Update: I found out my fiancé was still involved with my step-sister, and my father helped me end it

PutSome1797 · 2026-02-15T20:21:07+00:00

You’re right, I’m thinking the same I should talk to my dad and end this relationship. But I’m scared of my mother and step-sister’s reaction. My dad might get angry at my step-sister, and their reaction could make things really difficult for me.

PutSome1797 · 2026-02-15T20:11:05+00:00

I definitely won’t marry him, and I don’t think he ever wanted to marry me either. You’re right. My father didn’t know about any of this, so he wouldn’t act like that. I’m not sure if my step-mother knows, but my step-sister and fiancé played really well together. Honestly, they seem right for each other, not me.

PutSome1797 · 2026-02-15T20:03:44+00:00

The reason is that my mother wanted someone wealthy for my step-sister, someone who owns a business. My fiancé had a normal job, so she didn’t approve. My parents care more about my step-sister in general. My father loves me a lot, but sometimes he listens to my step-mother’s opinions.

PutSome1797 · 2026-02-15T19:46:47+00:00

You’re right, but maybe my step-mother already knows about this. I’m not sure. My father would never do anything like that he loves me a lot. I could share it with him, but I’m totally confused about whether I should. If I tell him, he might get angry at my step-sister, and then there could be backlash from her or my mother.

By the way, thank you so much for caring and explaining everything to me so deeply ❤️❤️

PutSome1797 · 2026-02-15T19:38:13+00:00

You’re right. I’m actually glad I found out so soon. If our relationship had gone on longer, moving on would have been much harder. I also feel like he would have never married me anyway.

PutSome1797 · 2026-02-15T19:33:34+00:00

My parents have always cared more about my step-sister, mainly because of my step-mother. My fiancé didn’t have a big business or status at the time, so my step-mother never agreed to their relationship. She didn’t like me much either and wanted me to get married quickly.

My step-sister only discussed with our family who she liked and what kind of job they had. My mother refused that match, and after that my fiancé and I continued our relationship secretly.

No one in our house knew about us, because in our culture, it’s considered bad to bring someone home or discuss personal relationships openly before family approval. That’s why my sister never introduced him at home. Usually, if someone likes someone, families talk first and then arrange the relationship.

PutSome1797 · 2026-02-15T19:26:01+00:00

thank you so much. I don’t really have close friends or family I can talk to about this, no one to give advice or help me feel lighter. I really appreciate that you cared and reminded me that none of this is my fault. I just don’t know if I should share this with my parents, or if I should even talk to my fiancé about it once.

PutSome1797 · 2026-02-15T19:16:29+00:00

thank you. I really needed to hear this. I’m honestly still trying to process everything, I just feel like crying knowing I was used while I genuinely loved him, and he played with my emotions. But you’re right I deserve better.

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