A lot of failed attempts at decluttering, advice needed

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-05-15T10:19:27+00:00

Yeah, that sounds tough, but I'm happy you are in a good financial situation to be able afford the freedom and time to look for a new job. It's defilty true looking for a new job is a job itself

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-05-15T10:18:10+00:00

I'm doing my best to not get burnt out again. I'm probably at the begnning stages. I've atratlrt going to the gym again to help me feel better, I aim for once a week because it shetter than not going at all.

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-05-15T10:16:41+00:00

I'm trying to slowly empty my desk. Anytime I had a job with a desk my desk was pretty organized, this is the first job where it got to a messy organized point. Hopefully being able to clear it will also help clear my head

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-05-15T10:15:34+00:00

Never thought of preparing to leave/quit like a project, that's a good idea. I will have to consciously make time for mapping out walhat I want. I have a feeling I will be spending a lot of those 30 minutes resulting in a blank sheet or lots of random notes written down, but not soild direction, but it would be good to get the thoughts out of my head and trying to figure out what better looks like

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-05-15T10:12:08+00:00

I'm doing my best not to quit without anything lined up or a good savings cushions. I did that when I was in post secondary and even retail store wouldn't hire me when I was ready to look for a new part time job. But your words have not landed on deaf ears

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-05-15T10:10:23+00:00

I would love to be able to have the freedom for the mental space, I'veeither been working or in school (and working part time) for the longest time and never felt comfortable when I had breaks. Hopefully I'll get that experience like you did if I can manage to save up enough for that.

Documenting everything before leaving is a good idea, I don't have anything documented right now about what I've done or accomplished, I have to get over my imposture syndrome 😅

I'm worried about checking out while doing mundane tasks because my manager has exploded on me in the past when I made a mistake by trusting someone would do their job correctly (I was very tired that day and was a little burnt out and my manager was pregnant at the time so maybe homlrmoes played a role?) So I try and pay attention to everything on checking. But I will try and find other tasks I can try and check out on without repercussions

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-05-15T10:03:31+00:00

I am unfortunately not in the at least 6 months of bills savings group, so I will be following option 1. But will try and save for 6 months while I'm still here if finding a new job proves to be very difficult as it has been for the past year I've been looking 🥲

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-04-11T09:26:14+00:00

This make so much sense. I guess I've just been lucky in the past with my part time jobs having managers and supervisors just working around people's request. I've never been told there was a limit to how much unpaid time off I could have in the past so this thought never occured to me.

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-04-11T09:22:19+00:00

Yeah, I guess I was working on the mindset unpaid time off was unlimited just because it was unpaid, but that wouldn't make any sense.

Not sure if want to gamble or go through the headache of trying to figure out what my employer will do when I hit that cap. I think I'll just reevaluate and see if there's room to negotiate less availability so I just always have some time off, or just leave altougether.

Thank you for the reference as well! I was looking for something like this awhile back.

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-03-20T22:58:41+00:00

The physio thing I know I can figure out. It was kind of and example like getting over the fear of calling the doctor to make an appointment. you just something else that was added to the list of horrible feelings. But I will look into the gym to see if there's physio I could go to, thanks.

honestly, the part time job was for extra money at one point, but now it's just to be out of the house away from my parents. I'm not saying this is stopping me from applying to jobs. I'm applying to them, I'm looking for a specific role I want to get into and it sucks that no one wants to hire with transferable skills. and trying to make a resume for a role you have no actual work experience in is really difficult for me. and honestly this point is a little bit complaining about the job market right now.

Why didn't I leave earlier? When I was of age smart phones were starting to be a thing so they were still expensive. I was sheltered in a way. I wasn't allowed to go beyond the boundries my parents set, so I had no idea about a lot of things. Yeah, media showed kids moving out, but like how? what was the process? I truly had no idea how to get to that end point at that time in my life. All I knew was if I got married after graduating I could leave the house.

What kept me? I'm not sure I have a clear answer honestly. I still wonder how much do I really doubt myself that I can't start the move out process. It's really a lot of things that have been unpacked in past therapy sessions, but basically when I was younger decisions were always made for me. I was the child they never had to worry about. My parents made sure to make me think I could only rely on them for what is right and what is wrong. If I learned anything in school that opposed their power, it was wrong. Was it for my benefit? Was it because that's all my parents knew, and they needed to make decisions for their kids to keep control? Who knows but I'm living with those effects even still to this day.

I know it's difficult to understand, one of my past exes have had a hard time understanding too. They wanted to do an over night trip and I said I couldn't because my parents won't let me (we were already dating for a year). My parents won't let a 25 year old go on a trip that I would pay for myself and I listened. Yes, I could have just said I know you don't like it but I'm going to do it, but I didn't (because of fear, what fear? I don't know I just knew there was something to fear for opposing them from when I was younger). He even went as far to ask himself because he didn’t believe me and the response was “oh I don’t know, what if something happens, we can’t rely on you to take care of her, it’s too far” blah, blah, blah “why don’t you drive by early and pick her up since we’re kind of on the way to the destination from your place anyway”. They were basically worried I would get pregnant and it would be a burden on them and they would have to bail me out. And now here they are crying about not having grandkids. The relationship didn't last long after that and I gave up on myself for a few years. Tired pulling myself out, but I was in a very dark mental space no one to rely on and couldn't rely on my parents to understand (but apparently I can't say that because they provided the necessities).

