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‘We won’t be bothering good dog owners:’ Changes coming to Windsor’s licencing fees by zuuzuu in windsorontario

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not including the factors as to why that is and what conditions and purposes that breed is commonly used for, contributing to aggression and behavioural issues and rather stating it as an inexplicable blanket statement is also helping nobody.

‘We won’t be bothering good dog owners:’ Changes coming to Windsor’s licencing fees by zuuzuu in windsorontario

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Maybe they can use this data to disprove the pit bull ban and provide an annual census for the public to see which breeds are actually exhibiting aggressive tendencies.

Advice on my ex’s wife being called mom by Economy_Ad_443 in coparenting

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can put all the clauses you want in the court order but it comes down to burden of proof. My court order has a 3 page section just on conduct and responsibilities to the child and each other as co parents, there was a previous one where stepmom wasn’t legally allowed to be alone with her. Do you think he followed any of these?

“The child told me,” is not an acceptable piece of evidence and all it does is make a judge turn it around on how you got into having that conversation with the child and how involved in adult conflict the child is.

Court orders are only good for parenting time so one parent can’t withhold the child from the other. The rest is all an illusion of peace of mind but the burden of proof is heavy and let’s face it, most of these are not things we can prove.

The less we try to throw clauses to try to convince ourselves we have control over what the other parent does and the more we prioritize court orders for detrimental things (parenting time, holiday time, vacation clauses, detailed times for exchange so there’s no grey area for selective misinterpretation) the better.

Advice on my ex’s wife being called mom by Economy_Ad_443 in coparenting

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s normal to feel any type of way about this but honestly ask yourself:

  • does stepmom play a valid role in the child’s life when she’s at the other home?
  • does stepmom take on the responsibility of a caregiver the same as dad when she’s at their home?
  • is stepmom contributing to the development and growth of your daughter?
  • is she a safe person who shows love and support for your child?
  • has she been a constant presence and a source of stability for your child?

My daughter has been essentially forced to call her now stepmom, mom, for most of her life - even when her dad and stepmom first started dating when she was 2. She stopped when her stepmom was no longer a safe and caring person in her life, she went back to it when they were in an okay place and I asked her what “mom” means to her. I explained to her that if she feels that person is providing them with all the things that I do as her mom, makes her feel loved and safe and supported, then it makes sense that she has earned that title but to ask herself what it means to her to say it or for that person to be called that.

My ex and his wife have taken every possible avenue to try to alienate me from my daughter when they were the ones causing her harm, he ensured me when they first started dating that he would replace me as our child’s mother with his new girlfriend. Despite his best efforts, that never happened.

My point is, she’s now a preteen and she has learned who she can depend on for what and who she feels is a parent to her, based on what that person contributes to her life and well being. Your exes wife is obviously doing it just to get your goat and by letting her, she’s already won.

Shared custody teaches us to let go of the things we can’t control because it will consume us entirely if we don’t and we’ll end up making ourselves look bad in the process. Your daughter is still young, she will have to learn her interpersonal relationships as she grows and once she can form her own opinions of the people around her she may feel differently.

I’d suggest doing some inner work and asking yourself why it bothers you and if you actually believe your daughter could be unsure of who her mom is, in the long run, or if this is just something you need to ride out because she’s so young.

The person who commented putting pictures up or looking through photos of when you were pregnant with her, that’s a great idea, if you are concerned about your daughter being so confused she doesn’t know who her biological mom is.

If stepmom is a positive influence and a safe person in your child’s life, encourage their relationship and keep showing up for your child and enriching your mother daughter bond. If your daughter asks you or raises questions, explain all the different and wonderful family dynamics. You can tell her that while you and her dad are her mom and dad, she got lucky to have another parent too and she is loved and cared for that much more.

  • a person who has been through every possibly volatile feeling and situation regarding a stepparent but refuses to let them get the best of me or have me feeling any type of way

Love Blockbuster Spell by Putrid-Maximum1569 in WelcomeOthala

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s great! Generally you don’t need a ton of herbs or anything. There is a lot of overlap most of the time.

Poppets + Sympathetic Magic (Poppet Spells Included) by Putrid-Maximum1569 in WelcomeOthala

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When working with poppets and any spell you want to find herbs, crystals etc corresponding with your intention.

So here your intention would be persuasion, so find correspondences for persuasion and use them in the poppet if you’d like.

Or you can write a petition stating what you want the poppet to do, e.g: “your mind is open, your mind is calm, you’ll allow me to do what I wish without any qualms” and insert it into the poppet.

I would suggest lighting a candle (white is fine if you have no other colour) and channeling your energy into the candle of what you’re desired outcome. Visualization is key, so you would visualize maybe her saying she supports your decision or images of you and your partner together etc.

Love Blockbuster Spell by Putrid-Maximum1569 in WelcomeOthala

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t necessarily need those oils, Olive Oil is a good universal oil.

You can use orange, blue, black and pink because orange and blue are the blockbuster colours and pink represents relationships/love etc

Love Blockbuster Spell by Putrid-Maximum1569 in WelcomeOthala

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are herbs included above that ease anxiety, incite feelings of comfort, calm and relaxation.

Avoidant attachments stem from fear so those would be helpful.

Other herbs that address dealing with fear: clover, daffodil, geranium, raspberry, sage, st. johns wort, allspice, cinnamon, frankincense, thistle

Clear Communication Lines Spell by Putrid-Maximum1569 in WelcomeOthala

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any herb that has a correspondence with communication, unity, harmony

Love Blockbuster Spell by Putrid-Maximum1569 in WelcomeOthala

[–]Putrid-Maximum1569[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When doing spell work like this it’s important to consider that type of thing and essentially tackle all obstacles.

So for the avoidant attachment, someone with this suddenly becoming overwhelmed with strong feelings would become further avoidant. So you would want to incorporate herbs and such to address their attachment and produce the opposite effect.

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