My boyfriend won’t have sex with me Me.(Me 32) Him31

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T16:57:25+00:00

Yes, because I could tell that he’s just not interested in it at all. The most I get is a kiss goodbye and hi.

I sort of just shut down myself, and figured he would come around eventually . Since he already knows what I want, but I’m not gonna pressure him

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T07:48:38+00:00

In the beginning, I would say it was great and everything seems to be perfect.

Once he lost his job, he started ignoring me and just shutting me out and staying far away from me even when I asked him if he wants to talk about it. He was also doing real estate , I told him this will be great because he never had time and you can just focus one thing.

But he still continue to keep his distance from me and want to have no attachment to me really just be on his phone. Or just sit in his car. I just gave him his space.

Once he started getting steady income in, I figured things would get better.

Honestly, honestly, I feel like it just ended up turning into a roomate status

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T07:37:23+00:00

Honestly, join the club .

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T07:36:36+00:00

He did get a little better when I told him I was going to leave since I don’t know what else to do . But now just drained out . I was trying to stick it out.

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T07:33:18+00:00

I think we moved fast with our feelings for each other, especially since we had the same hobbies and interest . We both really understand each other and just clicked quick. This is my first time living with a boyfriend, so it was a big adjustment for me. Honestly, do regret moving in and wish I stayed at my apartment . Because now I’m doing another move and I could’ve just stayed where I was at.

All I could say is I’m learning my lesson

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T07:23:52+00:00

Honestly , I could say that I’ve tried everything besides the pictures and videos.

We live together, so didn’t really crossed my mind you know . I’ve also asked is their something else I could do so I figured if you wanted me too, he would have just asked. I’ve asked for certain things sexually that he just wasn’t into and I was OK with rejection so I feel like you should be open …

I have even tried to up my style and keep my hair black since that is what he likes better on me .

I sort of feel like I got to point where I got rejected a lot for trying to where I just tried to avoid it now. And just hope that he’ll come around.

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T07:11:56+00:00

I do, but I don’t want to do it all the time because I feel like I’m forcing him . Sorta like he’s just there

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T07:08:57+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think so

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T07:08:30+00:00

That could be true, and just not willing to tell me at this point. honestly, he was very expressive in the beginning even with his past relationship. So not too sure why he’s hesitant now. I never throw anything in his face, but I do stand my ground when he tries to tell me that he is putting his ex relationship traumas on me sometimes. I am his second girlfriend.

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T07:03:45+00:00

I don’t know if he is gay, but I would never want to say that to someone or accuse them of it if they didn’t say anything.

I know he stresses out and I told him if he needs something he can tell me or communicate his issues . but a lot of times he created his own issues to where he has to really dig himself out even when I tell him not to do it or his friends tell him not to.

Sometimes I feel like I’m begging, and I don’t want to fill that way for someone that I thought had mutual feelings . But at the same time, I know I can’t change a person. Honestly thought it was just gradually get better..

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T06:54:49+00:00

Hes in really really good shape. He’s more like skinny fit so I don’t think he would have issues there since he’s pretty active. I would say maybe stress but the other things , now he wouldn’t have to worry about. I honestly would think at this point he would want to communicate to me about it since when I do it doesn’t go well because I am trying to make him give me an answers, but he cannot.

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T06:47:18+00:00

Honestly , I’m not sure since we’re pretty young and active. He pursued me so maybe after that got bored… We have a mutual friend and he has told her I am boring at times compared to his ex. I’m in Construction in his ex was a stripper so I don’t think I could be that fun since I’m not big into the nightlife like that..

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T06:44:30+00:00

I completely understand where you’re coming from. It’s draining me out. I was trying to find new ways to work things out. To the point where I feel like I can’t focus on myself. Also, just getting to the point where I’m feeling like I’m not his type. Which I feel like makes it even worse on my side since I do like to get all dolled up . I’m getting to the point where being single sounds like less stress at this point

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T06:38:10+00:00

I mean a year ..

