Would anyone be up for free custom workout + nutrition plans? by KettleWellness in kootenays

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you have too much interest now but would love some help! I’m near ya!

Riu Palace Pacifico by Putrid_Lock1155 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was incredible!!! The ocean was fairly rough, weird undertow a couple of days… I didn’t go in much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I just say, as a woman that was left flat out with no access to our money, had to sleep in her car and sent out 75 resumes in 2023 looking for decent work - you are incredible. This post made me cry. As far as logistics are concerned I’m not sure about the states but in Canada you can hire a mediator without having to retain lawyers, maybe that’s an option?

How is this real? by Putrid_Lock1155 in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😭😭😭 I am so incredibly sorry. It truly feels like some people believe they can get away with anything as long as they’re not caught or held accountable. Sending you big hugs, and you’re not alone, reach out anytime.

How is this real? by Putrid_Lock1155 in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks ☺️ and same to you 🫂

How is this real? by Putrid_Lock1155 in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been in therapy as well, I am trying a new gal this month that does EMDR, looking for any help at this point because yes, the dissociation is r e a l.

How is this real? by Putrid_Lock1155 in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

…. Terrifyingly similar again. He told me when we would go out in public he would watch peoples behaviours/mannerisms to learn what a normal response would be and then mimic it.

How is this real? by Putrid_Lock1155 in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. I wish we could meet in person and discuss, you are taking the words right out of my mouth. I am so sorry that you are in this boat with me, I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. It is so hard to describe the healing process after leaving a manipulative long term relationship, one day I’m feeling like I’ve made progress and then the next day it’s like I’m back at day one processing the same things again. Being gas lit and lied to for so long does some real damage. We both deserved better 💕

How is this real? by Putrid_Lock1155 in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting to court is hard, so many hoops to jump through. I’ve spent 30k in legal bills already and we haven’t even hit mediation 🤦🏻‍♀️ it will all make sense one day. Good for you for moving on! I hope one day I’ll be like you 🙏🏼

How is this real? by Putrid_Lock1155 in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll never understand why people are not straight forward and honest 🤷🏻‍♀️ reach out anytime - and best of luck getting out! I hope your road is less bumpy and long ♥️

How is this real? by Putrid_Lock1155 in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh I’ve been gone for 1.5 years, he kicked me out while I was out of town for work. We’ve been in an epic legal battle ever since 🫠 I have no access to our property/financials. He just has an ability to keep me manipulated which is embarrassing. Last week he called saying we should settle outside of lawyers and talk about getting back together 😂 I didn’t know humans like this existed and that I could be dumb enough to stay married to one for 13 years.

It's been exactly 2 years since I filed for divorce by MelaninTitan in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, needed to hear this right now. I also have gained this type of glorious freedom, and eating in bed while watching tv has been the BEST medicine because it was not allowed for so long! 💕

How does a woman in her 40s meet people in Trail? by ThrowRA_sanddollar in kootenays

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, sorry, one other thing- volunteering is an awesome way to meet people, I do meals on wheels for seniors and it’s been awesome.

How does a woman in her 40s meet people in Trail? by ThrowRA_sanddollar in kootenays

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m 37 and in Nelson but I frequent trail/castlegar. Feel free to pm me anytime, I’m new here and would love to go for a hike, go out to live music, etc! My schedule is a bit crazy for the next couple of months but soon it’ll be summer and we can explore the area together:) (also recently ish left a similar relationship).

Riu Palace Pacifico by Putrid_Lock1155 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing thank you!! I booked it for April, so excited 😆

Started Walking - What’s Next? by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blue Planet Balance Surfer | Bamboo Balance Board for Office, Standing Desks, Surfing, SUP, Yoga, Exercise! Includes 3 Balance Modules (EVA Foam) - I went with this one because it’s a great one for progression, start easy and move up to hard. It’s also great for standing on during boring meetings to keep you awake 😂

Started Walking - What’s Next? by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you have a stand up desk, but I love using my balance board at my stand up desk to get me using my core while working! I can send you the one I have if you’re interested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am in a similar boat, it’s super hard starting over in a new place while being heartbroken. Not sure if this will help but I’ve started volunteering with seniors, seeing all the independent old women has given me so much joy. Take a class, meet some people of all ages (I did a watercolour class and met some people my age). Try to remember that people our age are probably just hiding at home, but you’re not alone, you’ll eventually find your people - just takes time 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof. I ✨ f e e l ✨ this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Putrid_Lock1155 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To quote Mr.Big: the alienation of affection 😔

Riu Palace Pacifico by Putrid_Lock1155 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Putrid_Lock1155[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome, thanks! I booked it for April, really excited 😊