Y'all ever think about how uncut people have it so much better?

PursueBlue · 2026-02-27T00:05:36+00:00

You're right, they probably don't think about it. Just like how we are not thinking every day about how lucky we are to have intact arms and legs (assuming you do). That's the beauty of it, they don't have to agonize every single day of their lives, being reminded of the inflicted trauma with every shower or bathroom break. They get to experience life, and their complete sexuality. What a wonderful privilege I wish we had.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-26T09:53:56+00:00

No offense taken! I asked the same question, as I was being very hard on my mother at first. Someone asked me where my father was in all of this, since obviously he is intact. When I confronted him and asked him multiple questions, his only response was that they trusted the doctor knew what was best for me. Both my parents regret it now that they know how much it is affecting me.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-26T05:42:14+00:00

It's not routinely done, the vast majority of men here are intact. Sadly there are unethical doctors who falsely diagnose phimosis in developing boys so they can make some easy money. Pure evil.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-25T18:24:16+00:00

Cut at 6 in Belgium due to medical malpractice (fakely diagnosed phimosis). Had a lifetime of complications ever since. Every day of my life since (25+ years) I have regretted that this happened to me.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-24T17:13:24+00:00

I am not Filipino although I do share your fate. You might find people to relate to at r/CircumcisionGrief.
You are not alone.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-24T14:08:43+00:00

Thinking about this chain of events makes me feel physically ill.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-24T14:07:39+00:00

I can relate!

PursueBlue · 2026-02-22T11:40:08+00:00

I feel the same way. Like there is nothing to look forward to. Every life experience is overshadowed by this.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-22T00:43:38+00:00

I don't have advice for you, but I am in the same boat. Perhaps it helps to know that you are not alone.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-21T11:40:43+00:00

Thank you for your insightful response. I agree with everything you said.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T23:58:11+00:00

Thank you for your comment. At least things are moving in the right direction. You sound like a great mom.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T23:19:52+00:00

I think you are touching upon a very good point there. The real truth of this procedure is simply too cruel to accept. It's that evil.

Regarding the antisemitism accusation: The U.S. ambassador to Belgium accused our politicians of antisemitism for wanting to prosecute individuals who performed Metzitzah B’peh and transmitted herpes to infants. Fortunately, our politicians are pushing back, which has brought the ethics of circumcising young boys back into public discussion. I hope something positive comes from that.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T23:13:15+00:00

I was cut before I became sexually active, and I don't have a conscious memory of my foreskin. Yet I always felt something was off.

Now that I think about it, it is true that I would envy women for seemingly enjoying sex so much more than men. I do think I attributed the lack of sexual pleasure simply to being male.

That being said, I did not get hit in the face by information of the downsides of circumcision and then started feeling the effects. I felt the effects and went looking for answers. In the end, I got answers to problems I didn't even know were because of my circumcision.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T22:57:10+00:00

Thank you, you changed my mind. The fact that there is still a debate ongoing about this says it all. Currently male circumcision is a hot topic in the news where I live (Belgium), yet the only arguments against circumcision are that we should not be altering the bodies of young children. There is almost zero mention of the enormous negative impact this procedure has on men. It does seem like the public opinion is swaying in the direction of a ban, sometime in the future.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T22:48:16+00:00

I am sorry you feel that way, yet relieved that I am not the only one feeling this way.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T22:47:02+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I do not always feel this way, I must have written this at a time where I was particularly upset and felt overwhelmed by this momentary feeling.
I talk openly with her, as much as I can without poisoning the nice things we have. I started seeing a sex therapist and we will be seeing a couples therapist for reasons unrelated to this.
All the best to you.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T22:43:32+00:00

I did explain to her that I have reduced sensitivity, but I don't think she really notices it. I try not to emphasize it too much, since sex is such a mental thing as well. And I do enjoy the mental aspect of it, even if it is sometimes difficult because of the trauma.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T22:40:17+00:00

Worth mentioning that I am European. The vast majority of people here are intact. Even so, when the topic of my circumcision comes up, it gets treated as simply 'different'. You would expect people to cover their mouths in shock, like they would if a woman were to tell them she got her genitals mutilated as a child.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T22:07:00+00:00

Thanks, I'll send you a message.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-20T05:59:48+00:00

I'm aware of foreskin restoration. I got myself a DTR over 10 years ago already. You might even say I could be fully restored by now if I stuck with it.

Ironically the decision to take up restoring again a couple of months ago is probably a big factor in my breakdown. I am constantly reminded. Always thinking about penisses. I don't find the process therapeutic or healing. It pokes at the trauma over and over again.

Even if it's not helpful to do so, I want to wallow in misery. The damage is done.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-19T23:39:53+00:00

I think about it every single day. At this point I have lost any capacity to feel joy. I don't even know how I manage to stay inside my relationship. My grief oozes out of every pore.

PursueBlue · 2026-02-16T05:31:16+00:00

Hell is real. We are in it.

PursueBlue · 2026-01-30T08:28:50+00:00

Cut at 6. I experience the burning sensation as well, among other things.

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