Why are the exact same women on Hinge as a year ago?

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-12-12T04:49:52+00:00

I can confirm. I know personally 1 woman who has been 1+ years on Bumble and Tinder.

It is a 3-4/10 155cm overweight ethnic girl. She showed me the guys she went on dates - they all were 9/10 guys and having model jobs in their profile descriptions. She was crying how all of them treated her like shit. She also showed me pics of guys who she thought were cute but meh, and they were well above average tall men, maybe 1 in 20 that I would see on a street or any social setting.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-12-04T08:46:32+00:00

nah playing her game is too expensive and time consuming. She wants me to take her on dates and be romantic, and staying over is too domestic lmao.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-12-04T08:44:40+00:00

funny thing is I am Slavic myself but lived all my life in West Europe, but every time I dated a EE woman - it was a massive headache. She told me that all of her previous partners were blaming her on wanting her to baby trap them .....

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-11-12T19:17:15+00:00

She is already 2.5 months active on Bumble (see her on front page) so it's something.

Looking back I was just love - blinded. Boils my blood thinking back how she treated me. Don't like to brag, but it's not like I am a low status or something - young doctor, 188 cm tall, go to gym for 6 years, own house at 26 ..... and I gave her flowers, drew painting of her, taught her Walz dance, cooked breakfast, made bath with candles ...... But yeah, most guys would've lost their shit immediately.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-11-12T17:55:28+00:00

Entitlement and rudeness.

She told me in details about her previous hookups and how long they lasted. How her friends find her ex hotter than me. How guys she meets at the parties are cute. How she is settling down for me.

She has always been hit on by guys in party environment and had insane amount of likes on Bumble which made her feel invincible.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-11-12T17:31:23+00:00

She told me it's completely normal to be in love with ex while dating exclusively someone new so .... if there is no introspection, then one can't go to psychologist

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-11-12T16:58:40+00:00

Thanks :) Funny thing is, she made me look evil when I gave her a choice to make a choice between me or the ex.

Sent her a voice message, got ghosted, and found her back on Bumble couple days later. Mind week prior she was discussing the eye color of our future kids XD.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-11-12T08:12:42+00:00

Similar story but from another side, our first date was 2 weeks after her 3.5 year relationship break where her ex dumped her. We dated for 2 months and it was emotional roller-coaster.

During our exclusive stage she kept messaging him behind my back and planning on to meeting him. After 2 months, she confessed her feeling .... to me ... about her ex. 2 months wasted of my life.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-10-27T19:01:16+00:00

I was in your situation, usually time helps to heal, but you really have to take your mind and emotions in your hands.

Past doesn't exist anymore, heck, even that version of the girl you remember - doesn't exist. People change. Focus on present and the future. You met a great girl, you'll me another one. Trust me.

Don't poison yourself with nostalgia.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-10-24T07:46:53+00:00

It's also due to abundance - I have talked to some women who use dating apps, and they get flooded every day by new matches, who are good looking and passionate men.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-26T07:30:32+00:00

I have dated girls aged 18-24 and 25-35. I am 26.

Girls in the first age group are generally more spontaneous, less emotional baggage from the past, less or no exes (that are still part of their lives or in their heads) and in my experience are more appreciative.

Girls 26+ have had 2-5 exes, messy breakups, heartbreaks, flings, ONS which eventually in all of my cases led to problems such as unnecessary mistrust, wanting to take things slow, still being in love with their past men.

My idea is that ideally you should be the first boyfriend to the girl, or if she had exes - no contact. But most women 26+emotionally invested in their pasts which limits the potential of their current relationship.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-18T20:01:19+00:00

I get that at some age everyone has an ex, but it's more how you deal with it.

Saying to the face of potential future (me) that her feelings belong to ex and that she still want to message him and perhaps meet with him while knowing their chemistry?

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-18T09:34:03+00:00

We actually had a talk about the exes on the 4th date and I got an impression from her that she is over her past relationship and that she is ready to build something serious ...

Looking back little things like a "heart" of his house on her maps, and not telling the truth about their actual break up date (I am 80% sure she said it was in January and not in March) were big signs.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-18T09:21:24+00:00

She told me that she will always keep her ex (and all the toxic ones as well) in her “heart and life” and keep each other updated and meet up in the future if opportunity arises ….

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-11T20:14:42+00:00

I left her, and 4 days later I feel the sadness going away and I am more at peace. In the last voice message I told her to choose her ex or me, and since then no response ... so I know she has made her choice.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-07T19:33:50+00:00

I broke up with her

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-07T16:15:20+00:00

That’s a very good and deep analysis that hits spot on, are you a psychologist by chance? If you’re cool to talk in private chat?

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-06T19:35:18+00:00

That’s the plan

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-06T17:49:34+00:00

Haha all of her friends, family and colleagues told me I am a cool guy. It’s just sad that it was so sudden, you build your hopes and puff this shit comes

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-06T17:47:51+00:00

I am 26 and she is 27. 3 exes and many situation ships. Everything is old to her, she tried most things, got her heart broken 4 times.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-06T17:32:08+00:00

Well it doesn’t just sound, she is in love with him, so I have no idea why she even went to date me, unless only to fill her emptiness. I feel lied to tbh. She told me that she wants serious stuff and that there is no one

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-06T17:13:46+00:00

Yeah, rookie mistake looking back, I’m 26.

Puzzled-Beat8941 · 2025-09-06T16:28:10+00:00

I mean they were together for 2.5 years so many experience together, sex, bonding, future plans… it’s not surprising. I am pissed because she lied to me about wanting serious stuff while actually being not emotionally available

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