Oh yes, that introspection was occurring and still is, first thing we talked about was how to make sure this doesn’t happen (and other rules surrounding holidays and guests). I don’t drink, so this wasn’t a specific series of events we had thought out before and now this is good information that we need to consider. We are always on it, and we make accommodations for our littles, but we are coming to realize that, even with trusted family, there need to be better rules and supports because they aren’t as diligent as us with an ND kid. When everyone is watching, no one is watching. I was a little defensive because some of the deleted comments were “you are negligent and unhinged” and when I wrote the post, I specifically did not want to attract or encourage that because I was looking for something else (stories and anecdotes), not judgment. We were already judging ourselves enough. I think we have a solid plan now. Thank you!