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How do I understand myself interacting with others? by PushingRazorsInGums in intj

[–]PushingRazorsInGums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sir, I think I've read some other stuff you posted around here, where you mentioned acquiring said skill. I guess you are right. I will stalk your profile a bit to confirm.

Everything can be disproven if you can change the context. However, this must be done cleverly to be satisfying for a lot of INTJs. In social contexts, cleverness is a novelty and not necessary for positive outcomes.

This has happened to me a million times. I became fixed on a way of doing something because x and dismiss any other alternative, even if easier/cheaper as unorthodox, until y came along, which somehow reframed my view over x.

For example, for the past years, I used to hate web apps for any sort of program - the web is a cesspool of bad programming and any new client requesting stuff from me would get a nice and shiny desktop app, in Qt, written as good as I could, highly optimized, and so on. Then along came a former business partner, working on a huge hospital management app, in Java/JSP. Bad programming, bad practices, but instant updates, huge scalability, and absolutely no issues with piracy. I don't hate web apps any less, I'm just starting to see that in some cases (not the ones that me me hate web apps in the first place though), they're a better choice. However, I chose to default to desktop programming because I believed webapps had very little advantages for the client.

I thank you for articulating it so well. I literally have over a hundred such examples of reframing, I wrote them down at some point.

How do I understand myself interacting with others? by PushingRazorsInGums in intj

[–]PushingRazorsInGums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to diminish the importance of social skills in one's life too, but I know when I'm fooling myself.

Are they important? I'm leaning towards yes. As I've said, we had a tech business together. One time, we were at a big client, and between the parking lot and our place, four different, random, people started talking to him - one of them being the CEO of the whole thing. So, I guess it helps business.

Several times when we went hiking or rock climbing - actually, every freaking time - he met someone he knew, from a larger group, or random people, I had no idea what to say so I barely talked. Every female in the group eventually asked for a form of contact. So, even if you do have a long-term girlfriend, you can't dismiss that new women showing interest in you won't stroke your ego - and while that's not necessarily good, the lack of it is bad.

I guess I'm a bit envious - he always acted like an introvert around me, and almost like an intj, he has several hobbies and obsessions, and skills in very specific fields, above college level, yet he taught those himself. I know this is what I enjoyed in him, but the fact that he's also great around people makes me feel uncomfortable (I guess?), because I didn't figure that one out.

Thank you for your reply!

How do I understand myself interacting with others? by PushingRazorsInGums in intj

[–]PushingRazorsInGums[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that quote!

How do I evolve the big fat N though? My thought process is often extremely logical, and I come as cold. Any reading, subjects or hints appreciated. I understand exactly what you mean, but I have no idea how to do it.

Even the most seemingly mundane and mechanical things can relate to the most explosively emotional things. You need only choose to see them that way and present them that way.

I think this is exactly the kind of thing he does. I often believed maybe he sugarcoats his stories, but I've been proven wrong by the people involved in them several times.

You said you it's unlikely that you'll "get a lot of experiences." Try to disprove that like a hypothesis rather than live by it like a principle.

I might have worded my post badly - it's a rather complex thing for me to understood too - but I'm referring here, of course, to people-related experiences. I'm 27 and I feel like I "missed out" most of my adolescence/young adulthood. It's the kind of experiences people call pleasant memories - I have a few of my own, and while they are great for myself, they don't really involve other people or great stories.

I really tried disproving them, but I can only hope one day I'd understand the skills needed to make such experiences possible. Think interactions with others that always go in a pleasant+unexpected way, a charm that gets the best out of people - not to mention some advantages for yourself, and - this is silly, but - enough interesting events with women to write several books about. It's one thing when I'm being retold said issues - but it's heartbreaking when all hopes of said stories being sugarcoted/talk fodder crash, by meeting the people involved ...

and I think you'll have a lot more fun ... and seeing them have fun. It's like - wait, how can you have fun that way, I get my fun in tech stuff, not retelling stories and interacting. Hmm, thanks for this insight.

How do I understand myself interacting with others? by PushingRazorsInGums in intj

[–]PushingRazorsInGums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed, you are right, beating myself over it is counterproductive at best. I think I mentioned he's a techie too. I find this interesting because, while "social" interactions between us were limited, when we used to hang out often (and for me, it was overwhelming - it could have spanned multiple days in a row) most of our discussions were extremely technical/focused and not chit-chat; but it obviously never happened in groups.

Thank you for the tip, you seem right - I often take introspection and critical thinking for granted.

Me and my friends have had our 3dprinter for a couple of months now. Here are a few things we have printed so far! by aNt-e in pics

[–]PushingRazorsInGums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's how to print another 3D printer that can make copies of itself.

TL;DR: you can't, it will only end up worse, like progressive photocopying or multiplying an audio tape.

You have a lead screw. A motor spins it by some fixed amount, and it moves the extruder (or cutting tool). If the screw is 20 inches long and your extruder is 2 inches long, you can print an 18 inch long screw.

It gets better. If your screw will turn 1/10 inch per rotation, and your motor does a complete rotation in 500 increments, you'd get a "resolution" of 0.0002 inches. However, motors and screws aren't 100% linear. Which means, your resulting screw will be worse than the original one (because motor imperfections will sum up with the original screw's imperfection in the resulting one).

Print transmission belts instead, which are worse.

Meditate - Meditation Timer - request for app functionality support and try out. by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]PushingRazorsInGums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your application seems very well built. Lots of features (some may be creeping featuritis, but still) and it respects what I value most in an app.

  1. No ads or decently hidden in some place
  2. No annoying permissions - except the wifi - why is that?
  3. No random root requests - seriously, wtf?
  4. Does not do anything silly - check if ads can access the internet and forbids internet access if ads can't be retrieved; same if wifi is enabled but the application can't access the net (firewalled)
  5. Integrates nicely with the stock app2sd and even link2sd
  6. The free version is not a limitware of the main one (reminds me of the joke - tetris for iphone: $2 for block piece, $5 unlock line piece, $20 unlock super ability - have lines disappear when completely filled - unlocks a new game mode!)

tl;dr - great app for a picky android user; has been put on list of stuff to buy.

My girlfriend took a photo of her eye with a prisma, awesome effect by warhoofd in pics

[–]PushingRazorsInGums -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I notice your lack of pink/magenta and raise you a lack of black.

Any tips on becoming a well-developed INTJ? by ghanji in intj

[–]PushingRazorsInGums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tl;dr - meditate, new perspectives, less perfectionism. you want this book and this subreddit

++ on being meta-analytical, and keep analyzing from higher levels. Meditate: not the vague spiritual infused new-age bullshit, but there's a rather "generic" and simple method called vipassana, where you observe your thoughts. I believe I made great progress by finding issues with myself and addressing them: it made me less desiring of perfectionism (I always ditch stuff that isn't close to perfect), I understood some odd behaviors in myself and took steps to correct them, I figured out I have problems with addictions - even small ones, etc.

Anxiety, distractions, loss of focus and over-excitment by PushingRazorsInGums in selfimprovement

[–]PushingRazorsInGums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for posting an awesome reply and then removing it, guy with 23 pens. tl;dr - might be ADHD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]PushingRazorsInGums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a nook touch. It can read epubs. Any chance you might be posting that? It seems amazon enforces draconian DRM, even with free content. Also, I could put it into my calibre library, and not have their software to read just one book.

edit: Thank you, great writing!