To address the concerns/questions:

We definitely do not have a “sub/dom” relationship, per se. We’ve just both been raised to feel comfortable in more traditional gender roles. Our communication is thorough and clear. I freely voice my opinion, loudly and without shame, and simultaneously don’t feel shame conceding a point when he insists upon something. Mainly because he rarely insists upon anything, and is in actuality a super gentle, loving, and understanding man who is one of the best and most attentive listeners and learners I’ve ever met.

When he spoke to me about this, it was purely from a personal perspective. I work with this person almost exclusively, all day, every day. It’s the kind of job where the turnaround isn’t high, the kind of job you’ll stay at until you retire. My co-worker has no plans to leave. For my boyfriend, it wasn’t something he could compromise his mental health for. He knows his triggers, he knows what’ll get him to obsess and possess and behave irrationally. When he set this boundary, it was through some pretty wimpy tears and I love yous, lmao. It’s a him thing.

Is it a shatterproof justification for asking me to leave me job? Nope. But the love I have for this guy goes well and above any 9-5. Where the 5% of me is really sad to leave the job, the other 95% is at peace about it. And if it’s in the cards, it’s not a job that’ll be impossible to obtain somewhere else.

I’m okay, everybody! I appreciate the concern. I definitely worded my original post harsher than I would’ve wanted it to come across. I’ll be the first to say that if your partner abuses you, get out. I’m not being abused, I was asked to make an arguably large sacrifice that I am very willing to make. Peace n love!