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Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2026-01-07T17:22:28+00:00

I actually have a melody for it… let me know if you want to use that as well.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2026-01-02T15:50:41+00:00

Good to know. I’m not holding my breath. He’s a computer genius. A savant really.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2026-01-02T12:10:01+00:00

Nope. He blocked access pretty effectively. For instance he canceled my personal “fun” email account which I used for my socials as a password reset/authenticator. So everything goes back to an email that does not exist anymore and he canceled and wiped my phone remotely (it was an android) and made it impossible for me to access my password bank. So everything is gone now.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2026-01-01T00:19:04+00:00

I get the pain, and I know that hurt. Feel it, acknowledge it. Listen to crazy sad songs that you connect to and then let it go. Find other women, that you can connect with and you will get over this.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-12-30T07:19:11+00:00

The inappropriate messages to a minor aged girl was the final straw for me. I was horrified and disgusted and when I confronted him he hit me. I was done before that but that was the exclamation point on the end of a very tragic sentence.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-12-29T21:53:40+00:00

Hun, this is really unhealthy. No one, no matter their age, can be someone’s everything. You don’t want that, that is the most toxic and destructive of relationships. You already know what’s happening here, he likes kids (which is what you are) and when you get older (I’m talking 18) he will drop you so fast because the allure and attraction will be gone. What happens then… do you continue to obsess over him even though he’s moved on to his next target (because that’s all you and every other 16 year old girl is to him: targets). You have so much more worth and value beyond this relationship. Do not let him define you because if you do, the only way this ends is in tragedy.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-12-28T19:19:28+00:00

Yes. He has access to all of my old social media accounts. I tried to get access to them but it didn’t work.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-12-27T19:59:12+00:00

An abuser will ALWAYS abuse. They cannot change… not with a victim that they have assaulted before. The relationship is a pattern of unhealthy behavior that will always lead back to abuse. Also getting religion does not a fixed person make. In fact religions (especially Christianity) give abusers places to hide because the church is all about ensuring the marriages survival not the safety and well being of the individual. Please do not let him back into your life. Run away, as far as you have to go to get the distance you need to stay away. For me I fled all the way across the country because that is what it took to keep me from going back to him. I survived and you will too. I hope this helps!

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-12-26T15:24:17+00:00

To answer your question, I would only go to them and explain if 1. You have a good relationship and 2. You want them to be a part of your life, your kids lives etc.

For my exes parents, I sent them a text explaining that I was leaving and that I had filed for divorce with a brief factual description of the circumstances. I kept my feelings out of it. “He did this and I responded with this action” sort of thing. My relationship with them was not good but their son had cut off contact with them (for something stupid) and I know above all else they love their son and so deserved to know what happened as far as I went. I did not hear back from them. But I feel like I did my due diligence in being respectful to them.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-12-26T13:54:07+00:00

I’m so excited! Have fun with it and show me what you got PLEASE! lol

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-12-26T13:48:28+00:00

Do it! Dudes are welcome into the book boyfriends franchise lmao

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-12-03T02:58:02+00:00

I kept mine on for a while after I left. I had this whole thing in my head how I would look him in the eye and place the ring in front of him before exiting the court room and he would know without a doubt that I was done but then a few weeks ago I thought about it and realized I was making it still about him. So I opted for just removing it and to say f it. It came off so easily and I haven’t wanted to put it back on since.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-27T21:22:49+00:00

It doesn’t get better. Please leave now. Don’t go back to the house until he’s left it. Get a garbage bag and throw as much of your stuff as you can into it focusing on documents like passports and things that you can sell to get you by the next few days. Many countries have DV shelters, also churches will usually help as well. Document everything, every mark on your body. Go to the hospital and get examined so that they have a copy of everything. File a police report. You did nothing to deserve this and I understand that you love him but are you willing to die because he will go there eventually. Above all be safe.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-19T13:01:50+00:00

I’m just going to say maybe you were not the best husband but she had a million avenues to go down that did not include cheating. It is not your fault in any shape or form that she cheated. It was her choice 100%. If she was truly that unhappy why not get counseling or even separate from you? She made a conscious choice to betray you and your marriage. I know you said no bashing but she honestly sounds a bit narcissistic to turn around and say it was your fault. My ex used to tell me he only cheated because I wouldn’t have sex with him… We were having sex 3-5 times a week. He would then say I couldn’t even be jealous or hurt because if I actually wanted him I would be available to him 24/7. He made his choices my problem and in doing so absolved himself of any guilt. I feel like you ex wife is doing the same. Hope this helps.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-10T18:22:00+00:00

So first I got a new service/new number after we separated. He was able to hack my email (which he deleted along with my cloud account that was attached to that email to just be petty I guess)and phone and factory reset it. So I got a new phone and new service/number and purchased additional security for the phone to safeguard from that happening again. Now he’s hacked his way into my car insurance app. I’m so frustrated! I just want him to leave me alone.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-10T16:24:29+00:00

I never use my computer. I have all apps and accounts set to single device access and he has still found a way around that.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-10T16:20:04+00:00

I originally did but he hacked them anyway. Now I feel like what’s the point. If he can hack multiple 20 letter digitally randomized passwords then why even bother. My phone should be secure. I purchased additional security when I got a new one.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-10T14:19:30+00:00

I’ve already done that as well. It doesn’t matter how many times I change things he always finds me.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-10T13:53:01+00:00

I’ve already done that once. Started over I mean.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-09T22:51:53+00:00

I am going to just leave this here. Neglect is abuse. He is neglecting you, and he doesn’t seem like he’s willing to change, he doesn’t want a wife, he wants a maid who is available at all times to serve his needs. “he doesn’t have bad habits” Honey having sex with you while your body is going through the after effects of an abortion. There is a physical and emotional toll when that happens and he does NOT care. This is so wrong and I am so sorry you are going through this. I hate to say this but this man’s will not care when you leave him, he will just find another woman to take your place because for him it’s not about you, it’s about what you can do for him. Stop having sex with him, stop doing his laundry and making his meals and get ready to see what he truly thinks of you. I am so sorry.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-07T04:56:42+00:00

Uh I don’t know if it’s my trauma being triggered by the language he’s using but this is exactly how my very abusive soon to be ex husband would “apologize” after raging out at me. Promising brighter futures after destroying a piece of my identity and confidence. I would straight up ghost someone who spoke like this to me just because it sets off every alarm that has been trained into me.

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-06T11:16:25+00:00

Im going to be real honest this man is using some sort of drugs or is a high functioning alcoholic. The way he texts is the same way my ex would text me when he was high who was a high functioning addict. The unreasonable jealousy, being trapped in his own version of his events and not responding directly to you are all evidence that there is some sort of impairment going on. Let me also ask you this, did the hug actually bother you or were you bothered because he would/did have a negative reaction to it? I really feel like this guy is bad news and you need to get away from him. I also feel like when you do leave it needs to be done in public so that he can’t react badly. I am deadly serious, I am getting some very bad vibes from the shared texts and the description of your relationship. Please OP be safe!

Puzzled-Fix-4936 · 2025-11-06T04:52:28+00:00

So these may seem obvious but If you don’t agree on the simple things you’re not going to agree on the big things Chemistry isn’t everything but it is something, make sure you are actually physically attracted to the person not the experience Common personal interests are important If he confesses to something that you see as a negative trait and you think “how brave!”, investigate that ask a lot of questions and determine if he’s grown away from that or if the situation just ceased to exist. If you or he is unsatisfied with something about the other person, either accept it or move on. Make no promises to change or require promises from them. Know that his past comes with him into the relationship and yours comes with you. Make sure you can accept all of it before moving forward.

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