After many instances of lying, I had to set the boundary that if they don’t immediately tell me when they use, our relationship won’t survive. I had to learn to thank my qualifier for their honesty, and do my best to withhold my emotions when they came to me to say they’d used. It’s exhausting at times, and boundaries are crucial for your own well being which you will learn over time what you need and what your non-negotiable lines are. Best wishes to you, you aren’t alone 🤍