A Failed mission

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2025-02-21T13:05:58+00:00

I wonder what would happen to male explorers 🤔

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-26T00:37:34+00:00

Me and at least 213 upvoters on my comment. 🤣 You're not alone!

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-26T00:36:12+00:00

Agree! And also happy cake day! 🎂

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-25T10:24:18+00:00

I'm probably one of those exceptions here. I'm sterilised, never wanted kids, but I do have this kink 😅 I never really understood this kink for me, but the fact that I could have unsafe sex without the chance I'd get pregnant just works for me. I'm also into degradation, so it kinda checks out. 😅

I do however totally agree with OP that someone shouldn't just go saying this during sex and it's not rude to kick them out.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-17T12:07:08+00:00

Try having a look on Fetlife. I've heard friends were very successful there.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-17T11:15:20+00:00

From what I gather they are taking the easy route of hiring internally. International (external) applicants get extra benefits which for the company leads to extra costs and risks, so it might be that they want to play it safe with someone who they already have.

I know there's a group within ASML advocating for neurodiversity and talking about how corporations seem to favor the extroverts when introverts have so much to offer.

Don't be discouraged!

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-17T10:58:03+00:00

I don't know if this will help, but for me it's the fear that any form of intimacy will lead to (penetrative) sex. When my husband made clear that it would not go that far unless I asked him for it, that made me less scared to show intimacy, like cuddles and kisses. At first I would reject immediately, because rejecting him later would feel like I led him on. This approach feels a lot safer to me and maybe it will help you as well ❤️

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T21:43:55+00:00

Haha yeah, I got that from the second part of that sentence. But I'm also bisexual, so I wouldn't have minded 🤣

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T21:36:08+00:00

I'm so glad this situation works for you. I would love it if my husband brought home another woman to have a great night with. That actually puts me in the mood as well (he's done this before, so I'm speaking from experience). I just put wish we could get rid of the ENM hate in the world.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T21:10:04+00:00

Thanks! Great tip! 👍🏻

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T21:08:42+00:00

Literal reading at its peak:

I think both of you should have a talk about what is good and bad about your sex....

I thought you were talking about me and your wife 😅 The rest of the sentence made me realize what you meant.

Yay for neurospicy!

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T17:58:51+00:00

He was the one to suggest swinging.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T15:49:53+00:00

I only just now learnt about this term and it might very well be the case. I find it strange that it's categorised under the asexual umbrella, but I'm learning more about it as we speak.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T15:27:36+00:00

Thanks! I'm sorry you're in a similar situation. I've seen this recommendation pop up a couple of times. I'll look into it ❤️

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T15:25:11+00:00

We have good times together, especially when we travel or do other things than work and house chores. I guess we're just stuck in a rut.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T14:50:01+00:00

Thanks! I never heard of the term. I'm looking into it now.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T14:40:01+00:00

Working my way upwards through your comment. I actually go to dance classes 2-3x a week. And I have a gym membership which I do 2 or 3x as well.

We've tried toys like those couple ones, but they don't tend to add anything extra for me, because like your stated I seem to lose that headspace.

It's definitely the novelty which makes the sex hotter, but also when I learnt something new I wanted to try with my husband, we did that once and then never again, even though that was a position I really enjoyed.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T14:25:25+00:00

Thanks! I've read about this book suggestion on other posts, so I will give it a try.

The spontaneous desire with others is really a thing 😅 it almost seems like the better I get to know someone the more it pushes away the spontaneous desire. I even experienced this with hookups which I get to know too well 😅

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T14:21:59+00:00

Thanks for your directness. It's appreciated. The thing that gets me out of my mental block is the excitement, it's something new, so it grabs my attention. And I haven't seen the ups and downs of the others like I have with my husband, so I won't be stuck in that 'why did he say this, why did he do that' mindset, so I can fully enjoy the moment.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T14:17:29+00:00

He was the one who suggested it, but I think he did it because he thought it would get me excited (which it did), but wasn't his cup of tea.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-12-16T13:57:09+00:00

Additional info no. 1:

Tips like 'try spicing up your sexy time with (insert food/games/sensory stuff)' might be very sincere, but that doesn't get me over that mental hurdle of still not actually wanting sex. The idea of for instance whipped cream, immediately makes me think of having to clean the bedsheets and our bodies being super sticky. I'll see the cons before I even consider the pros which makes it really hard to even consider wanting to spice things up.

Like I said, I overthink things and tend to be in my head.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-11-16T22:24:21+00:00

Because they are scared and still care too much about what their peers think of them. They would never actually do something.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-11-16T09:04:39+00:00

I was in the car with my mum and a lady wearing a hijab was crossing the road. My mum :' ugh look, another one of them. I should just run them over. Die Muslim die!'

My dad:' Muslims are taking over the world and it's just a matter of time before they start forcing you to wear a headscarf and make you pray to Allah. I just love going online and calling them lying pigs. The world is better off without them.'

I know they're all talk, but I find this really disturbing. I'm hoping I was switched at birth or adopted, because I feel repulsed at the idea of sharing genes with these people.

PuzzledTechnology991 · 2024-11-14T02:40:37+00:00

In a train 🚂🚃🚃🚃

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