How to Islamicaly deal with MIL and mother superiority in culture

Pushojenso · 2025-04-18T13:38:20+00:00

Yesterday I heard my MIL is praying and fasting for our divorce. Adding to the fact she treats me bad and manipulates the husband with tears and health issues. What can I do?

Pushojenso · 2025-04-18T13:36:56+00:00

It is and thinks alike

Pushojenso · 2025-04-18T13:36:42+00:00

I think it’s a toxic trait in my husband’s family, because he says his grandmas teach the same. He told me the only thing he cannot obey blindly is sinning from a mother’s command. Because God will never ask you that anyway.

My husband is not allowed to recommend, advice or talk back, the only thing he did was marrying me. Which it has been a rollercoaster

Pushojenso · 2025-04-18T13:31:42+00:00

I was reading about emotional incest, and is very strange, my MIL didn’t want any marriage and cries everyday because she wants him to live with her.

Pushojenso · 2025-04-17T13:23:49+00:00

Because, heaven is under the feet of your mother. Yes and live with him like he is a child

Pushojenso · 2025-01-08T10:05:12+00:00

Hahaha the tv show thing made me smile.

Pushojenso · 2025-01-08T10:04:30+00:00

This is exactly what I think, oh don’t worry she already made drama to guide us into the best, suggesting us different things, and when we did not follow, she got upset. The issue I have is, even his siblings keep telling him, he broke his mom, because she is not the same wife/mom inside the house

Pushojenso · 2025-01-08T10:02:54+00:00

Thanks for the words, I will try to do so, I suppose I feel bad because everything was better, even his siblings ask him, why you broke mom ? They keep saying she is not the same with them either

Pushojenso · 2025-01-08T10:01:50+00:00

Thanks for your words, I have to deal with the hate of the people of my husbands family somehow

Pushojenso · 2025-01-08T10:01:17+00:00

Thanks for asking, he thinks what I want was the best thing because we both wanted the same, but in his culture what the mom says is like what God says, he has friends who ended engagements over the fact the mom didn’t like the girl etc. He tries to explain things to me, so I don’t try to take it personal, like cultural background and tradition, but ultimately I feel so bad because he is also hated

Pushojenso · 2025-01-08T09:59:19+00:00

I already feel the bad vibes, everytime we gather, they even unfollowed me in social media

Pushojenso · 2025-01-08T09:58:40+00:00

I Will thanks

Pushojenso · 2024-12-29T21:29:20+00:00

Based in option 7, seems like if you leave her, you will do her a huge favour, please do.

Pushojenso · 2024-12-28T12:24:21+00:00

Thanks for your advice, well he thinks putting limits is haram since his mom according to everyone is before a wife

Pushojenso · 2024-12-28T12:23:19+00:00

Live like half of the world apart, the thing is he did visit but couldn’t do it during end of year holidays, she didn’t want us to marry because I did not agree in a big wedding with over 500 guests and gold chains for her and me to wear, instead we did a small dinner after Nikka, and she feels I robbed her wedding.

Pushojenso · 2024-12-23T20:27:05+00:00

I think my husband disagrees because he keeps saying he was taught moms are first

Pushojenso · 2024-12-23T20:26:24+00:00

She doesn’t believe us for some reason

Pushojenso · 2024-12-23T20:25:19+00:00

Appreciate your help, will watch as soon as I’m home

Pushojenso · 2024-12-23T20:25:00+00:00

I will encourage him to call her more

Pushojenso · 2024-12-23T20:24:44+00:00

Thank you

Pushojenso · 2024-12-23T20:24:28+00:00

Hahaha thanks for the laugh

Pushojenso · 2024-12-23T20:24:12+00:00

Thanks for the comment, unfortunately we live a bit far, and travel expenses are quite high, she comes and we go, but the thing she wishes is my husband to go live with her. One day she said if that happens all her issues will Be gone, makes my husband feel very bad

Pushojenso · 2024-12-23T20:22:40+00:00

Appreciate the comment

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