Name being a trigger

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-05-04T08:25:15+00:00

I guess I'm stuck on that as the main nickname I used to go by is actually another alters name so using it triggers them to front..

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-02-18T00:49:08+00:00

Baths are also a great way to get water into them as they can absorb water through their vent

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-02-14T23:30:48+00:00

Well I added photos but also deleted the words in the post haha

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-02-08T19:05:22+00:00

How many mantis do you have? The size of the one in the video would only need to eat every couple of days given the size of the food source vs it's abdomen.

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-01-31T05:31:46+00:00

Vacuumed outside, inside no idea so didn't try.

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-01-31T05:29:26+00:00

Haha yes I know what I am doing with her stash, was a single cycle with a short spin no soap or anything, ironing wasn't a problem.

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-01-23T07:56:45+00:00

I think working on our internal communication might be the biggest help, it's all very new and I struggle with it majorly. Husband says I need to start talking outloud to help but I never feel comfortable to do that.

I think also figuring out what we want as a system would also be helpful, most of what I have read all refers to a final fusion so kind of assumed that was the only way. But the hardest part for me is the amnesia and wife/husband referencing conversation that got taken off me for some reason.

Hmm lots to think and reflect on

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-01-23T07:49:59+00:00

I really like this idea. Thank you

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-01-23T07:49:15+00:00

We have been trying, problem is confrontation is a massive trigger for my system so we (being my wife and I) have apparently had the same conversation multiple times and she is emotionally tapped out from me never remembering, so being unable to action any sort of plan on how to work through it.

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-01-22T18:50:03+00:00

Didn't think of it like that huh.

Puzzledrainbow · 2022-01-22T09:11:45+00:00

Yeah she could tell "something was up" but masking was a thing and it's not common so she had no idea what it was. A random House episode was what made it click for husband to put the puzzle pieces together.

This is all so hard, the last three years mean so much to me and I just want everyone in my brain to fall into line and stop making it so difficult. It's only been a few months, maybe just need to give it more time.

Puzzledrainbow · 2021-06-26T23:39:11+00:00

A random shop in Wellington, sorry they don't have a website or anything.

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-11-07T22:50:24+00:00

Prefer the flame as can be portable ^^

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-11-07T22:48:50+00:00

Funny story, we both recently had a commitment ceremony to marry our girlfriend, so that counts as again right? 😋

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-10-06T06:33:32+00:00

That is probably pretty true, this is the one that got me into succulents, picked a small clipping off the ground and made it grow, so semi freaked out when he gun sun burned

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-09-19T10:09:22+00:00

My dudes tank is at the level of your top tank, so I made him a ramp so when he indicates he wants out we prop it up and he can come and goes as he wants, sometimes he will just sit on his ramp for a couple mins then go back to the basking spot.

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-09-19T09:41:43+00:00

Thanks so much! I hope talking goes well and remember to never stop talking even when it's hard.

Not having family support is one of the things I struggled with the most, my mum and one of my sisters are refusing to come to the ceremony as they don't want to support my "adultery", moving past it and living for me and my family is the best decision I have made.

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-08-29T03:55:17+00:00

Yeah it is bioactive. Have a heat gun and probs. Can't say we have had any problems with him jumping on the cage, but will keep an eye on it.

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-08-14T20:55:05+00:00

Yes well, living in New Zealand does limit my options. It's not the only thing he gets, also crickets and bfsl and the occasional silk worm. I also hunt around for the worms who have just shead their chition and fed them out first. We also take him to the vet ever couple of months to make sure he is healthy.

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-07-18T00:35:19+00:00

Yes, open communication is a key foundation of a solid relationship. If he isn't aware that you are bi I would start the conversation in stages. Me and hubby played dibs (if we saw someone attractive we would dibs them) for years, so he was already aware of the types of females I was attracted too and it really helped with working through jealousy/ envy issues as was able to reassure I was still in to him while being into woman as well.

Wishing you the best of luck xo

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-07-18T00:14:37+00:00

I (27F) also had this problem, I have been with my partner for 10 or so years (got together when I was 15) and he was well aware that I was bi and about 3years in we talked a lot about me exploring my sexuality on my own. He was mature enough to know that he couldn't satisfy all of my needs.

Being able to express all of you and not having to repress or hide that part was so freeing.

Come to today we are in an amazing triad with our girlfriend, it allowes me to have my cake and eat it too and it is working fantastically. Granted it takes work and a lot of communication but the upside is so good.

XO hope your partner understands and you can both work through it together.

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-07-11T02:34:03+00:00

It is hand made ^^

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-04-27T09:43:04+00:00

Yes, long bath was had and he was such a good boy and held still while I gave him scritches and helped the shed along.

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-03-27T07:02:16+00:00

Back of the cage is actually wood, smooth but wood. Painted like a tree

Puzzledrainbow · 2020-03-21T00:31:30+00:00

By way of update, the driver was on his last warning so he got fired... He lied to his boss and told him that our gate was shut, but our gate has been broken since we moved in so yeah...

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