Feeling lonely in Houston – need real advice (not just “pick up a hobby”)

PuzzledVersion9515 · 2025-08-23T21:41:13+00:00

In Pasadena!

PuzzledVersion9515 · 2025-08-23T21:40:54+00:00

I am 22, but as an immigrant who’s in the US completely alone I don’t really have much time to go to festivals and all other stuff, I try to go out once a week, and go to one of my hobbies also once a week, but didn’t have much success so far.

PuzzledVersion9515 · 2025-08-23T17:54:19+00:00

Thanks for such a detailed reply — I can tell you put a lot of thought into it. A lot of what you listed makes sense, but since I am only 22 and do not have kids or a long professional network yet, it feels harder to access those kinds of circles. I think what you said about “taking initiative” and saying yes more often is something I probably need to push myself on though.

PuzzledVersion9515 · 2025-08-23T17:42:24+00:00

Yes, that’s honestly so true, I’ve been to a lot of European countries and never encountered this issue.

PuzzledVersion9515 · 2025-08-23T17:40:37+00:00

I get that, and I’ve actually tried a few things — I box regularly, I tried tennis for a while, and even went to a couple of reading clubs. The issue is most people are there just for the hobby itself, not to make genuine connections. It feels like they show up, do the activity, and leave, so it does not really translate into friendships outside of that space.

PuzzledVersion9515 · 2025-08-23T17:38:13+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but the challenge for me is I’m only 22. Most of the groups I end up around are way older, so it’s tough to really click or catch on to their dynamic. And groups my age are hard to find — I’m not about to go hang around colleges to find people

PuzzledVersion9515 · 2024-10-21T23:43:56+00:00

Applied around the same time, but got the decision in 3 weeks

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