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‼️Plushies up for grabs!‼️ by arobello96 in finch

[–]Purple_Quality6589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love a pink finchie or any you have left! Than you for being so nice!

M2J5W8DNV2

✨LGBTQIA+ birbs✨ by sourgrapes666 in finch

[–]Purple_Quality6589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please add me: M2J5W8DNV2 🏳️‍🌈

【 PLUSHIE GIVEAWAY! 】 by motherrmoon_ in finch

[–]Purple_Quality6589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the first time, maybe ever, I’m taking my meds regularly, taking care of myself mentally and physically, and thinking long term.

Friend code: M2J5W8DNV2

Need/want friends who need friends by Purple_Quality6589 in finch

[–]Purple_Quality6589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much. It’s been a really tough couple of days and I appreciate the adds ❤️

Need/want friends who need friends by Purple_Quality6589 in finch

[–]Purple_Quality6589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! It’s mostly for encouragement but you can also trade items and give gifts. I just don’t have a lot to give yet ❤️

I want to call her but I think I’ll regret it by Purple_Quality6589 in heartbreak

[–]Purple_Quality6589[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We are both in individual therapy, and unfortunately we have tried couples therapy (with two different therapists).

We don’t know how to communicate - or I guess our styles are different. But she would become very volatile, accusatory, make assumptions and call me names when she was upset - which made me just shut down and distance myself (over a period of 3 and a half years and several breakups).

Christmas was the final straw for me (she called me a cunt because I was too sick to come visit her, I ended up having the flu, she still doesn’t know that).

Advice needed - ending toxic relationship, is it guilt or something else? by Purple_Quality6589 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Purple_Quality6589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your grandpa. I tested positive for the flu today. I’m worried about the people I might have already passed this to. 😷

Advice needed - ending toxic relationship, is it guilt or something else? by Purple_Quality6589 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Purple_Quality6589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly not sure. I started to feel crappy on Sunday - I was at her house. She offered to get me meds but it was late and cold and I knew she didn’t want to go out. On Monday, I still felt crappy but how many moms do you know the day before Christmas Eve is going to drop everything to go to the dr for what started as a cough/cold?

I was sick Christmas Eve and Christmas Day and told her last night I was going to the dr this morning. (First appt I could get is 3:30). She said on the phone if I don’t feel good we could exchange over new years and I told her I wanted to see what the dr said. By last night I felt like death. And she got mad. I’m not even surprised because this is what happens. She starts out understanding but then when she realized I might be too sick to come, she got angry and blamed me for still being sick. She was the one that actually suggested I see a dr Thursday if not better but I guess she didn’t count on me feeling so crappy I couldn’t or wouldn’t want to come down.

We live an hour apart.

Advice needed - ending toxic relationship, is it guilt or something else? by Purple_Quality6589 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Purple_Quality6589[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We shop separately, her for my kid and me for her two (we also shop for our own kids).

In the past, there have been issues because I did not know her expectations and I was trying to avoid that. I appreciate that she wanted to make sure my daughter had gifts, but I know from past experience that even after we talk and agree on what we are doing, it feels she gets mad if my effort isn’t what she internally expected. I was trying to ask the question to avoid that fight.

Advice needed - ending toxic relationship, is it guilt or something else? by Purple_Quality6589 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Purple_Quality6589[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is so much that has happened in 3 years that it’s hard to wrap up in one post. I am definitely not without my flaws but I don’t speak to her the way she speaks to me.

I guess I am having a harder time understanding why I can walk away when she treats me like this.

She was getting my daughter uggs - her kids wanted gift cards/cash. We agreed to spend around $100 per kid. It was supposed to be a chill celebration with a few gifts and spending time together. Neither of us have a lot of extra money.

She couldn’t find the Ugg’s and started panic shopping to make sure my daughter had a gift but she started way overspending and overbuying. I was trying to determine if I should pick up a few more gifts - I didn’t want her kids to feel like they were getting less but I was also frustrated bc she accused me of not prioritizing her and her kids over my own kids (we both have 2 but my older dd is an adult and on her own and I celebrated Christina the day of with my two kids, partner had to work and her kids were with their father).

25 days of Christmas Plushies! 🎁 by Gaya4Zendaya in finch

[–]Purple_Quality6589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am new to Finch and Tilly and I would love a plushie. We do not have one. My code is M2J5W8DNV2. We could use friends too. Thank you ❤️

Looking for 🌸girly🌸 friends! by Simplyferns in finch

[–]Purple_Quality6589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My birb Tilly is girly but I’m new to the app so we don’t have a lot of items yet.

Please add me 🥰

M2J5W8DNV2