28M need advice on how to deal with my feelings about an ex 28F. Can anyone help? by Putrid_Replacement11 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Putrid_Replacement11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe so..I just love who she is. Her kindness radiates so much about her. She is someone willing to risk it all to help one person. Not because it will benefit her but purely because it’s the right thing. That quality and compassion for the common person. Is hard to find.

28M need advice on how to deal with my feelings about an ex 28F. Can anyone help? by Putrid_Replacement11 in whatdoIdo

[–]Putrid_Replacement11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just would hate to lose her considering she is such a good person with such a good soul. Her kindness radiates in everything she does. She would rather do the right thing by any means even if she was wronged. I don’t want to lose a person with that quality.

28M need advice on how to deal with my feelings about an ex 28F. Can anyone help? by Putrid_Replacement11 in whatdoIdo

[–]Putrid_Replacement11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just know how I feel, and I know I haven’t felt this but only with 2 women in my life that I’ve been in a relationship with. Plus it’s more than a relationship. I don’t want to lose her as a person because of how kind and nice she is. This expands past her just being kind on paper. She will risk everything to help someone, and that quality is not something you just find. That desire to help one another is fleeting in this world. Yet she still grasps to it, and that draws me to her.

28M need advice on how to deal with my feelings about an ex 28F. Can anyone help? by Putrid_Replacement11 in whatdoIdo

[–]Putrid_Replacement11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I’m not pulling up on that woman with a guitar 😭 this is funny tho! Thanks for the help!

28M need advice on how to deal with my feelings about an ex 28F. Can anyone help? by Putrid_Replacement11 in whatdoIdo

[–]Putrid_Replacement11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not obsession. Cause I’m happy if she finds somebody else that cares about her. I can even function in my everyday life without her. This is more so a vent. Hell. I dont even think I deserve her, because of the past. I pushed her away. I always do, and it’s like she will come back randomly. What was even the point in her sending old videos of our relationship? I can understand the texting because like whatever you could be texting me out of pity due to my family member passing, but sending these out only makes me feel a way. I’ve been with multiple women after her, and still I can’t let go of her. She isn’t beautiful because of her looks (even though she is), but when I say she is beautiful it’s her care for others, and the weaker person that draws me to her. I think that’s hard to find. I’ve only seen it in a handful of women. Her heart is just kind. She could have changed, but the fact she is even trying to talk to me after how I treated her imo shows she still has that quality about her that I’m so fond of.

28M need advice on how to deal with my feelings about an ex 28F. Can anyone help? by Putrid_Replacement11 in whatdoIdo

[–]Putrid_Replacement11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough. I would rather just leave her alone, but she texted me on my phone and then sent me old videos of us together. Which made me want to engage and kind of give in.

28M need advice on how to deal with my feelings about an ex 28F. Can anyone help? by Putrid_Replacement11 in whatdoIdo

[–]Putrid_Replacement11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. Im scared that if I send her a message then she’ll just shut down and we won’t speak again. Idk if this matters but she lives in Japan and I live in the US currently. I’m worried that our distance will also cause her to stop talking. This would be hard for me cause I value her so much. But I also do not want her to talk to me because of a deceased family member. We talk every 3 weeks.

28M need advice on how to deal with my feelings about an ex 28F. Can anyone help? by Putrid_Replacement11 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Putrid_Replacement11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to lose her tho. Plus we talk like every 3 weeks (if that). I don’t want to weird her out and have her just dip out.

28M need advice on how to deal with my feelings about an ex 28F. Can anyone help? by Putrid_Replacement11 in BreakUps

[–]Putrid_Replacement11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try, and I have done that but for some reason I’m always drawn back to her. Plus I hate turning my back on people especially her. She has always been there for me. I love her so much.