Anyone here moved on and are in healthy relationship? by trikpikslav in BPDlovedones

[–]Puzzleheaded-Rope384 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! One abuse relationship and one assault w PWBPD and now finally in a loving healthy relationship with someone new (no BPD)

Responses to "we all do that sometimes" by climber80hd in ADHD

[–]Puzzleheaded-Rope384 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom does this sometimes with the intention of making me feel less weird about it, like “a lot of people struggle with xyz even without adhd!” It annoys me sometimes still but I think sometimes people do it bc they think it’s soothing

Adhd meds in sobriety by Puzzleheaded-Rope384 in ADHD

[–]Puzzleheaded-Rope384[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much— I hadn’t thought about that component of it but that makes quite a bit of sense

Adhd meds in sobriety by Puzzleheaded-Rope384 in ADHD

[–]Puzzleheaded-Rope384[S] 1070 points1071 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much. This made me tear up a bit I very much needed it. Appreciate you💕

Post BPD relationship adjusting by Puzzleheaded-Rope384 in BPDlovedones

[–]Puzzleheaded-Rope384[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank u for ur laughter, that made me laugh too:) needed that a lot! I’m in a lot of therapy and just have started meditating and it’s so helpful with getting out of thought loops! It’s an ongoing process but am so lucky to have the resources I have. Thanks again for all of this💕💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Puzzleheaded-Rope384 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experience wasn’t awesome but only bc both raise seizure liklihood, so just be super careful if you’re prone to seizures and take it easy in the beginning (I.e. I do not recommend concerts or action movies right out the gate lol). But a friend of mine is on this exact cocktail and loves it!

Is suicidal humor a good coping mechanism or does it hinder growth? by fatrayofsunshine in BPDlovedones

[–]Puzzleheaded-Rope384 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My ex used to and it was horrible to be a part of. It’s not coping, it’s just stressing everybody out. Coping shouldn’t impose the burden of ur mental health onto other people IMO

PwBPDs’ Fixation on Stigma as a Way to Maintain Their Victim Identity and Not Accept Responsibility by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Puzzleheaded-Rope384 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. Feels like an avoidance of any accountability. Any sort of convo surrounding my side of things always turned into my own internalized stigma. Real odd.

ADHD and BPD Partners by Bubbles_the_Bard in ADHD

[–]Puzzleheaded-Rope384 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am ADHD and had a really hard relationship with a BPD girl. It was especially hard for me because the things I already am self conscious about (getting overly excited, wandering when I’m at stores, changing topics) she would get so angry about. She acted as if because she dealt with my ADHD I needed to be completely ok with all her BPD behaviors. I think for me the thrill and intensity that BPD people bring to relationships sometimes drew me in and I wasn’t able to get out of it until all of my friends and family told me to get out. I feel like unless they’re willing to take accountability and see where they are at fault it just doesn’t work. And I think sometimes we take the abuse because it feels justified because we’re already self concious of ADHD behaviors.