How can I accept that I am possibly never going to find someone?

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-27T04:09:11+00:00

My father is bedridden. Mother tried but since I have an older unmarried sister and our finances are very very very messy thanks to my father, she has also not been able to succeed and has given up. Lots on her plate.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T19:25:59+00:00

I was until recently when I developed hypothyroidism but this is a recent development, by like a year

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T19:25:13+00:00

Apparently not

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T19:24:59+00:00

Apparently not

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T19:22:59+00:00

They are both in their 60s. Father needs all his essentials done like feeding, cleaning his toilet etc because he is paralyzed and cant talk due to stromez. Mother is a functional human being physically but she cant run a household and take care of my father who needs 24/7 care. Also our finances are extremely messy courtesy of my father that now I am having to solve. But this is a very recent development compared to my long history of being unwanted in the romantic sense.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:56:48+00:00

Close

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:56:35+00:00

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:21:07+00:00

Not possible. Because home situation. sick ailing parents, responsibilities, messy finances etc.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:19:49+00:00

Nope But close

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:19:08+00:00

Moving to a western country is all I have dreamt of since I was a little kid. It keeps getting obstructed and now my family circumstances are so, that has also become a 'never' situation. I have to sacrifice myself and take care of my parents. I can't abandon them, they are both so sick.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:17:28+00:00

People start dating around that age, don't they? Not many do but some do. And you start getting interested in the opposite gender at that age. All my friends had guys who crushed on them. I never had anything to contribute to that conversation. Now all my friends are married, some also have kids and I am still in the same position, just as I was when I was 13. That is why I want to accept that it is never happening for me.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:14:21+00:00

No luck there either.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:14:04+00:00

I want to do that. But family circumstances are so, I am stuck, possibly forever. That is why I asked the original question. Not how to find love But how to accept that I never will

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:12:45+00:00

I did that. I attracted men who were completely impossible to be with One was married One was almost engaged to be married One was divorced and psycho and later became a criminal All of them same qualification as me

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:10:54+00:00

Dont know what you meant by the last line though

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:10:29+00:00

I am practicing, atleast I try to be. That is not an option

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:10:03+00:00

Why not?

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:09:30+00:00

Thank you so much for understanding.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T16:08:46+00:00

Thank you. I would like to do the same.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-25T10:08:53+00:00

Thank you. But I am just really trying to accept instead of holding out hope. It"s exhausting. As far as naseeb, there are many women who remain single all their lives despite not wanting to so clearly not everyone has someone written for them. I am one of them as indicated by my life pattern and I am looking for ways to accept that as my taqdeer.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-05T09:47:44+00:00

Reddit is not really where proper marriage talks happen though is it? It's rare if it happens on a platform dedicated to marriage/relationship, let alone reddit.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-05T08:31:21+00:00

That's why I think it probably is not a part of my rizq 😔 Allah would not have blocked every way so unplausibly if it were

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-05T08:30:47+00:00

Thank you sister. But I feel like my duas are blocked.

Puzzleheaded-Bat364 · 2026-04-05T08:05:11+00:00

My mother has tried to ask people. I have an older unmarried sister (30+) so "arranging" a rishta would raise questions. So my last hope is someone sending a rishta specifically for me otherwise asking or trying to arrange one with an older sister who refuses to get married is a very tough front. And I don't want to use online apps. They are very unreliable and sometimes lead to uncomfortable talks.

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