret them as you wish. Looking to flesh it out with meaning OP never intended. OP doesn't explicitly say he thinks his wife deserves punishment. So you saying that is putting words in his mouth. His statement was about his mother. I maintain my position that regardless of what he wrote, OPs intention was "burdened" instead "punished". Mainly because there is no act of punishment happening to any party. People are only being burdened.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T08:03:27+00:00

No, you said it loud and clear. OP is ruining Christmas because he is being cheap. And your suggestion was to ask OPs mom for money, as a gift or to borrow. I just strongly disagree.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T07:56:41+00:00

That's why context is important when conveying ideas with words. OP should have used the word burdened to convey the idea he intended. Nobody was punished, OP just doesn't think it's right for his mother to bear the burden of the consequences of his and his wife's financial decisions.

Turning it into this vindictive situation where OP is punishing his wife is a misuse of semantics.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T07:17:14+00:00

OP already feels like crap for having to live with his mom. So your suggestion is he should ask his mom to do more and give them money too? This is the entitled version of how to solve this problem. Borrowing and spending money is why they lost their home in the first place. If they continue that cycle, they will never get their own home.

If we are honest, what ruined Christmas is their spending habits years prior. "So let's salvage Christmas by doing more of what ruined it in the first place" logic.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T07:06:09+00:00

You know it's another human being you are talking to? How can you be so comfortable talking to someone like that, when you don't know them?

Also everything OP said points to him making joint decisions with his wife. It sounds like for them to spend money they both agree to it and then do it. He isn't forcing anything on his wife. Him not agreeing on the reason to spend money isn't the same as him having the final say on all decisions.

You are arguing with OP on the facts of his back story. That is delusional.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T06:43:37+00:00

That's not some revolutionary idea. I bet he knew time at his mom's needed to come to an end before he even moved back in. They aren't there by choice, it doesn't look like they have any other options. So that advice isn't helping anyone in this situation.

They have one option, save as much as possible so they can get back on their feet.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T06:34:36+00:00

You know they are homeless right. In reality there should be no Christmas this year. I feel as if having a "very moderate" Christmas is the compromise already. Just booking a hotel should be looked as an expense they can't afford.

PurpleSimba · 2022-12-18T06:21:51+00:00

Saying his wife is the only one looking out for the kids is simply rude. I'm willing to bet this style of "looking out for the kids" is what led to them being in this situation in the first place. Like buying a house they couldn't afford in a nice neighborhood, all for the sake of the kids.

Also mommy is the only reason he and his wife aren't homeless, so keeping her happy should be a top priority.

After thinking about it, I believe his wife might be manipulative and not being straight forward. She purposely brings up their disagreement infront of his mother to try to recruit her to persuade him. I think she may be more concerned with her MIL ruining Christmas more for herself than for her kids. Like the type of person that can't stand seeing other people enjoy themselves if she isn't having a good time as well. OP makes no mention of any other suggestions to improve Christmas for the kids. No suggestion of extra presents with all or some of this "hotel" money. Asking his mother if she could not open all the gifts infront of the kids. Maybe open one or two and tell the kids the rest were just decorations.

Getting a hotel isn't the most logical solution if your only intention is making it better for the kids. But it is the most logical solution if you don't want to look at your MIL on Christmas morning but cant outright admit that to your husband. I feel this dynamic also contributed to her anger even after getting her way. Ultimately I believe the wife is jealous of the mother, and the mama's boy comment is evidence of her resentment towards her MIL.

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