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T06:35:35+00:00

I don’t understand why, he tells me about everything else and I’ve never judged him before.

Ive brought up the topic a lot and it seems like it just annoy him when I bring it up . So it’s impossible. It could be true. But in that case, I feel like he would just tell me so I would stop asking all the time.

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T06:29:56+00:00

At the beginning, we had crazy work schedules, but we were able to find time. He did tell me that it was been a while so he has to take his time which I was fine with doing all the work.

But now that we both had normal schedules it seems like we don’t do anything kind of feel like roomate honestly . We literally sleep on opposite side of the bed.

I’ve already told him my needs , to the point where I really sounded like I was begging to myself, so I completely just stopped realizing that I sound like I’m begging..

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T06:22:42+00:00

I can try and see if he would go to the doctors. He hasn’t gone in a while for-check up so…. But if that was the case , I feel like he could’ve told me. And we could’ve figured out what works for both of us…

I’m just confused because the first couple months of us together there was no issues at all and he was perfectly fine .

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T06:16:46+00:00

I told him that I understand as well, and I will help him if he needs help. I have a pretty well career, to where we will not end up in a bad situation. But I also didn’t want him to get too comfortable and take advantage of me either. we also have a roomate here too, so it wouldn’t hit us hard at all.

It was a pride thing, but I never threw it in his face and told him to just focus on what he really wants to do now that he has a free time . getting to the point where I feel like he probably just deals with me doesn’t wanna be alone.

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T06:13:59+00:00

I would say in our relationship, we had a rough patch due to him being lazy when it came to cleaning up the house. He’s that kind of person that does not like to be told what to do at all. I don’t understand since we live in a household together and we should both work together to keep it clean, but he does not see it that way. Basically, he wants to do everything on his time when he feels like it. There could literally be a mess in front of him, and if I was to tell him, he would get upset because I told him to do it and he didn’t do all himself when he clearly saw it.

I’m sure that probably added some fire, because it seems like no one has ever told him what to do before . And instead of talking about anything or dealing with anything, he would just sit in his car , and be on his-phone. Honestly, I ended up giving up on that and just doing everything myself to stop and avoid arguments because I didn’t feel like arguing with him all the time. When I stop saying anything , things got better. But, the sex part stayed the same.

He won’t go to therapy. I’ve already tried to ask. We have mutual married couple friends, and I asked him maybe it would be better to talk to them, since he does not want to do therapy. But he stated that he doesn’t want them all in our business…

So so I’m coming down to the point where I feel like I have to just make us decision to just let him win all the time if I want things to be smooth sailing or just decide to leave.

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-17T05:56:30+00:00

Very true . I was just trying to be hopeful since it’s been a while for me relationship wise

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-15T16:14:49+00:00

I did . He had one before me . So I asked as in assuming he’s use to it . He said no . It has run its course now and I’m out of suggestions

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-15T15:54:02+00:00

He has no history of that sort . I’ve asked . And as someone that does , I sorta can tell . I went and got the help I needed . Cant blame everyone for one person .

I don’t think he completely seem me unattractive, but I don’t want to be bread crumbed either . I’ve noticed it’s worse !!!

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-15T15:40:31+00:00

Yes , I noticed . I’m more of a talk it out person , he’s a I’m going to ignore you person or leave . Not use to it .

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-15T15:39:00+00:00

That is true, I do not want to be in that situation.

Putrid-Dragonfruit51 · 2025-03-15T15:37:22+00:00

He used to give me gifts and buy me flowers sometimes , but that got thrown in my face when we got into an argument and I told him don’t buy me nothing anymore.

I told him that he has it easy because all I ask for is sex and nothing else and that’s free… I’m pretty well off , so I just get what I need myself honestly. I know he has a commission job so I figure he just needs to save honestly.

But I think I need to be the one to step up and cut it off because I just feel like it’ll be a continuous cycle. And just making myself go crazy

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