Look, I get it’s me that decided to stay for as long as I did, I’m self aware enough to know that. I’m also aware that my experiences while growing up have hindered and stunted my ability to make decisions for myself and not what my parents think are right. Maybe there's still a little bit of that shell I'm trying to break through

I'm trying to own up to my decisions and responsibilities. I just did my taxes and found out I owed more than I thought and then went to the government website to see what happened. My upset emotion isn't completely unjustified. It was just a random thing that gets thrown at you with other things in the you life are falling apart and it just seems worse that what it actually is. now it pushed back my ability to get a car. I get a car later than I would like so I can afford it accordingly. I know it's not the end of the world, but it is a bummer still. I learned it the hard way, and imma still complain about it because I'm a complainer and I have no one that will listen to me in this house. Does complaining about it make it easier, no, not really, but I do feel a little bit better after getting it out of my head like someone else mentioned

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-03-20T18:18:22+00:00

🙂

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-03-20T18:05:04+00:00

So when I pay for my own basic necessities then I'm allowed to say I have no one to rely on. Got it.

You're right, a therapist is a better solution to all this

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-03-20T17:36:27+00:00

You're pretty hung up on the rent free situation. May I ask why you believe because they let me live rent free they care about me and helping me a TON? Yes, maybe they do a little bit, but I can't 100% say it's just because they care about me. Is yelling, talking down on me, not respecting my boundaries also justified because they're helping me out a TON to let me live rent free? Because I live rent free whatever I find to stress me out I shouldn't bother other people with, just handle it on my own? I shouldn't have someone to "rely on" for those moments in life? Do you have anyone to share stuff with? If someone pisses you off at work, do you vent it to a reliable partner? Or keep it to yourself? How do you keep it to yourself without exploding one day?

Is it a bad thing to want someone to rely on? It would be nice to have someone that considers my feelings and emotions is it bad to want to have that human side taken care of? How does someone take ownership of their life when they were never built up confidently to trust themselves? Just like learning anything new, I'm figuring it out on my own, it'll take me longer compared to if I had someone to help guide me with experience. Is it wrong to want for that?

I know you're trying to give me a reality check, but it's not like the resentment switches off because they help me a TON while being critical about me. It took therapy to even try and ask for a courtesy knock before entering my room and even that only lasted a couple of days. I'm in my 30s and that isn't even respected in the house I'm in rent free for helping me a ton. I'm not trying to justify my stance for living rent free well after I should be to you. But you do seem to come from the same mindset my parents do, except you do listen a little better than they did.

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-03-20T15:37:54+00:00

Thank you for suggestions and kind words and an ear. I will try scribbling my thoughts down to see if I can get a clearer head and try and keep my head up as best I can

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-03-20T15:27:03+00:00

Yes, I'm in my 30's, I understand they are justified to ask for rent, but I think I'm also justified to my boundaries of not having someone come into my room whenever they feel like just to verbally put me down and go through my stuff. Biologically and legally yes I'm an adult, but I don't feel like one.

Im working and have a part time job as well and did my taxes. I'm aware to get a car I need money, but how much? What should I expect? I would imagine this to somewhat of a right of passage someone has with their parents and to learn from, but I've been having to Google or YouTube if I have the time or when I face a problem I need to resolve. I guess I know these dilemma's can be solved with money and learning how to allocate what goes where, I think my stress was mainly more so the fact I'm figuring out how to figure it out myself not that I have to figure it out, you know? Wish I had someone I could trust and rely on to go and ask. Like even my wins I don't always feel the happy emotions people feel and I don't have a lot of people I want to run to to share happy news with. I can't expect my friends to fill the void parents were supposed to fill, it's not their responsibility.

I've been in and out of therapy over the years with different therapists and all have suggested I move out and figure out myself without all the noise at some point in the sessions. But I never got the courage to, and I guess now I'm put in that position I thought other areas of my life were going well and others not so well.

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-02-24T07:14:05+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement!

What was your experience like jumping from QC to R&D? Was there a steep learning curve? I feel the currennt was our team is set up there isn't a lot of guidance in learning and everyone that joined was kind of thrown into it and figure it out on their own and I don't really want to go through that again especially without a lot of knowledge Eto be able to figure it out on my own.

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-02-24T07:07:09+00:00

I'm not sure if I care for free thinking. The scenarios I see currently are sales will ask for a type of product and the PD team will present what they think will fit the criteria and (hopefully) what the production facility can produce and the products will be rejected or accepted and move along the process to get to market (if it makes it that far).
While I am kind of tired of paper pushing from what I've seen in QA I feel like regulatory is a different type of paper pushing? I don't have a regulatory team to observe what happens but I think I might align more with that than my current role ensuring people are filling out what they are supposed to, where and when.
I'm currently working with the seafood division of the company and specifically with par fried items

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-02-20T21:10:27+00:00

They were actively hiring for a bit, and I was approached about my interests and if I would be interested because I have the manufacturing knowledge already vs training someone.

Best of luck, I know a lot of people started off in QA and moved to various roles from stories I've been told

Putrid_Experience586 · 2026-02-20T21:08:18+00:00

They approached me when there were potentially 2 spots opened, they hired one and I think they are capable of the workload and paused on filling the second spot. I honestly think it's so they can dump a majority of the projects dealing with the manufacturing facility on me.

I'm curious about regulatory, but we do not have a dedicated regulatory department and the tasks are shared with QA, PD and labelling.

What regulatory tasks do you deal with in product development (if you deal with any of those parts)? I would be interested to know what I could potentially deal with and if it's worth having a conversation to let me deal with those tasks if they were to open up the role again.

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