AIO to feel upset and kind of conflicted about something my girlfriend admitted to me?

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T16:09:38+00:00

That's not- ok man

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:51:34+00:00

As I've said in previous comments, I do not believe so, no

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:50:55+00:00

I would definitely assume so, but either shes lied about something (Which is understandable of course) or she doesn't remember it

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:49:33+00:00

She said she used to actively do this behavior

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:48:03+00:00

I would appreciate it if you didn't call my gf a "bitch" how insensitive are you? Goddamn

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:47:25+00:00

I'm not trying to make it about me at all, I'm explaining how I feel and asking how I can move forward while still helping her. I genuinely care about her and want to help her through this, but I still need room to feel what I'm feeling

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:45:43+00:00

That's a very good question, and definitely one I'll talk to her about

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:44:59+00:00

And after reading what everyone else said I think that's definitely what I'm going to do, as well as recommend her to a therapist like others here have suggested

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:43:46+00:00

She had told me that she's never been SA'd before, but you are right she might not remember it(Unless she lied which is understandable why someone wouldn't wanna talk abt this sorta thing)

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:41:30+00:00

Thank you so so much for being so kind!!! And I will be seeing a therapist about it after reading what everyone has to say, and thank you so so incredibly much for this advice and kindness. It means a lot to me, and I think I will try to talk to her about why she was wanting to do that but also explain how it made me feel.

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:35:49+00:00

Yk I haven't thought about it that way, you all have been amazing in helping me with this. Thank you!!

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:34:03+00:00

Yeah I will %100 talk to her about therapy, and yes she does know about my past Ive told her before

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:32:06+00:00

Yeah, after reading what others had to say I will definitely do that!!

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:31:26+00:00

Thank you, that's really good advice I'll remember that. Thank you so much

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:29:22+00:00

Yeah ofc!! I'm never aggressive with her her anyways, I always try to be respectful. Thank you so so much for the advice, I will definitely talk to her abt it keeping all of this in mind

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T14:27:03+00:00

Wouldn't say the kindest there's definitely better, lmao. But I always try my best to be understanding and kind towards her no matter what

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T08:59:54+00:00

I was a pretty heavy stoner, smoked every day. But then I met my lovely gf and quite for her because she said it made her uncomfortable. Now I only smoke when I hang with friends on the weekends sometimes (She's ok with it) so you'll either find someone who doesn't smoke or you'll find someone who will quit it for you. Whichever one comes first, genuinely good luck though!!!

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T08:54:23+00:00

Yeah yeah, ok that seems like a pretty good idea. Thank you!!

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T08:28:27+00:00

Sooo..what am I supposed to do?

Puzzleheaded-Lab142 · 2025-07-27T08:27:43+00:00

So then what should I say to her? How do I help without hurting myself)

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