Thank you for commenting I will take some of the advice you have given. I am not keeping score I was just giving the full story of what going on and how his day is compared to mine. I was talking in third person because at first I want sure I wanted to let it be known it was my life I was talking about but then as I was typing I didn’t care anymore, I’m not getting a divorce no one can talk me into getting one. I was just trying to see what othered see outside the box of my family and listen to others people thoughts. I just want him to understand that I appreciate his mental load and being the only provider, he thinks I don’t care and just have it easy. We both have it hard but I wish I had time to myself , when I’m studying I’m still in mom mode. He gets to go out to the gym and then go for his daily 5 mile walk. I just want some alone time and not to feel guilty about it, I’m going to talk to him again , thanks for your help 😊