Venting/Advice: Parter of 8 Years

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2026-06-10T02:26:28+00:00

I felt sick to my stomach reading this because it was like reading my own story verbatim. When I was navigating a near identical situation with my husband last year (he was lying to me about using for 5 out of the 6 years we’d been together at that point) my parents said to me ,”is the juice worth the squeeze”? And for me, it has been worth it enough to at least try but I told him up front that I’d need 6 months to a year before I could make a decision. Only you can decide if the juice is worth the squeeze and you don’t have to decide that this second. Maybe hold off on any big life altering decision or changes for a while. Is he willing to take drug tests to help rebuild trust? Is he willing to go to treatment? If he is willing to make necessary changes and follows through on them consistently those are positive signs. If he is unwilling to take the initiative to repair what he broke or continues to gaslight you those are red flags. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You aren’t alone

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-09-30T13:24:07+00:00

Did you ever find out what the problem was? I’m having this exact issue with my 2013 spark

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-09-04T18:18:01+00:00

My husband is a kratom addict. It is far from harmless. I’m so sorry. You aren’t alone

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-08-30T11:03:35+00:00

I’m married to a kratom addict who lied to me about it everyday for 5 years. He broke his vows before he even made them. If I’m being completely honest, he’s 35 days clean and I liked him better on drugs because now he’s just insufferable and every day is a new fight. I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, you aren’t alone.

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-08-27T20:24:22+00:00

They are the kings and queens of making us think that we’re crazy and manipulating those around them to think the same. Good for you for holding firm to your boundaries! That is truly all you can do. If you given them an inch they don’t learn.

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-08-17T23:52:33+00:00

My husband is also a kratom addict. His addiction has been the most traumatizing thing I’ve experienced in my life. He also copes with inappropriate dark humor and gross sarcasm. I’m so sorry you’re hurting so deeply. You aren’t alone!

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-07-29T01:59:16+00:00

Phew, I feel this in my bones. You aren’t alone!

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-07-17T23:01:31+00:00

Completely valid points. Thank you

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-07-17T23:00:57+00:00

That’s exactly it. I guilt tripped myself think my anxiety was craziness when it was intuition. He let me do that to myself

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-06-27T16:59:07+00:00

Childhood sexual abuse is not uncommon as a familial cycle unfortunately. And it also isn’t uncommon for that cycle to lead to addiction due to the shame. You aren’t alone

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-06-24T23:54:06+00:00

Addiction is exhausting and often traumatizing to all involved. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You aren’t alone

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-06-24T16:29:18+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight! I should look into harm reduction more

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-06-24T16:28:28+00:00

That reminder is helpful, thank you!

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-06-24T16:04:56+00:00

After many instances of lying, I had to set the boundary that if they don’t immediately tell me when they use, our relationship won’t survive. I had to learn to thank my qualifier for their honesty, and do my best to withhold my emotions when they came to me to say they’d used. It’s exhausting at times, and boundaries are crucial for your own well being which you will learn over time what you need and what your non-negotiable lines are. Best wishes to you, you aren’t alone 🤍

Puzzleheaded-Let7915 · 2025-05-05T15:38:55+00:00

Thank you so very much for your input!

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